For All You Potty Training Experts...

[Lilbutterflie]

Do you know if they generally sell the training underwear in stores or do you have to order them online? I always see people mention this, but the only thing I ever find in stores is pull-ups (huggies), easy ups (pampers) or the generic pull-ups (target and babiesrus)..but they aren't underwear..they are thick like a pull-up... the training underwear sounds like a good idea, but I never see any in the stores!

Target and BabiesRUs use to have them in the aisle with the baby blankets and cloth diapers. Gerber makes the ones they sell in stores. I actually have about 14 pairs of white and blue ones size 18 mos (up to 28 lbs; my DS is tiny!) along with two pairs of the plastic pants that go over them. Only used for one weekend when he was 2, I determined he just wasn't ready & when he finally was ready he was too big for them! PM me if you are interested in buying them.

[QualiTcare]

This is exactly what I'm worried about. I think that underwear would train them faster, but I don't want this scenario either!

Not so much worried about my daughter because she only has a BM once per day and it's always in the evening after dinner, but my DCB goes at least 3 times a day here and it's never predictable!

I am fine with training my daughter in just underwear, but then when it comes time for DCB to train, it seems wrong to require pull-ups when his parent's will have seen that I didn't train my daughter that way.

I dunno... what about pull-ups OVER underwear..so they feel that they are wet, but if they do get wet or have a BM, it won't go all over?? anyone do this??

i used underwear with my own kids. i don't think it has to be "fair" to the dck's. their parents can let them wear underwear at home and pee on their own carpets/furniture. that WILL happen, but not much if she's ready. you said she poops once a day after dinner. when i knew about what time my kids were going to "go" i would sit the potty in front of the TV and let them sit on it butt naked while they watched whatever they were watching. i'd be right there and as soon as i noticed they were "going" which was surely an accident, i started clapping and jumping and acting like an idiot. they caught on quick that i wanted them to go in the potty. both of my kids were trained by the time they were 2.

[AmandasFCC]

I'm potty training my dd right now as well. And I DO use Pull-Ups. I think they are great for ensuring that your furniture and carpet stay pee-free, and it teaches them how to pull up/down their own pants. And I don't use a lot of cloth for her for the same reason as you - I don't allow potty-training daycare kids to come in cloth so I'm not going to be a hypocrite.

I have dd on a schedule. She goes to the toilet when she wakes up, and then:

9:45ish
11:15ish
3 or when she wakes from her nap
4:45/5
Before dinner (around 6)
Before bath (around 7)

Usually she stays dry, but every time I put her in cloth, she pees her pants? I don't get it.

[QualiTcare]

For my own 3 kids who I trained and 3 daycare kids so far this is what I did. Required underwear ONLY no pull ups except for nap/bed time I never used pull ups because they are just like diapers and the kids will use them as so. I would take the kids potty EVERY hour and have them sit for 5 minutes if they went pee/poop I would give them LOTS of postive praise clapping my hands jumping up and down and saying YEAH BIG BOY/GIRL when they would go in their pants I would say big girls and boys dont pee/poop in their pants they go pee/poop in the potty. It usually took around 1 to 2 weeks and thats it but you HAVE to stick to it and do it everyday and your little one will get it. the ages I trained are anywhere for 1 and half to 2 and half.

i agree with this. this is what i did and mine were trained quickly also. i didn't use pull ups at night either though. i would get them up and take them to potty after a couple hours of sleeping. they would still have accidents, but that's why most toddler mattresses are plastic, i guess.

[Former Teacher]

Whenever I potty trained a child, I go straight to underwear. After 2 accidents, they are back in a diaper for the day. At nap, I would put a diaper on and then the underwear over the diaper so that after nap, you can just take off the diaper.

To me: pull-ups are a waste of time and money.

[broncomom1973]

I take daycare kids to the bathroom every 10 minutes and have them sit for 3 to 5 minutes until they succeed. Once they succeed I wait 45 minutes before starting the 10 minute routine again. Good Luck!

There is no way I could leave the room every 10 minutes..... I take potty training kids every 45 minutes to an hour. It never fails that someone starts crying or screaming when I leave the room. I have one little boy who I think intentionally watches to see when I leave the room so he can tease another dcb who then starts screaming.

[kidkair]

There is no way I could leave the room every 10 minutes..... I take potty training kids every 45 minutes to an hour. It never fails that someone starts crying or screaming when I leave the room. I have one little boy who I think intentionally watches to see when I leave the room so he can tease another dcb who then starts screaming.

If anyone starts misbehaving when I leave the room I make them all sit in the hallway waiting for the potty trainer to be done. I do it the entire day and then the next they behave much better. I don't have many issues with the kids because I'm direct in telling them what I expect and have no tolerance for misbehaviors.

[Unregistered]

Toddler knows to pee in potty but still relies on mom's vigilance after 3 months

I feel very confused as to why I'm having so much difficulty potty training my daughter who is now 18-1/2 months, and would really appreciate any advice. Back then my son was around 23-24 months - it took about 4 days for him to grasp the concept of eliminating in the potty and he had progressively fewer accidents relatively soon. I started potty training my daughter at 15+ months using the same methods as she had displayed clear interest in sitting on the potty, and also watches her older brother, etc. It has been about 3 months, and I've had mixed results.

My biggest confusion is I feel that my daughter understands the idea of eliminating in the potty, but for the most part, she still relies on my keeping an eye on her closely. For lack of better terms, she still doesn't know how to pee "on command" when i put her on the potty. The times she has gone in the potty are mostly when she is SO close to peeing, and I end of rushing her over, etc. It's about 3 months since i've started potty training, is this normal? Perhaps is she still too young for potty training?

I would be so truly grateful for any advice you may have for me.

[mac60]

To me 18 1/2 mo is extremely young to potty train.
I require pullups only,no cloth underwear, until the child has went potty for 2 weeks straight, on their own, with no accidents. They must be able to recognize they have to pee, be able to go to the potty and try to pull their pants down,etc. There is not going to be any peeing on my new floors or new furniture. My rules are easy to understand and I don't deviate from them.

[Solandia]

i don't potty train with pull ups or underwear. Parents put pulls up on kids way to early in the potty training process, and they hold practically nothing, and I would rather clean up BM in a diaper, not a pullup. It is akward to me, and messier in a pullup. AND I have to take off their pants completely to put on a new one. Time consuming.

Potty training is ongoing from birth on...we talk about changing diapers while changing them, what was in them, etc. As they get older, we talk about those things going in the potty and wearing underwear instead of a crinkly diaper. When they have a dry diaper at diaper changing time, I will sit them on the potty for a minute. About half the time they go at first....eventually they will go right away. If I can tell they are starting to 'hide' or have a special spot for their BMs, I grab then quick and put them on the potty. It has worked for several children over the years, some as young as 16mo, some as old as 3.5yo. It is low stress, no pressure, no making into a huge project of success & failure.

My limits: I will not have an incompletely trained child in underwear. Not taking the child every 15min to the potty. It becomes too stressful for the child AND for me. I will not have a child under 3yo sit on the potty for more than a minute without success. I cannot leave a child under 3yo in the bathroom alone, and I cannot leave a room of toddlers and preschoolers alone. I will not use some overly complex treat/reward system for peeing & pooping in the potty that the parent came up with, and I have seen some real crazy ones, too.

[nannyde]

I feel very confused as to why I'm having so much difficulty potty training my daughter who is now 18-1/2 months, and would really appreciate any advice. Back then my son was around 23-24 months - it took about 4 days for him to grasp the concept of eliminating in the potty and he had progressively fewer accidents relatively soon. I started potty training my daughter at 15+ months using the same methods as she had displayed clear interest in sitting on the potty, and also watches her older brother, etc. It has been about 3 months, and I've had mixed results.

My biggest confusion is I feel that my daughter understands the idea of eliminating in the potty, but for the most part, she still relies on my keeping an eye on her closely. For lack of better terms, she still doesn't know how to pee "on command" when i put her on the potty. The times she has gone in the potty are mostly when she is SO close to peeing, and I end of rushing her over, etc. It's about 3 months since i've started potty training, is this normal? Perhaps is she still too young for potty training?

I would be so truly grateful for any advice you may have for me.

I don't have any experience potty training a child that young. The youngest one I have ever done was 22 months and that was only once with a child who I was doing one to one care on.

The average girl in my home is trained in the first quarter of the third year. The average boy is in the second quarter of his third year.

I think there are some providers here do before two training. Maybe they will come on to advise.