Seriously.... What Is Wrong With Parents?

[Unregistered]

getting the note for no milk is hard

My DS is very constipated with milk. Its taken a few months to sort this out, and the MD and NP won't write the note until we see the allergist, but no milk=daily movements, 4 servings of milk two days last week and we are still waiting with Miralax. I don't have the note yet, he can't have milk. So - what do I do? Keep him home? The first allergist appointment is just meet and greet, THEN we schedule for testing and discussion on sensitivities. He does not have any other allergies. They had no problem giving us the Miralax, huh.

[momatheart]

OMG parents like this are so irritating.

[Live and Learn]

Unless you are required by law to give her milk.....
Give her water from here on out.

If you normally give her 2 one cup servings Monday thru Friday of milk that she won't drink then that is over 30 gallons of milk being wasted each year.
Cheers for you...... that mom just gave you a raise!!! Water is practically free!!!

[Lucy]

I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to play Devil's Advocate here. I grew up not liking milk. My brothers drank it by the gallon, but it always made my throat feel like mucous (sp?). I remember at Sunday School they would serve graham crackers and milk, and I asked for water. If the teacher had said "no, you have to drink milk", it would have upset me. I would have been too timid to argue with an authority figure, so I would have had to drink it. The more I envision this scenario, the more it angers me. If that had happened to me, I probably would have cried to mom myself!! Not every kid likes milk. I'm not saying don't offer it to the kids, but if they consistently sip just a little and leave it, or show some kind of signs that they don't like milk, ask the parent about it. I'm in my late 40's and I've never been a milk drinker. Ever.

[Live and Learn]

I'm in my late 40's and I've never been a milk drinker. Ever.

Yup....me too.

[Jewels]

I dont see why this was a bad question for a parent to ask, She was not asking if you serve the child milk, she was asking if you force her to drink it, If my child came home and said "Sally was making me drink milk" I would ask also, I never want my child being "made" to eat or drink something he doesn't want, if he didn't want milk, I would hope he would get water. Granted my children love milk, and I only offer Water and milk, and if their thirsty its one or the other at lunch, and only water in between and at snack.

[dEHmom]

If the child doesn't like milk, or doesn't want milk, give them the option. If mom says she prefers child not having milk, then give the child water.

My kids always have a choice which they want. Some days they choose milk, some days they choose water.

I know milk is important for their bones and stuff, but there is other ways of getting calcium other than milk.

I HATE milk. Very rarely i drink it, once in a while I will have a glass with ice, but even in cereal, I only put enough to moisten my cereal, not soak it.

[Checkinkids.com]

Yeah - you just have to offer it. Sometimes the confusion comes in when the child is telling the parent they are "making" me drink milk. When really you are just putting milk in front of them. The parents may have rules about dinner at home like not letting the child get up until they eat - so the child sees milk at daycare and thinks I "have" to drink it.

[Greenshadow]

I dont see why this was a bad question for a parent to ask, She was not asking if you serve the child milk, she was asking if you force her to drink it, If my child came home and said "Sally was making me drink milk" I would ask also, I never want my child being "made" to eat or drink something he doesn't want, if he didn't want milk, I would hope he would get water. Granted my children love milk, and I only offer Water and milk, and if their thirsty its one or the other at lunch, and only water in between and at snack.

The reason I have a problem with this is because if my parents dont trust me with their kids, why have me as their provider? I would hope that the parents trust me and know that I would never force something on them. I have a parent right now Im dealing with like this. She likes to say things like this to me and it irritates the crap out of me because I feel like she thinks I would do something on purpose to upset or hurt her child when if thats the case, why is your child coming to my home every day?? I dont know. This kinda hit home for me because Im dealing with a parent with similar issues.

[kangmandi]

When my daughter was in daycare, I was told either she drank (or ate) what they provided, or I was to bring my own. Daycare isn't a fast food restaurant.

[Unregistered]

Milk

I have a dcb who refuses to drink milk and that's fine by me. I won't make him drink it, but I won't give him juice instead either. If he doesn't want the milk, then water is what he gets. I serve juice with snack and then he can have juice. His parents know that he won't drink milk ( he doesn't drink it at home either ), and they don't have a problem with me giving him water instead of milk. I always offer the milk, but he never drinks it.

I think that if I would put chocolate milk or strawberry milk mix in it, he would drink it, but I won't do that.

[Jewels]

Yes parents should trust you, but they HAVE to listen to their children, I fully trusted our old daycare, but if my son came home, saying "daycare sally made me drink my milk when I didn't want to" I would then find it necessary to pose the question "Billy Says you make him drink his milk when he doesn't want it, just needed to see if this was true?" Using the Statement they should trust you, does not mean they shouldn't question you if their child says something. As a Parent I would question that, A parent needs to listen to their children.

[cheerfuldom]

I don't make kids drink anything nor do I offer an alternative. We have regular milk, water and occasionally juice. It is annoying that parents pick, pick, pick about the tiniest things and you have to come up with a rule about EVERYTHING. Now if the parents send something specific and I know this kid will just be crying for food or drink later, then yes, I do have them sit until the meal is gone.

[Jewels]

I don't make kids drink anything nor do I offer an alternative. We have regular milk, water and occasionally juice. It is annoying that parents pick, pick, pick about the tiniest things and you have to come up with a rule about EVERYTHING. Now if the parents send something specific and I know this kid will just be crying for food or drink later, then yes, I do have them sit until the meal is gone.

She never said the parent was upset they were offered milk, she said the kid said she was making her drink it, as in forcing her to drink the milk, and as a parent if my child told me that, I would think they were be given milk, made to drink without be offered water as an alternative, so again I would ask the same question.

[QualiTcare]

i agree. if you're unwilling to offer WATER as an alternative then it's not the child nor the parent who has issues, it's YOU. nobody is saying if a kid doesn't want milk that you have to waste a glass of milk, give them kool aid, or let them drink coke. but you CAN save your milk by NOT pouring it if you know they won't drink it (or by pouring a veeery small amount if you MUST) and then offering water as an alternative. it's WATER. i would love to know the reasoning behind not allowing a child WATER instead of a more expensive drink. amuse me.