Tattle Telling, "Mean Faces", And Hitting

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Good info.

[Annalee]

Most of my kids are 4 year old girls and I feel like the last couple of weeks I hear my name 350 times a day on average.

"Miss H ** touched me...** made a mean face..** said they weren't my friend..**HIT ME!!"

And the hitting/slapping is getting out of control.

I try to sit with them after the fact and talk about what they could have done differently instead of hitting but 2 seconds later there is more whinning/tattle telling and hitting.

I try and explain that they need to talk to each other and take care of their disagreements by talking and only include me if someone is at risk of getting hurt. But it never happens this way.

What do you do with constant tattling and hitting?

Advice desperately needed.

I made a tattle-box...covered a box with colored contact paper and glued craft eyes all over the outside....... Inside is a pair of binoculars (seeing), an old cordless phone (calling a friend to tell them), a camera (documentation), and a piece of paper and pencils. When the tattling starts, I tell them to look, see, and take a pic then to write it down and when I get a chance, I will check it out! Even though most can't write, they think they do and it actually has cut out the tattling.

[Annalee]

Tattling: I have them go tell the youngest walker in the room. That child IS the complaint department.

The older one gets to tattle and the youngest gets attention from the older kid.

Win win

I like this idea!

[WImom]

This is how I explain it to them too. When I think they are about to tattle, I say "Stop and think about what YOU can do to fix it."

Today at lunch, someone had their foot on another kids chair. The girl said, "MISS....." and immediately covered her mouth with her hand. Then, she said "I don't want to tattle!" She turned to the other kid and said, "Can you please move your feet?" He said "ok!" and moved them. She screamed, "MISS ****, I solved the problem!!!!"

Oh it was music to my ears that my 3s and 4s can handle that...sometimes at least::

I so wish that would happen here. Two boys I have will just keep doing what ever it because they know it bugs them!!

I also send the kids back to solve themselves. I usually have to step in when it's having to do with either of those boys.