Am I In The Wrong?

[Laurel]

The last part of the day is child initiated play. They’re 5 and 6, very bright and capable to find multiple activities to keep themselves busy. Some of their options are…..(list multiple activities). One has to love siblings!

It is not your issue; it is hers.

I'd also probably have a bin of odds and ends for each of them that are something different than is usually out....just for my own sanity really.

[lizzlee]

I'd put their whiney little butts to work. They can help clean up. Kids sure know how to play their parents don't they?

This!!

My kids actually like to help clean up, they love to wipe surfaces with a a baby wipe, look for little bits of trash to carry the trash and they LOVE to vacuum with the dustbuster or the swiffer dust mop. I do have books and paper and crayons available at all times and sometimes I'll turn on a leapfrog show or something educational for 30 minutes at the end of the day. I don't entertain kids, I always tell my own children that it's good for them to be bored because it helps their brains learn to be creative and think new thoughts .

[daycare]

see I told you that I didn't want to say to them what I was feeling...

I just told dcm today that the kids were given plenty of options, but I can't force them to play with the options given. I also told her that since the time changed as noted in her new contract, the new clean up time was now 4:00pm. she could either pick up earlier or allow the kids to learn to entertain themselves.

she responded with she thinks they are fighting because I am not giving them the attention that they need. I told her that I did have to separate them after all of the kids left because yes it's true that they fight with each other when it is only the two of them, we had talked about that before. So I separate them and give them individual activity to do and they can choose to do it or not.

I am thinking that at this point, I am going to just move the pick up time to 430 every day and be done with it. If they can't pick up at that time then they need to give notice.

[Preschool/daycare teacher]

Wow. She accused you of not giving them the attention they need, so it's your fault they fight? What does she do at home when it's just the two siblings and she needs to fix dinner or clean up afterward? I seriously doubt she can spend all evening playing with them to prevent them from fighting. The issue is that they need to learn how to get along without adult intervention and constant entertainment. That accusation would have really gotten under my skin and I'd be tempted to term. I'd at least be looking for a replacement soon since dcm seems like she's going to pin blame on you for anything that doesn't go the way she wants and I'd imagine she'll be leaving soon. I would also be very tempted (although I'm too "nice" to actually do it probably), to say, "Since your children are bored for so long after the other children leave and it is a problem for you, I have came up with a solution. I am changing my closing time to 4:30 pm everyday now." And smile so sweetly while saying it.

[daycare]

Wow. She accused you of not giving them the attention they need, so it's your fault they fight? What does she do at home when it's just the two siblings and she needs to fix dinner or clean up afterward? I seriously doubt she can spend all evening playing with them to prevent them from fighting. The issue is that they need to learn how to get along without adult intervention and constant entertainment. That accusation would have really gotten under my skin and I'd be tempted to term. I'd at least be looking for a replacement soon since dcm seems like she's going to pin blame on you for anything that doesn't go the way she wants and I'd imagine she'll be leaving soon. I would also be very tempted (although I'm too "nice" to actually do it probably), to say, "Since your children are bored for so long after the other children leave and it is a problem for you, I have came up with a solution. I am changing my closing time to 4:30 pm everyday now." And smile so sweetly while saying it.

Since your children are bored for so long after the other children leave and it is a problem for you, I have came up with a solution. I am changing my closing time to 4:30 pm everyday now." And smile so sweetly while saying it.

this is exactly how I am feeling.

I hardly ever deal with the dcm ever. In 3.5 years I may have seen her about 5 times. NOrmally dad is the one that deals with the kids and daycare. So DCD has been out of town for the last week and a half, comes back on thursday of this week.

I am right where you are with this whole situation. OVER IT... I am going to put the noitce out that effective Nov. 9th we will be closing at 430. So they have two weeks to need to figure it out.

[Unregistered]

many clients see "nice" as "negotiable"

Or, they see "nice" as "weak".