So This Is My Situation...

[CityGarden]

Yes it happened in MN. His is child is 18 now, but he had normal parenting time (weekends/summers). He did not serve any jail time, so im assuming it was the lowest degree for domestic. I would ask him, but he doesnt know this may be a problem yet and dont want him feeling bad. I tried looking him up online but couldnt find anything. He has a 3 year old daughter as well (different mom)...that he has 50% custody of. Not sure if that means anything. She is in my daycare as well.
Do you know if there could be some kind of stipulation if it is a problem? Like he cant be around the children? Can these things be appealed?
I just find it extremely unfair for him, because all the years ive been with him, he has never shown ANY type of aggression. He is the biggest teddy bear haha.

You need to be honest with him and not dance around it. In my state California you can request and exemption prior to needing one..... so prior to him moving in then the new clearance is a formality. This is not something you can pretend and dance around.

I wanted to add a timeline for my state approx. After you do the LiveScan you have to wait for the DOJ (or whoever) to send you a letter stating you need an exemption (this can take 6 week) then they want copies of all the charges you have to go to the courthouse(s) or write to them and request this if you do not already have the full file. Then you have to write a statement, submit certain documentation as proof, get three character letters, etc. AFTER you submit that it takes a min of 75 days (not sure if that is business days or days in general) for a response. So this is not an overnight process or one that you can slide in as an oh by the way let's move in together romantic type situation when you also have a business with rules to this extent.

[Cat Herder]

Hopefully will be getting full custody soon

Know that once he moves in with you things will most likely go high conflict with that ex. Especially if you two are not married.

The risk of a false charge of domestic violence or child neglect will be very high for a while.

The child has a legal right to both parents so pushing for full without cause may actually lower his parenting time. 50/50 is viewed as in the child's best interests.

[Love]

The daughters mother has had CPS called on her at least twice a year since she was born. She has also expressed that she wants us to get married so that the child will see some stability. Basically saying...shes waiting for us ro get married so we can take her full time. So full custody would be in the best interest of this child.
Right now i do daycare with someone else in their home. Im hoping to move the daycare into my home within 2 years. So i am preparing in advance seeing what needs to be done as far as him moving in and what not. In 2 years the case will be 10 years old so it may even be better.

[Ariana]

Seems odd that he has had to deal with two "crazy" ex's. Hopefully you don't end up being one

Either way I would tread carefully with this one!