DCB Holding In Poop

[daycarediva]

I'd call the parent.

I'm so over some of these new age bathroom/toileting issues that kids have going on. A majority of them are parent induced, whether psychologically, emotionally or diet related etc....

I don't think it's fair to DCB or to you that you are having to deal with this. Call mom/dad for pick up and after he goes...he can return.

That'd be my solution.

yup. Put it back on the parents.

It is not normal.
I would encourage him to stink up the bathroom
I would give his favorite treat for turds.
I would give as much positive as possible. Going overboard if need be to make him want to poo on the pot. Also, facing backwards w legs spread seems to work better for some to relax. They don't feel as if they are falling and can grab the toilet if they need to.
Barring any med issue, three successful poops on the toilet seems to be about what it takes to help them understand pooping in the pot doesn't hurt.
I would push positive reinforcement and encouragement. Think "Barbie doll happy happy"
And if that didn't ease his anxiety, I would send home and ask for a dr consult.

great advice. LOL at Barbie doll happy happy.

[ColorfulSunburst]

I would probably just sit him on the toilet when he complains like that. It will eventually come out if he sits long enough.

It will come out fast, I think. :-) I would sit him on the toilet too.
By my opinion, if a child has not any medical issues, all other are created by adult people.

[ColorfulSunburst]

Potty trained or diapers? Kids who are potty trained, especially early on, think weird things about pooping on the potty.

Pooping could hurt for some reason, could have a tummy/IBS type issue.

I am pretty sure that this kind of issue is more common for kids, who start potty training late (after 2yo and up). For early potty trained kids peeing and pooping on the toilet is normal action.

[Leigh]

I am pretty sure that this kind of issue is more common for kids, who start potty training late (after 2yo and up). For early potty trained kids peeing and pooping on the toilet is normal action.

I have experienced the exact opposite. I had a mom who started PT around 18 months-her kid is the one who, at 5.5, is still seeing a gastroenterologist for blockages. I have another right now, whose grandma pushed mom into early training (at around 18 months) who only poops at nap, while asleep, and freaks out when asked to do it in the potty (he's almost 3 now). He'll usually pee in the potty, but will NOT poop there.

[ColorfulSunburst]

By my opinion, 18mo is the late start for potty training. It is the age when most of the kids can be almost potty trained. In the past they were.
Diapers + parents laziness is the reason for the most of the potty issues in the modern world.

[Leigh]

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Wellness/early-potty-training-harmful/story?id=16806522

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/2015/05/are-you-potty-training-too-soon/

Some articles about early training (including info from and by doctors). I have two cousins (sisters) who started training when their kids turned one. Their kids are now adults, and they both still complain about how long their kids wet the bed (one's son was a bedwetter until age 12). That, plus info like these links provide, plus my own experiences are why I prefer to wait, and why I encourage my parents to wait until a child is ready. I won't participate in early training at childcare, either. If the child can't recognize the need to go, verbalize the need to go, and willingly participate in training, I don't participate in training them. The earliest I have personally seen a child be truly ready is around 2.75.

[midaycare]

I am pretty sure that this kind of issue is more common for kids, who start potty training late (after 2yo and up). For early potty trained kids peeing and pooping on the toilet is normal action.

I meant "early on" more as a reference to...is dcb in his first few months of using the potty? The majority of dcb's I've had have all regressed with bm's sometime that first month or two.

[ColorfulSunburst]

... The earliest I have personally seen a child be truly ready is around 2.75.

Right now I have 2 kids 2.3y.o. They do not wear diapers at least 6 months. Even for nap time. My own kid is an early potty trained without any negative effects.
I always say: our kids know only things that we teach them. If we teach them to use own fingers during eating, they will. If we teach them to use spoon and fork, they will.
If we teach them to pee and poop into diapers 2-3-4 years of their life, it becomes normal and comfortable for them.

[hwichlaz]

I'd have him sit on the toilet when he does it. Just sitting in that position will make them poop sometimes.