What Do You Do With An Infant That..

[DancingQueen]

is only happy when held or being rocked.
Swing doesn't work. But car seat works as long as I keep moving it.
The minute I stop she screams.

I wear her when I can but she doesn't love the sling either.

The biggest problem is that she is exhausted constantly but startles with the slightest noises. She HATES noise.
You can see how that might be a problem for her being in a daycare.

This is the same infant that wasn't taking a bottle very well. She will take it for me now but the minute some noise comes up she pulls away from the bottle and screams for five minutes then calms and takes it again.
She sleeps fine then a noise and she startles and cries til I rock the seat again.

I knwo everyone has their own way of dealing with it and I would just like to hear everyone's thoughts and opinions so that I can come up with a plan that will work here for me.

[Live and Learn]

How old is she?

[DancingQueen]

3.5 months

[laundrymom]

Please tell me she is not sleeping in a car seat, swing, bouncer, or anywhere other than a crib or pnp with no blankets, pillows or toys

http://www.sids.org/

is only happy when held or being rocked.
Swing doesn't work. But car seat works as long as I keep moving it.
The minute I stop she screams.

I wear her when I can but she doesn't love the sling either.

The biggest problem is that she is exhausted constantly but startles with the slightest noises. She HATES noise.
You can see how that might be a problem for her being in a daycare.

This is the same infant that wasn't taking a bottle very well. She will take it for me now but the minute some noise comes up she pulls away from the bottle and screams for five minutes then calms and takes it again.
She sleeps fine then a noise and she startles and cries til I rock the seat again.

I knwo everyone has their own way of dealing with it and I would just like to hear everyone's thoughts and opinions so that I can come up with a plan that will work here for me.

[laundrymom]

Please tell me she is not sleeping in a car seat, swing, bouncer, or anywhere other than a crib or pnp with no blankets, pillows or toys

http://www.sids.org/

I'm sorry if I seem a bit OCD about this but my niece died of SIDS. It's personal to me.

[AfterSchoolMom]

Is she startling awake? Have you tried swaddling her?

Earlier in the year I had an infant very like this. I swaddled her and she slept right beside a large fan (pointed in the other direction, of course). It was loud, but the "white noise" usually kept her asleep for a very long time - she slept longer here than she did at home. She also wanted to be rocked, but as long as I used the fan, it wasn't necessary.

[DancingQueen]

I've tried swaddling - not working.

She is in a carseat in front of me sleeping at the moment. This is at mom's request. Mom would rather she not lie down in a pnp yet. Mom's best friend apparently had her newborn baby die at daycare. The final reasoning was SIDS She was lying on her back in pnp and rolled over. This is incredibly an recent incident which is why mom is a wreck about it. She just went back to work 1 1/2 weeks ago.

(I should add that I lost a niece and a nephew to SIDS - I am incredibly OCD about it - which is why this infant isn't more than an arms reach from me at every moment - it is why I choose to not let her CIO and it is why I choose to wear her as much as I do)

[DancingQueen]

It is almost as if she just isn't reaching that solid state of sleep. But basically if she isn't moving she's screaming.

[SilverSabre25]

Have you ever read "Happiest Baby on the Block"?

It sounds like she might benefit from some of the tips in that book.

Does she take a pacifier?

White noise really, really might help her get asleep/stay asleep.

Was she a preemie?

[DancingQueen]

I haven't read the book. But I'll check it out.

She won't take a pacifier (and remember is just barely taking a bottle - she's got to be pretty worked up to accept it).

she was not a preemie.

She just startles easily and it really upsets her. Regardless of wether she is awake or asleep or taking a bottle or anything else.

[Qpmomma]

Is she breastfed at home? If so, you may want to try other ways of feeding.

My baby (breastfed) was colicky. Daycare would put her in a vibrating bouncy seat and rock her with thier foot when feeding or takong care of the other babies. We also swaddled and did paci (which is probally why we had such a hard time breastfeeding in the beginning). Keep moving her. I know it's a pain, but that's the only thing that helped my baby.

[laundrymom]

My condolences to all of you. SIDS is such an ugly monster. I urge you to talk to mom about having baby in pnp or crib in arm reach of you instead of car seat. Sleeping in car seat is a risk factor for SIDS. I know the raw emotion involved in this subject. I hate very few things in life, SIDS is one. I am a passionate advocate for SIDS education and prevention. My attitude comes off mean sometimes but I promise I'm being abrupt out of concern, not spite.

[MG&Lsmom]

I wish I had some advice for you. that is exactly how the baby I started with last fall was. She startled awake at every little change in sound, temp, movement, etc. She was on formula and took a bottle just fine. But she never adjusted to group care and I termed her after 2 months. I won't Is she an only? Does she sleep in silence at home?

[Cat Herder]

I am a SIDS Mom...this child should not be sleeping in a carseat.

Please have the mom talk to her pediatrician asap.

Please check with your State as you could be held liable by allowing it in your home.

Tough situation, I know, but no need to make it worse.

Good luck, hun.

[Meeko]

Licensing here requires a baby be removed from a car seat as soon as they arrive...even if they are sound asleep.

My own youngest is 14 years old now...but had such bad reflux as an infant the doc TOLD me to have her sleep in her car seat. It helped a lot. I guess things change! My boys are in their late 20's and were always put down to sleep on their tummy's!!!!

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