Night Time Accidents

[dEHmom]

Can anyone give me some advice please.

This is my 3rd child. My first 2 I had no troubles with this. A couple accidents and they started to figure out when they need to get up and go.

My DS is completely daytime potty trained, no accidents, always knows when he has to go, and gives himself enough time to get there. Even in public, and during super exciting play time, shopping etc.

But at nighttime, if we don't take him to the potty before we go to bed, and if DH doesn't take him when he leaves for work at 5am, then there are many times he has accidents. It's frustrating for me. He will not wear diapers and being that he is 3 + yo I don't want to start buying diapers for him. We cut out drinks after 6pm, and as I stated take him before we go to bed (about 1030 ish). He does not wake up. He will literally sleep through it, and in it. He will wake up almost damp and smelling like pee and if you ask him if he peed his bed he says no. He doesn't know he did it. He sleeps right through it.

We thought by now (hmm probably about 5 months already?) he'd learn to feel it at night and start getting up. I think he's just a super deep sleeper.


Any suggestions on how to get him to start waking up? Diapers, pullups, and everything else will not help him at all. And the accidents are sometimes 3 times a week, sometime once every 3 or 4 weeks. Sometimes he sneaks into the bathroom and drinks from the tap, so it's hard to control his fluid intake if he's doing this without us knowing.

[youretooloud]

I'm not sure exactly.. But, at least til age 6 it's totally normal. Beyond age six, it may not be "normal", but it's not uncommon.

Night time wetting has nothing to do with potty training. It has more to do with sleeping heavy. They dream they are going to the bathroom, and wet the bed.

Boys also tend to get up and pee in odd spots... like hampers or closets. They aren't being naughty. They just think they are going in the bathroom.

[dEHmom]

its just incredibly hard to get caught up and stay caught up on laundry when I'm CONSTANTLY having to wash and rewash comforters and bed sheets. It's also sad when he wakes up soaked to the bone in pee. ugh.

[kitkat]

DS #1 is 6 and is wet almost every night. Our ped. said she doesn't get concerned until 8-9 yrs old. I think it's more concerning to us. DS still wears a type of pull up called Good Nights. They are made for the bigger kids with night time issues. DS is a VERY sound sleeper. We tried getting him up at night and like your DS, he slept right through it. Plus, he was still wet in the AM. Cutting out liquids didn't help either. I think it's just something they figure out eventually. It just stinks (literally) in the mean time. Sorry I couldn't help.

[Meyou]

ONe of my girls was dry all night at barely two and the other was almost 5. It's one of those things that just happens on it's own I think. We just used pullups or good nights at night until they were dry for a month straight.

[youretooloud]

I would try underjams, or goodnights. Also, maybe you could put a waterproof cover over the sheet, then an old flat flannel sheet over that, and you won't have to wash all the bedding, just the flannel sheet.

[nannyde]

Perfectly normal. Could go on until he's around six.

I would be WAY more worried about interupted sleep and no liquids after six p.m. The amount of liquids and the timing of liquids won't help in any way.

I wouldn't allow him to decide about diapers. I would find whatever diaper or pull up that contained it... even double diaper him if you have to... and let him drink before bed and SLEEP thru the night.

Once he gets a bit older around fiveish... if it's still continuing... try this:

When it's WARM in the house have him sleep with a vinyl shower curtain (four bucks from Walmart) in between his mattress and his fitted sheet on his bed. That will protect his mattress and give you just the top sheet and bottom sheet to wash.

That way he won't be able to bulk anything up around himself. Once he starts peeing the pee will hit his legs... and he will wake from the uncomfortableness of it and the warmness of the pee hitting him.


(Have him sleep nekkid from the waist down... and the only "cover" he gets is a thin fulllsize sheet. Make sure his shirt top is not long... not hitting below his waist. NOTHING covers his lil John Thomas. )


It works REALLY well.

[dEHmom]

currently i have a shower curtain on the bed, to protect the mattress, but then the sheet and comforter still have to be washed after the accidents.

[dEHmom]

Perfectly normal. Could go on until he's around six.

I would be WAY more worried about interupted sleep and no liquids after six p.m. The amount of liquids and the timing of liquids won't help in any way.

I wouldn't allow him to decide about diapers. I would find whatever diaper or pull up that contained it... even double diaper him if you have to... and let him drink before bed and SLEEP thru the night.

Once he gets a bit older around fiveish... if it's still continuing... try this:

When it's WARM in the house have him sleep with a vinyl shower curtain (four bucks from Walmart) in between his mattress and his fitted sheet on his bed. That will protect his mattress and give you just the top sheet and bottom sheet to wash.

That way he won't be able to bulk anything up around himself. Once he starts peeing the pee will hit his legs... and he will wake from the uncomfortableness of it and the warmness of the pee hitting him.


(Have him sleep nekkid from the waist down... and the only "cover" he gets is a thin fulllsize sheet. Make sure his shirt top is not long... not hitting below his waist. NOTHING covers his lil John Thomas. )


It works REALLY well.

ha I one upped ya I paid 1 dollar for the shower curtain from dollar store .

I will try it, but my poor baby will freeze into an ice cube if he doesn't have a comforter, . we don't use sheets in the house. they just end up on the floor and get washed even though they are not used.

[nannyde]

ha I one upped ya I paid 1 dollar for the shower curtain from dollar store .

I will try it, but my poor baby will freeze into an ice cube if he doesn't have a comforter, . we don't use sheets in the house. they just end up on the floor and get washed even though they are not used.

It won't work if he has a thick blanket. You can try it but I'm certain it won't work. It has to be done at a time when the room air is warm so he just needs a thin sheet for privacy since he will be nekkid from the waist down.

[dEHmom]

It won't work if he has a thick blanket. You can try it but I'm certain it won't work. It has to be done at a time when the room air is warm so he just needs a thin sheet for privacy since he will be nekkid from the waist down.

yep, I will try this, it will start heating up shortly, but our nights are pretty cold, and our house is not air conditioned (central a/c I mean), so the rooms are pretty hot at night, but get really cold during the night.

I like this idea, and I will for sure give it a shot. I know he's slowly starting to realize it more, and get up and change when it happens. Last time he sat there crying at 230 am because he thought he wasn't allowed to go camping because he peed, so he tried to hide it (dh's fault)

[Mrs.Ky]

Night time wetting is completely different from daytime accidents. I know my first Son was 2 and half when potty trained but he wet the bed (pull up) till he was 3 and half, my little girl who was potty trained at 20 months old but didnt stay dry at night till 2 and half, and my other Son bless his heart is about to be 8 and still wets the bed and has to wear goodnites he is ADHD and the psychiatrist said there is a possiable link between ADHD and bed wetting other reasons are children have small bladders, or some children sleep so deep they dont get the message when they have to pee and therefore wet the bed. Dont worry about it your Son is still young he will get it.

ADD: I would like to add bed wetting can actually go on till age 12 around puberty this is what my Sons doctor told me Im not saying your Son will be like that but just know bed wetting is normal.

[Unregistered]

try an alarm

At his age it is totally normal, but I have to jump in here about the older kids. My DS wet the bed nearly every night, up until he was almost 7. Our ped told us it was okay, and more common than we thought up until age 8 or maybe even 9. I bought Underjams, but most nights he would leak out of those, he's tall! As he got closer to age 7, sleepovers were starting to happen, and he was starting to be embarrassed about his Underjams. We never made a big deal out of them, and he didn't care at home, but one of my WONDERFUL nephews asked him once why he had diapers in his drawer. Ugh.

Anyway, we got him a bedwetting alarm. It is by Malem and it has a little alarm that pins onto his shirt, and then a sensor that clips to the front of the underpants. As soon as there is one drop of wetness, the alarm goes off. He set it off for three nights in a row, and then it dwindled down until he doesn't set it off at all. It was WONDERFUL and I highly recommend it! It has trained his brain even in his deep sleep to wake up and recognize that feeling and go. He is thrilled about it. It was a bit pricey, about $85, but may just be the best thing we've ever done for him. Way nicer than making him sleep in pee!