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It has been a while since I had a 1 yo. The 1 yo dcb I have I have had since he was 4 months. He was extremely colicky, and is now very high needs. I can't put him down or he screams. I have an area in the living room blocked off for the 3 and unders with lots of toys. He does not play at all. He goes from trying to get out of the living room and succeeding some times and getting really mad when I put him back, to scratching on the fireplace screen (electric fireplace), to shaking the gates and screaming bloody murder. He wants to be held all the time. Then he wants down for 30 seconds or so and then wants right back up. He doesn't play with toys at all. He might chew on a toy, but not for long and then he is screaming again. If I can't be sitting on the floor with him waiting for when he wants to be held he loses it. My boys were high maintenence but I think this little guy may be more extreme. Or seems more so because I have a bunch of other kids to take care of?
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Oh, honey!!!
You don't have a typical 1 year old. You have a rage baby.
Oh, Nan......
I know you can explain this better than me....:
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I do know the only fix for this is consistant gravity therapy and time. Good luck, and ((HUGS)))
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It sounds like he has seperation anxiety. I have been thru several daycare children, that have had this, and it is definately not fun at all!! Needless to say, I have only kept a couple of them. I give them the probationary period, and possibly a little bit longer, and if they aren't any better- I had to terminate. I had 2 of them while I was pregnant, making my BP go sky high. It's so not worth it to you or your other daycare children.Comment
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I agree.
For other dc providers who have 6 month olds and older in your care.....lots and lots of tummy time and self soothing opportunities or this may be your destiny!
Good luck!Comment
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I have a 13 month old right now, who spends her time like this:
Walks around to each group/child, watching what they are doing and occasionally taking something they are playing with.
Gathers small objects into a pail, and distributes them to the other kids, one at a time.
She loves blocks, and will spend quite a bit of time stacking and knocking them down.
Occasionally will ask to sit on my lap for a few minutes, then is down and gone again.
She feeds herself for the most part, and drinks from a sippy cup.
She has just a couple of words so far, but babbles quite a bit.
She sleeps well, and is on a regular schedule here.
She doesn't fuss much, mostly when she's tired.
This is pretty typical of the majority of 1 year old kids I've had, at least.Comment
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Catherder, that was an amazing post; thank you for pointing to it. I wish you all had told me I had a rage baby when I was pulling my hair out! I think you tried to, but I didn't listen.Oh, honey!!! You don't have a typical 1 year old. You have a rage baby.
Oh, Nan......
I know you can explain this better than me....::
I do know the only fix for this is consistant gravity therapy and time. Good luck, and ((HUGS)))
Check out:
https://www.daycare.com/forum/showth...highlight=rage
I was so glad to read that there is actually advice out there on how parents can educate themselves to prepare their kids for group daycare. Part of the decision to term my first client was her mom practices attachment parenting and it's obvious to me that it's not helping her daughter adjust to group care, which is all she claims she can afford. Before i termed, I got snippets of the realities of their life, which included a lot of screaming unless she was held or directly interacted with. Now that I've termed, apparently, she behaves like an angel at home and with other sitters when it's one-on-one care; it's just here that she screams.
It's a day vs. night comparison to my other client, who lets her baby fuss (within reason for his age), put him on formula immediately, and trained him to sleep in a crib from day one. There are also no drop in visits during the middle of the day for a quick breastfeeding or play session.
I thought long and hard after I had to term my first client, and decided that I need to only work with people who are willing to prepare their child for the realities of group care. I believe in attachment parenting, but only if that level of care can be maintained for that child until it's more independent. If a parent isn't open to the idea that their kid has to function as part of a group and there are no "special rules" that can be put into place for one kid on a regular basis, then I can't work with them.
To the OP: was this baby always like this? Is this his first DC situation? Sounds like he just has a difficult temperament. If I were you, I'd read the other post Catherder pointed to and then figure out how you can work with the parents to improve the situation.Comment
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Well, after a couple months of struggling with his colic, which was totally apparent to me, I asked the parents about his old provider and they said that she termed them because he was so fussy. I wish that I could do something to make him a happier little guy. He doesn't sleep either. He is just a miserable child. They have taken him off of milk to see if a possible milk allergy is causing his issues. I wish that were making a difference, but so far it isn't. I just don't want to term, but I just want peace. Maybe I can't have it both ways?!Catherder, that was an amazing post; thank you for pointing to it. I wish you all had told me I had a rage baby when I was pulling my hair out! I think you tried to, but I didn't listen.
I was so glad to read that there is actually advice out there on how parents can educate themselves to prepare their kids for group daycare. Part of the decision to term my first client was her mom practices attachment parenting and it's obvious to me that it's not helping her daughter adjust to group care, which is all she claims she can afford. Before i termed, I got snippets of the realities of their life, which included a lot of screaming unless she was held or directly interacted with. Now that I've termed, apparently, she behaves like an angel at home and with other sitters when it's one-on-one care; it's just here that she screams. It's a day vs. night comparison to my other client, who lets her baby fuss (within reason for his age), put him on formula immediately, and trained him to sleep in a crib from day one. There are also no drop in visits during the middle of the day for a quick breastfeeding or play session.
I thought long and hard after I had to term my first client, and decided that I need to only work with people who are willing to prepare their child for the realities of group care. I believe in attachment parenting, but only if that level of care can be maintained for that child until it's more independent. If a parent isn't open to the idea that their kid has to function as part of a group and there are no "special rules" that can be put into place for one kid on a regular basis, then I can't work with them.
To the OP: was this baby always like this? Is this his first DC situation? Sounds like he just has a difficult temperament. If I were you, I'd read the other post Catherder pointed to and then figure out how you can work with the parents to improve the situation.Comment
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You absolutely can NOT have it both ways! :: I wish I could tell you something different. But I tell you, I gave my screamer 5 months of my life, and I feel like I have post traumatic stress syndrome.
If you can't see any other way to help the little dude; if you've tried everything and he's just not getting used to tummy time, then term before your pressure goes up permanently.Comment
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That was a GREAT thread.Oh, honey!!! You don't have a typical 1 year old. You have a rage baby.
Oh, Nan......
I know you can explain this better than me....::
I do know the only fix for this is consistant gravity therapy and time. Good luck, and ((HUGS)))
Check out:
https://www.daycare.com/forum/showth...highlight=rage
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