"Angry" Update!

[Sugar Magnolia]

Kinda agree

Why do I get the impression that most of you run your daycares as drill sergeants? Why the attitudes? Don't you give any slack for your daycare parents? A granola bar? Really? It's not like he brought her with a stick of dynamite!

While I respect the original poster's right to have a "no food" policy and stick to it, I think Mandy has a great point about civility. All parents should be treated with the utmost professionalism. When I read the original "angry" post, I thought it was unfortunate that other providers were encouraging the angry poster to write nasty notes, tape, super glue, big red circles, door slamming, etc. This father pays(!) and deserves a calm, well thought out explanation of the policy, NOT a rude note. Nasty, taped up notes around a granola bar would be reason for any parent to seek alternate care. I would not let such a mean-spirited, easily angered and rude adult to be my child's caregiver. Rudeness is bad for business. That should be a no-brainer. If child care providers want to be treated like professionals, they need to behave accordingly.

[WDW]

While I respect the original poster's right to have a "no food" policy and stick to it, I think Mandy has a great point about civility. All parents should be treated with the utmost professionalism. When I read the original "angry" post, I thought it was unfortunate that other providers were encouraging the angry poster to write nasty notes, tape, super glue, big red circles, door slamming, etc. This father pays(!) and deserves a calm, well thought out explanation of the policy, NOT a rude note. Nasty, taped up notes around a granola bar would be reason for any parent to seek alternate care. I would not let such a mean-spirited, easily angered and rude adult to be my child's caregiver. Rudeness is bad for business. That should be a no-brainer. If child care providers want to be treated like professionals, they need to behave accordingly.

I'm pretty sure that the taped up note with the big red circle was a joke. I think most of us come here for support and to just vent to the only people who understand - other providers. I don't think anyone would ever actually do that kind of a note....

[Cat Herder]

I also think some PP may have missed the part where OP said DCD was standing in front of the sign stating "No Food" after having been counseled about it.

He purposely, knowingly, with a smirk on his face, defied the provider.

This was an adult behaving badly, not a miscommunication.

He was challenging her like a 3 year old. Of course she was angy, I was angry for her. How rude!!!

We were laughing with her, supporting her and diffusing until she was ready to deal with the issue.

THIS is our water cooler. We have no co-workers other than here.

[MyAngels]

I also think some PP may have missed the part where OP said DCD was standing in front of the sign stating "No Food" after having been counseled about it.

He purposely, knowingly, with a smirk on his face, defied the provider.

This was an adult behaving badly, not a miscommunication.

He was challenging her like a 3 year old. Of course she was angy, I was angry for her. How rude!!!

We were laughing with her, supporting her and diffusing until she was ready to deal with the issue.

THIS is our water cooler. We have no co-workers other than here.

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[SilverSabre25]

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me too!!!!!!!

[Meeko]

While I respect the original poster's right to have a "no food" policy and stick to it, I think Mandy has a great point about civility. All parents should be treated with the utmost professionalism. When I read the original "angry" post, I thought it was unfortunate that other providers were encouraging the angry poster to write nasty notes, tape, super glue, big red circles, door slamming, etc. This father pays(!) and deserves a calm, well thought out explanation of the policy, NOT a rude note. Nasty, taped up notes around a granola bar would be reason for any parent to seek alternate care. I would not let such a mean-spirited, easily angered and rude adult to be my child's caregiver. Rudeness is bad for business. That should be a no-brainer. If child care providers want to be treated like professionals, they need to behave accordingly.

All I did was give him back the granola bar with a big smile! He got the message that I was serious. I wouldn't have stayed in business for 25 years if I was not professional! But it was fun to talk about all the things I would like to do to him!

I came to the forum here to vent my frustrations and actually logged off with a grin on my face and a chuckle in my heart because of all the fun comments and support. That's the point....we can talk about hanging certain parents up by their toes and using them as a pinata and not really mean it...although wouldn't that be fun??....LOL!!!

[SilverSabre25]

I came to the forum here to vent my frustrations and actually logged off with a grin on my face and a chuckle in my heart because of all the fun comments and support. That's the point....we can talk about hanging certain parents up by their toes and using them as a pinata and not really mean it...although wouldn't that be fun??....LOL!!!

Exactly! It's fun to vent. It's HEALTHY and useful to do so.

Yesterday I was threatening to wrap my DD in duct tape and put her on the roof. She cracked up and thought it was the funniest thing in the world...because even at 3.5 she realizes that mommy isn't serious when she says that silly stuff. Funny how little kids sometimes understand what grown-ups can't see. The best part? I vented my frustrations, she laughed, I laughed, and we both felt better.

[Meyou]

Exactly! It's fun to vent. It's HEALTHY and useful to do so.

Yesterday I was threatening to wrap my DD in duct tape and put her on the roof. She cracked up and thought it was the funniest thing in the world...because even at 3.5 she realizes that mommy isn't serious when she says that silly stuff. Funny how little kids sometimes understand what grown-ups can't see. The best part? I vented my frustrations, she laughed, I laughed, and we both felt better.

I was driving two of my 12 year old's friends home yesterday and one of them was screeching in the backseat. I told my younger dd to tell the screecher what happens to kids that are loud in the car. She said Mama gets the bungy cords and straps you to the roof rack with a big grin on her face. ::