I Can’t Stand This Child!

[Unregistered]

Im sorry, but DCG 2 1/2 years shreeks and screams all day. Someone touches her she screams, i tell her no she screams, i have her do something she doesnt want to she screams. Its not a short scream, its a scream that lasts 10-15min. It sounds like someone is killing her and nothing makes her stop, she stops on her own. I cant take it anymore. Shes been with me a year and its not getting better.
Has anyone ever let a child go because you just cant stand them? Lol. What kind of excuse do you tell parents on why you are terminating?
Because i needed the money, i never mentioned to her parents about the screaming. I also think she does it at home so they probably dont see it as a problem.
Ive thought about saying because she is part time, ive decided to fill the space with a full time child.

[Blackcat31]

Im sorry, but DCG 2 1/2 years shreeks and screams all day. Someone touches her she screams, i tell her no she screams, i have her do something she doesnt want to she screams. Its not a short scream, its a scream that lasts 10-15min. It sounds like someone is killing her and nothing makes her stop, she stops on her own. I cant take it anymore. Shes been with me a year and its not getting better.
Has anyone ever let a child go because you just cant stand them? Lol. What kind of excuse do you tell parents on why you are terminating?
Because i needed the money, i never mentioned to her parents about the screaming. I also think she does it at home so they probably dont see it as a problem.
Ive thought about saying because she is part time, ive decided to fill the space with a full time child.

Yes, I have let a child go because their behavior was more than I could manage or endure.

I told the parents that I was unable to meet the child's needs and didn't think they were a good fit [any longer].

Liking all the children isn't a requirement for quality care but there are definitely some kids I prefer over others or some kids I instantly click with but if I have a child that really bothers me (whether personal or behavioral) I would just term. It's best for both provider and child.

[Mad_Pistachio]

What kind of excuse do you tell parents on why you are terminating?

She disturbs the rest of the group with almost non-stop screaming (it may be time to mention it). I'm sure others will find a more PC way to say that, but it's reason enough.

[Rockgirl]

I've termed because of screaming. I did keep the parents informed of what was happening, what I was doing to try to resolve it, etc. Finally I termed....it was affecting the group. My #1 rule when it comes to behavior is I look out for the good of the group.

Good luck!

[Laurie]

I've also had to term a child because of bad behavior. Most parents have understood because the behavior happens at home also. I've told them the child needs more than I'm able to offer them.

If you're at your wits end, I think it's time to term!!

[Unregistered]

Yes, I have had to withdraw a child from my program for similar reasons. The child didn't scream, but he would cry all day. And not just a sob, literally wailing at the top of his lungs. I had kept his mother informed consistently, and we even tried adjusting him to a shorter schedule, but after 3 weeks and no progress, I informed her that I didn't think he was ready for a child care setting (family watched him since he was a baby). I followed up with her 3 months later and we tried again. A complete difference. It just took some time and growth.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Im sorry, but DCG 2 1/2 years shreeks and screams all day. Someone touches her she screams, i tell her no she screams, i have her do something she doesnt want to she screams. Its not a short scream, its a scream that lasts 10-15min. It sounds like someone is killing her and nothing makes her stop, she stops on her own. I cant take it anymore. Shes been with me a year and its not getting better.
Has anyone ever let a child go because you just cant stand them? Lol. What kind of excuse do you tell parents on why you are terminating?
Because i needed the money, i never mentioned to her parents about the screaming. I also think she does it at home so they probably dont see it as a problem.
Ive thought about saying because she is part time, ive decided to fill the space with a full time child.

I would mention it NOW. "Hey DCM, as DCG approaches the age of 3 I am becoming concerned about her reactions to things. Have you noticed shrill screaming for 10-15 minutes at a time when she doesn't like something at home? We need to work on this at daycare together because I have been unable to resolve it on my own, which I typically try to do, and she is getting older."

If you want a quick exit, though, you could say that you have enrolled a full timer if they know that they can be asked to leave due to a full timer wanting the spot. If this was never mentioned before she may say SHE wants the full time space. Then you'd really be in trouble. ::

Also, YES. I have let a child go because we didn't mesh well. No regrets.

[daycarediva]

Yes, absolutely. I would give parents a time frame for improvement, (assuming you would not feel this way if the child didn't scream so much and would want to keep her enrolled) and then it won't be out if the blue when you let them go.

[Ariana]

I have let a child go for this very reason. One day she screamed while we were outside for 45min straight. The parents didn't even believe me. They were gone the first two weeks they were here. Another child I termed at the 7 month mark. It started getting really bad when mom went off on mat leave. She woukd stand by the door and scream.

Each time I told the parents exactly why I termed. The child was not happy here and it was causing stress for the other children in my care and my daughter. In your situation I would start telling mom the truth at pickup. Then give it 2 weeks and let them know it is not improving.

[Leigh]

I have termed 2 screamers in my career. It seems that you just know which kids will adjust and which ones won't. I'll work on things for a bit, especially at certain ages (it seems like 9 months and 15 months are the WORST times to start a new daycare). I do mention to parents what is going on, and I am the queen of distributing literature to parents. I'll give written articles from reputable sources, I'll discuss in person what options are available for parents and what resources may be available, as well. After that, it's on them. If a child needs therapy services, I'll even set them up and host at my home, but when a parent won't participate or make changes, all it does is stress me out. I won't do that.