Singletons

[midaycare]

Almost all of my dcf's have just one child. I'm finally getting a sibling in here soon.

I've noticed all of my dcf's of only children - except one - never talk about more kids. In fact, they go the opposite direction. "No way, no more, one is enough!"

I have parents of a 4 month old, though, who are already talking about baby #2. I must say it's a refreshing change!

I feel like parents want less kids over here in my neck of the woods.

How about you guys?

[DaveA]

Here it's kind of the opposite- I only have 1 only child. Everyone else has at least 1 other sibling. I do think more couples are saying "only 1" when planning family size.

[Snowmom]

I'm half and half. I actually have preschoolers in my care with baby siblings in another facility. There's been such a baby boom here in the last year!

[midaycare]

I think what I'm finding is that the families in my care want to spend money on other things, so they are choosing smaller families. You know, bigger house, nicer vacations, nicer cars, atvs and snowmobiles for junior.

[Baby Beluga]

Big families are pretty big in my community. Another trend I have noticed is fostering and adopting as many children as you can. There are a few families in my community who have 8+ children. One family has 16 - some are biological children and some were fostered and adopted.

I say good for them - but the thought of two scares me! ::

[CalCare]

I found this:

https://www.statista.com/statistics/242074/percentages-of-us-family-households-with-children-by-type/

Lots of interesting stats on there.

[finsup]

Nearly all of my families have been "one and done"...and they think im pretty much crazy for having 3, and totally 100% for another if God chooses that. My newest family will have another but not sure when. Most people who do have a second are spacing them like 5 years apart (unlike me, again ...mine are 5, 2 and 11m).

However...you go to my Church and 3 kids is the average, 4-5 isn't uncommon. The ones that only have one are planning more and generally have them within 2 years of each other. My newest family who will have more at some point is from my Church .

[Controlled Chaos]

I am a non mormon living in Utah...so my perspective is weird I have 3 children (2, 4 and 6) so I have a ton compared to my other non mormon friends but I have the minimum average for an LDS family around here. None of my dcfs are LDS. I have 4 sets of siblings and they are 2-3 years apart in age. I have had one family that was one and done, but she had a medically dangerous birth. Onlys are pretty rare around these parts

I appreciate people who stop after one if they don't want more. Kids are too much work to have more just because of social or religious pressure.

Side note - I am Catholic. And I laugh at church when I see all the families with only 2 kids (that's been the average in all the parishes I have attended) and we aren't technically supposed to use birth control :: There are a few other families that have 3 like my family, but you don't see the families with 6, 7 or 8 like you used to. If I didn't use birth control I would probably have 9 kids by now (to those struggling with fertility - I don't mean to offend, I am so grateful I was able to conceive babies easily, but I am also so grateful to live in a time with accessible birth control!)

[daycarediva]

I think what I'm finding is that the families in my care want to spend money on other things, so they are choosing smaller families. You know, bigger house, nicer vacations, nicer cars, atvs and snowmobiles for junior.

Yep. Stuff > kids. I don't knock their choices at all. The families I have with siblings either have money to spare OR they are spare OR their kids are spaced 5 years apart so that they are only paying for one child in FT daycare at a time.

I am a non mormon living in Utah...so my perspective is weird I have 3 children (2, 4 and 6) so I have a ton compared to my other non mormon friends but I have the minimum average for an LDS family around here. None of my dcfs are LDS. I have 4 sets of siblings and they are 2-3 years apart in age. I have had one family that was one and done, but she had a medically dangerous birth. Onlys are pretty rare around these parts

I appreciate people who stop after one if they don't want more. Kids are too much work to have more just because of social or religious pressure.

Side note - I am Catholic. And I laugh at church when I see all the families with only 2 kids (that's been the average in all the parishes I have attended) and we aren't technically supposed to use birth control :: There are a few other families that have 3 like my family, but you don't see the families with 6, 7 or 8 like you used to. If I didn't use birth control I would probably have 9 kids by now (to those struggling with fertility - I don't mean to offend, I am so grateful I was able to conceive babies easily, but I am also so grateful to live in a time with accessible birth control!)

I have 4 and USED bc each time I got pg. I would have AT LEAST a dozen by now if it weren't for double birth control and a tubal ligation. YAY modern medicine (I love my kids, I do! But they're EXPENSIVE!)

We have a large mormon population and most have 2-3 kids. I giggle at them, too. Either everyone has excellent fertility tracking methods and those are oops babies or SOMEBODY is using BC.

[CityGarden]

I was teaching and most students had siblings. Where I am the cost of living is high so most families cannot afford to have more than two though..... and I am finding their ages are spaced more apart than when I was younger.

Wanted to add, I have only one child but I am a single mom. I do wish when I find the right partner we might have 1-2 more however the cost of quality education will be a major factor in that decision.

[CalCare]

My husband and I definitely aren't choosing stuff over children! We intentionally had our first and intentionally had our second when we found ourselves financially able to provide what we feel is important to provide (yes, 5 years apart!). We want to send our kids to college. We want to not worry about basic necessities. We, and many of our peers, friends, and neighbors intentionally controlled when and how many children to have. It only makes sense. It sounds like there is no winning in this conversation. If we waited and spaced our kids out 5 years and intentionally only have one or two, we must be materialistic jerks; if we don't wait and "accidentally" or purposefully have 3, 4, and 5 kids that we can barely afford to house, feed, provide child care and higher education for then we are system abusing, selfish slackers. No one can win with these judgments. Yes, the numbers of children per a family is down. That's true. That is a national trend. I think it's a good thing. We are running out of planet! I don't think people are having less children, more spaced out because they want houses, cars, and iphones! :dislike:

[childcaremom]

All of my current families have one child only. Two of them have told me that they plan to have more eventually, the others haven't told me of their plans.

I don't see a trend here, tbh. There is quite a mix of family sizes.

[midaycare]

All of my current families have one child only. Two of them have told me that they plan to have more eventually, the others haven't told me of their plans.

I don't see a trend here, tbh. There is quite a mix of family sizes.

I'm not seeing one, either, based on responses. Just surprised me with so many families, I would think the law of averages states more would want more than one child. Most of my families have been uniquely honest with me about the desire to have just one though.

I only have one, but not by choice. So I'm biased. I would have had 5 or 6 if I could have.

[MarinaVanessa]

In my area I notice that having several children is like a sign of financial status. It used to be that owning a fancy sports car meant you were wealthy, now multiple children and being a SAHM means your well off financially. I get this alot ...
"Wow, 4 kids and you stay home. You guys must be making good money!" ::

The ONLY reason we can afford our four kids is because I do daycare and don't have to pay for it and plus make money doing daycare.

[Pepperth]

I only have one only child in care. All the others are the youngest in their family.