Potty Training Tips - My Own Kid

[Ariana]

About a month before her 3rd birthday I started potty training my daughter. I went straight to undies. It was a disaster and after 5 days of just not getting it I went back to diapers. Now she is 3 and a bit and I have started again and she is still not getting it. I currently have her in pull-ups and am basically taking her to the toilet as a learning process. She has never gone on the toilet. I told her that if she goes on the toilet she gets chocolate but nothing. I really feel like she is holding it because it's been 3 weeks of nothing.

I know she will get it when she gets it but this is annoying me to no end! my eldest potty trained just after her 3rd birthday in 3 days! I am so sick of diapers

Any and all tips welcome!!!

Help me.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

About a month before her 3rd birthday I started potty training my daughter. I went straight to undies. It was a disaster and after 5 days of just not getting it I went back to diapers. Now she is 3 and a bit and I have started again and she is still not getting it. I currently have her in pull-ups and am basically taking her to the toilet as a learning process. She has never gone on the toilet. I told her that if she goes on the toilet she gets chocolate but nothing. I really feel like she is holding it because it's been 3 weeks of nothing.

I know she will get it when she gets it but this is annoying me to no end! my eldest potty trained just after her 3rd birthday in 3 days! I am so sick of diapers

Any and all tips welcome!!!

Help me.

You won't like my advice, but I would say to wait till SHE is ready, not YOU. It will happen, mamma! Just give her time and try not to compare her progress (or lack of) to your other kids. They all figure it out in time :hug:

[Ariana]

You won't like my advice, but I would say to wait till SHE is ready, not YOU. It will happen, mamma! Just give her time and try not to compare her progress (or lack of) to your other kids. They all figure it out in time :hug:

NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! ::::

This is what my husband says

[Snowmom]

NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! ::::

This is what my husband says

Lol.
Forcing it will just cause you stress. I'd wait too.

[Indoorvoice]

I'm sorry, I have to agree that she's just not ready yet. And I think sometimes they can sense we have an agenda and resist us on purpose. If your daughter is anything like my 3 year old daughter, that's exactly what she's doing! I was kind of freaking out a few months ago because my daughter's 3rd birthday was coming up too (just turned 3 Saturday). Shortly after I dropped it and told her I didn't care where she went potty, that she could choose toilet or diapers, she just decided to wear undies and hasn't turned back. It was like she wanted to be the one to decide. My oldest daughter did the same thing only she was much younger. They will do it when they want to unfortunately. :hug: I totally get how you feel.

[Ariana]

Thanks everyone and I KNOW you are all right and this is the very advice I dish out to parents of course...

I am not pushing it at all and it really is just a part of a routine which she seems to enjoy. She used to have major resistance to even sitting on the toilet but this 2nd attempt she is at least going willingly. That is progress I guess. I thought maybe someone had some words of wisdom for me to try that might make this click. I hope she is ready soon!

[Thriftylady]

My daughter was 3. It really became a power struggle and I had to let her win. About three days after I shut up about it, she potty trained herself.

[mamamanda]

We read lots of potty books and I try to make using the potty a cool thing just like any other big kid privilege. I agree with the others that if its becoming a power struggle its better to back off and wait a while. I have found subtle ways of encouraging them to want to try though. I will say this is just my opinion, but I've found that offering candy to potty usually ends up being more struggle than its worth. It makes it seem like its really important to you that she do it and that its something special to do. It's really not. It's just a natural process so I treat it like such. We read books and talk about so-and-so uses the potty like a big kid, etc. being careful not to criticize those that don't. When someone does use the potty there is no "reward" per se, but we do clap and give a little cheer or a high five. Not a big drawn out thing, just a "hey we noticed and that's awesome" kind of a thing. I find they really like the affirmation from the other big kids. My 17 mo loves to sit on the potty simply b/c big brother and dcg do it. I don't believe he's ready to potty train at this young age, but if he sits on the potty I high five him and we move on. He's learning the potty isn't a scary thing and he feels big when he sits there. I never comment on "going potty" to him.
I will say breathe deep mama...she will get it. They all do. Thankfully none of us have college roommates still wearing diapers. Although at 6 mo pregnant I sometimes think I need one. ::Take the pressure off both of you and it will happen when she's ready. If she thinks you really don't care anymore it will probably happen sooner than you think.

[TwinMama]

I have try time here. During try time everyone goes....even the dog. The kids think it's funny.

I do have one problem though.....I have one daycare child currently that won't tell me when she has to go potty. She tells them at home because she gets candy if she goes. I don't give candy here so she'll never tell me. That's where try time comes in.

[Controlled Chaos]

Everyone sits on the potty here when they get heir diaper changed. When the start actually going on the potty - awesome! But its more about the habit of sitting for me. I teach them to sit, wipe, wash their hands, re dress. The actually GO when they are ready.

Hang in there.

[Ariana]

Everyone sits on the potty here when they get heir diaper changed. When the start actually going on the potty - awesome! But its more about the habit of sitting for me. I teach them to sit, wipe, wash their hands, re dress. The actually GO when they are ready.

Hang in there.

Yes I think this is the stage I am at right now. Practicing

[Blackcat31]

I have try time here. During try time everyone goes....even the dog. The kids think it's funny.

I do have one problem though.....I have one daycare child currently that won't tell me when she has to go potty. She tells them at home because she gets candy if she goes. I don't give candy here so she'll never tell me. That's where try time comes in.

That's a pretty creative idea!

[Blackcat31]

I agree that she is probably not ready or ready but resisting because you want her to go.

I have a DCG that I will admit to being involved in the early stages of training right around her 3rd birthday.

Tried everything. Even things I normally don't support (timed trips to potty/stickers) and nothing. Nope.

After awhile and after lots of frustration and push-pull, I think her mom gave up. I followed suit.

I swear she spent another week in diapers and suddenly started asking to go to the bathroom and wear underwear.

I think she had one accident during her two week "needs to be dry" time at daycare and the accident happened at home so.....

She's been in undies for 8 months now and has been dry at daycare since.

I'd lay off for a bit but continue to talk about it positively alot (not nevessarily TO her but in conversation and daily chit chat with other kids that are trained etc) so that even though she is not being pushed, encouraged or bribed to go, she'll still hears the message.