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I have a dcb who is 4 1/2, I've had him since he was 2. He started saying "oh my God" and I don't know how to get him to stop. I know his mom says it all the time because I've heard her. I keep correcting him and say "oh my goodness" but he seems stuck on it, I don't want the other children to start saying it so how do I get him to stop. I'm pretty sure he's not allowed to say it at home but not sure, but when he hears someone else say it all the time I think it's going to become natural for him. So just curious how others would handle this. thanks
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He probably doesn't even realize he's doing it. I would just keep reminding him to say, "Oh my goodness," instead. Maybe you can make up a silly expression for him and get him hooked on that instead. Instead of saying oh shoot, I now say oh sugar plums. My son will be 5 next month and I've heard him say it also. I'd much rather he say that than oh shoot. Also, firmly explain to him that there are good words to say, bad words that we don't say, and other words that a kid shouldn't say (keep that part out if it'll cause a problem). Just keep at it and he'll eventually catch himself and make the change. -
Yeah, whenever my dck say something that's inappropriate I just tell them "We don't use those words". It usually only takes a couple times of saying that before they stop. One of my kids, on his first day he was walking around saying "God damn - god damn - god damn ..." over and over. I told him We don't say that here, and I never heard it again. I have a 4 1/2 year old who was saying "We don't need no stinkin' women" over and over again (it's a joke he and his dad have .. obviously Dad is oblivious to the fact that a 4 year old doesn't understand when it's a joke and when it's inappropriate) ... I told him we don't use those words, that's not nice to say, and I haven't heard it since. You just have to be firm about it
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I was explaining something to a four year old once, and within the course of the explanation I skipped over something with "and blah, blah, blah" then continued on. He latched onto blah, blah, blah like a dog with a bone. He would not drop it. Blah, blah, blah this and that. He was a bright kid and unfortunately figured out the not so nice way and time to say it. And it was ALL MY FAULT. I explained to the parents to the context that I had originally used it in, and they were okay with how he learned it, but not the way he was using it. Oh, he could be so rude. Blech, I basically had to beat it out of him.
No, not really, but I called him on it every time he said it and I guess he just got tired of all the discussion about how it wasn't nice, and it was rude, and how he would get mad if other's said it when he was talking, and how it was irritating his parents and myself, and blah, blah, blah. He just eventually quit.
Now, it really got ugly when my husband taught them all the "what eva" eye roll, head bob.....Comment
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I had the same issue with a first grader saying "What the heck!" or calling other kids, "****ers!" Um, yea. NOT OK. I talked to the child individually and just said, "Look, I don't know what you are allowed to say at home, but when you are at MY house those words are unacceptable. Period." Then I talked to Dad at pick up and explained the same thing. It is unacceptable at our house and I have told his ds multiple times, and then I asked would he please continue to talk to him about it at home. Both parents did and I haven't had a problem since! Whew!
Also, my own dd has been coming home from school (kindergarten) saying "Oh My God!" I had to explain to her that we DO NOT talk that way. We say Oh my! Oh my goodness! Or oh my gosh! We DO NOT say Oh My God b/c we only use God's name when we are talking about Him or Praying TO him. She understood that and within a day or two she quit! HTH!! I would def talk to the parents. I would think the simple fact that it is your house, and your rules would be enough, but you can always back it up by saying you don't want the younger kids to pick it up also.
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