Dealing With A Repeat Offender

[daycare]

Thank you for the advice everyone. I stepped away from my thread for a day to digest all points of view.

Today was much better. Instead of several incidents where she was mean or used her hands to make her point there were two and both were very mild compared to normal. First thing this morning she used her hands to remove her sister's hands from a toy (gently but still wrong) and about 10 minutes ago (end of day here) she taunted her sister to chase her and then closed a door on her. Other than that she tried really hard to be nice and I "caught" her stopping herself once from using her hands. She didnt see me but she went to reach for something someone had and then changed her mind and got up for another toy.

Both times she went to Time Alone on her own and there was a tantrum this morning but none this afternoon. Today might be a fluke but I feel postive again about fixing my little miss with some hard work.

Nannyde - I'll gladly take you up on some advice. I haven't been on the board long but I value your opinion already. Pming you now.

wow sounds good.... Also, when you see the DCG doing something good like stopping herself from using her hands, do everything you can to make a great deal out of this and how wonder it is... Praise her like she is the best thing in the world. Heck, make an announcement to all of the kids...say WOW everyone did you see Kimmy, she did such a wonderful job not using her hands or ___________. Yeah horray for kimmy. get all of the kids to clap, Show her that she will get attention this way instead...........

[Meyou]

I've been doing that and she eats it up. I guess in a way its giving her what she wants since she craves attention... But if praising her for every little thing helps her be gentle I'm all for it. I'm a huge praise giver anyway. I really encourage and expect the kids to be independant and praise is such a good motivator to get them to practice skills like dressing and doing unfun chores like playroom pickup.

She really did have an excellent day. The best in several months I'm pretty sure. She was also better last night at home with their new Time Alone table. They're very good at working on things together. I'm lucky that way.

[daycare]

I've been doing that and she eats it up. I guess in a way its giving her what she wants since she craves attention... But if praising her for every little thing helps her be gentle I'm all for it. I'm a huge praise giver anyway. I really encourage and expect the kids to be independant and praise is such a good motivator to get them to practice skills like dressing and doing unfun chores like playroom pickup.

She really did have an excellent day. The best in several months I'm pretty sure. She was also better last night at home with their new Time Alone table. They're very good at working on things together. I'm lucky that way.

sounds like you are great at your job..... I am so happy that we have each other to consult about issues we are having... I bet our husbands love it too, cuz now they dont have to hear it....

[cheerfuldom]

It sounds like you are doing a great job OP. Kids do crazy stuff sometimes and especially sibling sets. My girls are awful to each other on occasion and they do not watch violent shows or see any of that activity in real life. If you love this family and this is the only issue with these girls and the parents are cooperating with a plan of action, it sounds like you have the ideal set up to really curb the behavior. It is very easy for us to say just term them but things are much more complex in real life.