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[daycare]

So I have been out the last few days after having ankle surgery. I have been home and my asst have been working the DC/Preschool program.

I enrolled a new kid to attend preschool only. They have been on my wait list for over a year and my being nice, I squeezed them in ahead of others due to their strong desire to join us. Great family, mom is SAHM. Has other kids and child only comes for preschool.

according to my staff the dcb is loving it. has been 2 weeks and loves loves loves it. sweet, listens, plays well etc.

well dcm sends me a message last night saying that dcb changed his mind and is freaking out about having to come. says guess the child is not ready after all and says sorry it didn't work out.

It's after hours so i don't respond.

I wake up this morning and get a different message. had a heart to heart wtih dcb he says he does want to come.

then 20 min later i get the doesn't want to come,can I refund the money and etc. Then guess who is at my door. Yup, them.

normally I would just say DONE, who is next on the list. I don't work with parents who let their kids make all of the decisions. BUT this family just so happens to be really good friends of my husbands cross fit gym and everyone there talks so highly of me and my program. We are not friends, but do have a lot of mutual friends in our small community. Our kids also go to the same school.

So now I am sitting here going, what do I do now. I am not going to tolerate this one more time. Normally I would just tell them, sorry, it isnt working out and be done. But now I feel a little pressure from having a kid that their parents are associated to my husbands gym and our social circle and don't want any drama. Just the other day I ran into my buddy and he said oh I hear that xxx boy is just loving your DC, I can't wait until mine are old enough to come. ugh....

what would you suggest I do.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I would just tell mom something like, "It is totally normal for kids to want to come one day and not the next, but staying consistent is the best way to avoid long term problems. If you feel dcb is benefiting from preschool, then I would suggest making attendance not an option, but just something that is part of the days plan. If you feel he is best suited at home for another year, then feel free to submit your notice and you can get ahold of me when he is bit more ready in your opinion."

No refunds and let them know they cannot be wish washy. They are either coming or not, but it cannot be a day to to day decision. Who lets there kid decide stuff like that anyway? What happens when he doesn't want to go to school? smh:confused:

[daycare]

I would just tell mom something like, "It is totally normal for kids to want to come one day and not the next, but staying consistent is the best way to avoid long term problems. If you feel dcb is benefiting from preschool, then I would suggest making attendance not an option, but just something that is part of the days plan. If you feel he is best suited at home for another year, then feel free to submit your notice and you can get ahold of me when he is bit more ready in your opinion."

No refunds and let them know they cannot be wish washy. They are either coming or not, but it cannot be a day to to day decision. Who lets there kid decide stuff like that anyway? What happens when he doesn't want to go to school? smh:confused:

I did tell dcm that this was completely normal. especially in the beginning. I even have kids that do it who have been with me for years. i also did tell dcm that it will take time to build a new habit and etc.

I just don't want to move forward anymore after realizing that the dcb is going to be the one who gets to make all the decisions. that does not work for me.

I just feel like if I term, then no matter what there is going to be drama.. any way I an avoid this?

[daycare]

I did tell dcm that this was completely normal. especially in the beginning. I even have kids that do it who have been with me for years. i also did tell dcm that it will take time to build a new habit and etc.

I just don't want to move forward anymore after realizing that the dcb is going to be the one who gets to make all the decisions. that does not work for me.

I just feel like if I term, then no matter what there is going to be drama.. any way I an avoid this?

Ugh. So I was no up when dcm came to pick up dck. My asst did not know what was really going on, other than what I told them that the dcm keeps flip flopping with we are in or we are out.

I now have to call dcm and tell them that I am going to have to term. it stinks because dck is doing great. it's dcm that I don't want to deal with and the constant changing of the mind.

am I wrong to NOT want to move forward with this client?

[Unregistered]

I wouldn't want to deal with that, watch the argument happen or anything. I would be very firm and state how it is. If they don't like it then they can put in their notice. I wouldnt let them go back and forth. Fill the spot immediately!

[Blackcat31]

Dear DCM

While DCB has made great strides in ABC Preschool and really seems to enjoy the time he spends here, I feel at this time that you are not ready for the commitment of being part of our preschool team.

I understand that part of being a SAHM means the flexibility of keeping your child home on short notice but enrolling your child in a preschool program also means enforcing the choice you both made to show up/attend regularly as scheduled.

I think it's wonderful that you allow your child choices. Choices can be a rewarding and educational tool when used appropriately however, when it's a choice between attending or staying home from a commitment you made, it affects not only you and your child but affects everyone else enrolled in ABC Preschool.

At this time I feel that its best that Billy is withdrawn from our program until a more permanent commitment can be made. The last day he will be able to attend will be September X, 2015.

If you wish to remain on ABC's Preschool waitlist in the event that a space does become available in the future, please let me know. I enjoyed the time we have had Billy in our classroom and I look forward to being able to have him attend again in the future when the time is right for everyone involved.

Sincerely,

Daycare

[daycare]

im telling you that you have to start charging for these letters.

this is perfect. not sure why I cant get my mind to put those words in that order like you can....exactly my thoughts, just in some off the wall random order when the do come out...

thanks a million

[Blackcat31]

im telling you that you have to start charging for these letters.

this is perfect. not sure why I cant get my mind to put those words in that order like you can....exactly my thoughts, just in some off the wall random order when the do come out...

thanks a million

LOL! Glad it's helpful or at the very least something you can build off of...

I kind of mulled it around all day and was honestly being kind of snarky (focusing on mom's inability to commit) but then I thought...well just say it (professionally) because it's the truth.

[daycare]

LOL! Glad it's helpful or at the very least something you can build off of...

I kind of mulled it around all day and was honestly being kind of snarky (focusing on mom's inability to commit) but then I thought...well just say it (professionally) because it's the truth.

.... it is how I feel..it just really ****s that she is involved in our social circle and I just HATE how much drama these ladies are.

I think you hit the nail on the head...

love it

[Blackcat31]

.... it is how I feel..it just really ****s that she is involved in our social circle and I just HATE how much drama these ladies are.

I think you hit the nail on the head...

love it

I would handle any "fall out" from this decision as doing what's best for the child NOT the family or you.

If anyone says anything you could respond with something like:

"Sometimes I have to make really hard decisions but I ALWAYS do it with the child's best interests in mind. That's why my program is so sought after...because I ALWAYS put the kids first."

Then smile REALLY big
.... because who can argue with that?

[Unregistered]

I would handle any "fall out" from this decision as doing what's best for the child NOT the family or you.

If anyone says anything you could respond with something like:

"Sometimes I have to make really hard decisions but I ALWAYS do it with the child's best interests in mind. That's why my program is so sought after...because I ALWAYS put the kids first."

Then smile REALLY big
.... because who can argue with that?

Love this! So needed this when I termed a dck whose mom is friends with a couple of my other dcms. Now I have something to use in the future. Thank you!

[daycare]

oh boy, update

So I called dcm last night and told her that I was giving one more chance. Basically told her what BC said.

DCM says well I will have to talk it over with DCD. Really. either you want to come or you don't. ugh

anyhow, I told them that they have to let me know by 4:00pm, as I have a family wanting to come tour with me tonight to take that spot.

and btw the line: it worked like a charm.

"Sometimes I have to make really hard decisions but I ALWAYS do it with the child's best interests in mind. That's why my program is so sought after...because I ALWAYS put the kids first."

thanks so much for your help.

By the end of the day today I may be terming a family and getting a new one. I hope I don't have to term.....

[childcaremom]

Am I the only one that reads these threads and takes notes?

Seriously, though, I love this forum. Such great advice given all the time.lovethis

[Blackcat31]

So I called dcm last night and told her that I was giving one more chance. Basically told her what BC said.

DCM says well I will have to talk it over with DCD. Really. either you want to come or you don't. ugh

anyhow, I told them that they have to let me know by 4:00pm, as I have a family wanting to come tour with me tonight to take that spot.

and btw the line: it worked like a charm.

"Sometimes I have to make really hard decisions but I ALWAYS do it with the child's best interests in mind. That's why my program is so sought after...because I ALWAYS put the kids first."

thanks so much for your help.

By the end of the day today I may be terming a family and getting a new one. I hope I don't have to term.....

happyface happyface

Hoping things work out for the best!!