Potty Training/Mom Driving Me Nuts

[Mike]

Exactly. Real easy for momma, she has him 2 days a week. He's with me 50 hours a week. I'm not bending at all. Not even suggesting underwear under pullup. I do it the way I do it and she's not getting her way. Worked for all my other kids. I already told her that the last one that told me that their daughter was trained and wore underwear (she was a new child, 3 years old) she peed on the floor and fell in it and then went down my carpeted hall peeing all the way to the bathroom. I was pissed (hahaha) an termed.

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It's good when we can make humor out of problems.

[lovemykidstoo]

Exactly!! You do what works for you. How many kids have you trained? How many kids has she trained? I always make it a point to say that to the parents "I have trained 12 kids over the years and this is what has worked for me". They cannot graspt the fact that you might know a bit more than they do.

A child who is ready to be trained will take a few days not months. He is not ready.

I remember my girlfriend blaming her daycare for the reason her 11 month old was not fully potty trained. Yup 11 months. My friend wanted the daycare to put a potty out in the middke of the floor in the infant room for him to use whenever he wanted. Had no idea whay they wouldn't do it

Oh my gosh an 11 month old? That's insane.

She tells me every week about how great he does over the weekend "and he wears regular underwear". Yes, but she's putting him on the toilet herself. He's not telling her.

[lovemykidstoo]

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It's good when we can make humor out of problems.

it's either laugh or cry right? haha

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Oh my gosh an 11 month old? That's insane.

She tells me every week about how great he does over the weekend "and he wears regular underwear". Yes, but she's putting him on the toilet herself. He's not telling her.

I'd just smile and move along without a comment anymore. Parents kill me sometimes.

[hwichlaz]

I've had it happen both ways honestly. My own oldest child was still using pull ups at bed time. So we put her in one for a long car trip because there were several stretches whithout places to stop if she suddenly had to go. She immediately peed in the pull up.

When asked why, her answer as,"well you put me in a diaper, so I peed in it"

However, that doesn't trump my responsibility to keep my environment free from bodily waste.

I'd not necessarily require he be telling me for two weeks....but would def require he be dry for two weeks.

[lovemykidstoo]

I don't mind asking him or doing the bathroom at certain times, but he never, never tells me he has to go. So, imo, me putting him on the toilet at designated times or asking him every time if he has to go tells me that he's far enough along to wear underwear.

[Meeko]

My rule is two weeks clean and dry at daycare without any prompting from us. Once the child is always telling US they need to go, we consider them trained.

Parents tend to only hear the "two weeks"part and figure if they can get through those two weeks keeping the child dry (even if they put them on the potty every ten minutes to ensure catching them)...then they are good to go.

So I make sure the "without any prompting from us" is foremost!

[ColorfulSunburst]

I have two kids 2.7yo. Both of them do not say that they need go to bathroom, but both of them wear underwear during the last year and use potty by my request.
At September I had 12 kids, eight of them used diapers. Now (seven month after) only two of them do that. They are 16mo and 18mo).

[lovemykidstoo]

My rule is two weeks clean and dry at daycare without any prompting from us. Once the child is always telling US they need to go, we consider them trained.

Parents tend to only hear the "two weeks"part and figure if they can get through those two weeks keeping the child dry (even if they put them on the potty every ten minutes to ensure catching them)...then they are good to go.

So I make sure the "without any prompting from us" is foremost!

Same thing. I guess she just doesn't hear the part where I say that he has to tell me. It's really easy to have a dry pant if you're putting them on there all the time. That, imo is not trained.

[kendallina]

I don't require that the child needs tell me that he needs to go. When they've had couple of successful weekends and evenings at home, Im more than happy to have them in underwear here to try. Yes, its more work for few days or week of reminding them. I find that they are quickly letting me know when they have to go. And, yes, there is an occasional accident, but of course there is, they're little kids. I've had several potty train this way and it hasn't been a problem for me.

[Unregistered]

I work at a center and, obviously since it's not a home it's different, we will not take them to the potty unless they come in underwear and several changes of clothes. We suggest parents begin at home and decide when to transition at school. We also throw away number 2 accident undies. After two weeks dry they take off the diaper change fee.

[CeriBear]

An 11 month old? It's hard to believe that anyone would think a child that young could be potty trained.