"I Love You"

[Josiegirl]

I have and have had children I feel a lot of affection for. I keep in touch with some of my "kids" who now have kids of their own.

I have kids in care right now who I feel great affection for. I will shed tears when they age out and leave us. I will miss them a lot.

I have kids in care right now who have horrible characters. I will not feel a thing when they leave and one has been here for several years. Real life Angelica's (from Rug Rats). Mean and selfish and manipulative.

So "love" isn't a cover-all for taking care of children. I feel great affection for some. Others are just bodies I take care of...and I don't feel bad about saying so. There is no need to act like Mary Poppins and say I love each and every one of them. I don't.

I enjoy working with kids. Been at it for over 30 years. Some kids will always have a place in my heart. Some kids I will completely forget. Some kids will be in my memories like a bad nightmare

Every single daycare is different. Every single child is different. There is no blanket "love". Relationships evolve. Views change. Go with what feels right at the time.

Do not judge each other as not one of us has the same situation as another.

lovethis

[Unregistered]

If you log in you can search all my posts and make rude comments.

Get over yourself.

[Gemma]

I have and have had children I feel a lot of affection for. I keep in touch with some of my "kids" who now have kids of their own.

I have kids in care right now who I feel great affection for. I will shed tears when they age out and leave us. I will miss them a lot.

I have kids in care right now who have horrible characters. I will not feel a thing when they leave and one has been here for several years. Real life Angelica's (from Rug Rats). Mean and selfish and manipulative.

So "love" isn't a cover-all for taking care of children. I feel great affection for some. Others are just bodies I take care of...and I don't feel bad about saying so. There is no need to act like Mary Poppins and say I love each and every one of them. I don't.

I enjoy working with kids. Been at it for over 30 years. Some kids will always have a place in my heart. Some kids I will completely forget. Some kids will be in my memories like a bad nightmare

Every single daycare is different. Every single child is different. There is no blanket "love". Relationships evolve. Views change. Go with what feels right at the time.

Do not judge each other as not one of us has the same situation as another.

:hug:

[Unregistered]

Revealing my age here. I used to have a play landline style phone (during the age of dinosaurs). One little boy used to end his calls with "I love you. Bye!". I think that's just how some families leave/say good bye. While I get it from a cultural perspective, I don't like it when words get watered down. Much like friend or bullying now a days.

On a side note, my daughter was quite upset with me recently when I wouldn't share her view that divorce should be exspected for a first marriage. One day, love loses its meaning. Tomorrow, it's divorce. Who knows what's next?