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I have a 2yo dcb and I've had problems with him eating for a while now. I've talked to DCM and she just says that it's fine and he will eat if he's hungry, just keep offering. Well I recently found out that she gives him 3 formula bottles a day. Is this normal for a 2yo?? She never gave me formula for him to have here so the little guy just doesn't eat at all here. He won't even attempt to eat any food at all and if I try to give him a bite he screams and turns his head.
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Normal? Oh heck no. I would ask dcp for a written order from the doctor if there's a medical reason for this. If not, I would sit down and tactfully talk with dcm about his diet at home, what he eats and how he eats it(spoonfed by parent, with his fingers, uses utensils, or doesn't eat anything at all besides formula). For a growing 2 yo he has to be lacking in so many different nutrients, not to mention developmentally appropriate skills revolved around eating real food, chewing, using silverware, etc., etc. Does he drink anything at your house in a cup? He literally eats nothing at your house?
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I am not sure on normal (what is normal about parenting these days??
), but I would be very upset that I was not told about the bottles. Three bottles is a significant amount of formula (depending on how big a bottle), so it would have easily explained the lack of eating and saved ou from worrying about it. Whether you an stop them from giving the bottles is another issue, but you should have been told. FTR, I try to wean them by about 12-18 months, so i do not agree with giving him 3 bottles of formula a day, especially if it is interfering with his eating. His nutrition should be coming from food at this point.
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This is her second child, her older son will be 4 next month and she said he was drinking formula up until he was 3!! He drinks a little bit here and there (milk, Apple juice, water) but doesn't drink much. He drinks so much better out of a bottle but I don't feel like he should be using a bottle anymore. He will occasionally eat snacks but he definitely doesn't eat much. He is a huge boy, he weighs more than his almost 4 year old brother, and I don't understand how! Last time I talked to her about his eating habits she said that sometimes she will take food and put (force) it in his mouth and then he will realize that it's good and eat...I'm sorry but I don't feel comfortable force feeding, I always give him silverware and I attempt to put a bite in his mouth but he refuses.Comment
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I am upset with just now being told about him drinking formula. I've mentioned his eating before and she didn't tell me
I don't understand how she was okay knowing the reason he wasn't eating was because he's used to drinking bottles but didn't tell me and didn't provide me with formula for him at least. I don't know if she knows it's crazy so she didn't want to tell me or what! Ugh I hate to judge what parents do with their kids but I'm worried about dcb!
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I had this issue with my current dcg last year when she was 2. Mom kept complaining about her lack of eating and she would barely eat here. Find out mom was giving her 9 cups of milk a day. She saw the look of shock on my face when she told me, looked it up on the internet and then came the next day saying she was going to cut it out. Yes lady you have a 40lb 2 yr old!
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She didn't tell me what kind of formula but I would assume toddler. I was asking about how much milk she gives him and she said "Probably 4 cups a day, he also gets 3 formula bottles" she then said "I know he probably shouldn't be drinking formula still but I don't think it hurts anything". I was kind of in shock because she never told me about this before. He never had any issues that I know of. I've been watching him since he was 3 months old and she stopped bringing formula for him when he was about 14 months old.Comment
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Can I ask what nationality this family is?Comment
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Wow. Both parents. ??
Reason I asked is that many cultures practice keeping their children, especially boys, infants as long as they possibly can. Boys are often treated like gold and are expected to do nothing on their own. Mothers and caretakers do everything for them.
I think we all know this is not an American custom. Lol so I've got nothing. Lol.Comment
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Well if its not medically required and its not cultural, I'd start supplying mom with some resources on the importance of a toddler diet... and maybe allowing her child to gain some independence.Comment
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How is this childs growth and weight going? Milestones? Energy levels?- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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