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I hate to say it, but there's no child that has been in my care that wasn't a relative or related to someone I knew before hand, that I really miss. Do you miss your former kids?
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I miss many of my former day care kids; some more than others. There are also a few that I don't miss at all.
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Actually I have a few... the families & I got real close and I am still friends with them
. One has been out of care 11 years but we still chat on FB (family lives in Japan). I become Nana to a bunch of newborns and keep them just under 2 years - have always been treated as one of the family including weddings & birthdays for the ones that are close
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My first couple years of day care I had a wonderful little boy. When he went off to K he no longer came here (mom teaches at the school so he didn't need b/a care) but one day they had a teacher inservice day so mom asked if I could take him. He had only been gone a couple months at this point. The other dck's were so thrilled to see him and he just looked like a deer in the headlights. At one point he was trying to get away from everyone and hollered "I DONT EVEN REMEMBER YOU!!!"
That was my lightbulb moment.
Three years of care, gone for maybe three months tops, and he didn't even remember us... So yeah, I enjoy them when they're here.Comment
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That is a horrible story!My first couple years of day care I had a wonderful little boy. When he went off to K he no longer came here (mom teaches at the school so he didn't need b/a care) but one day they had a teacher inservice day so mom asked if I could take him. He had only been gone a couple months at this point. The other dck's were so thrilled to see him and he just looked like a deer in the headlights. At one point he was trying to get away from everyone and hollered "I DONT EVEN REMEMBER YOU!!!"
That was my lightbulb moment.
Three years of care, gone for maybe three months tops, and he didn't even remember us... So yeah, I enjoy them when they're here.Comment
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It's so odd that I switched from my Facebook page to this website and saw this post. I literally just wrote a comment on one of my former daycare kids' parent's Facebook post. I am Facebook friends with the parents, but we haven't seen each other in over a year. I watched their little girl from age 18 months until 5 years old when she entered kindergarten. I miss all of them something awful! I felt more like an aunt to the little girl and really got along with her parents more like close friends rather than a client/provider relationship. When she left my care, it literally broke my heart! I cried for weeks about missing her! We visited each other a few times for the first few months after she left, but drifted away from each other eventually.
I also have moments when I think of my very first daycare child 25 years ago. She was the coolest kid! She was fun, hard (she didn't cry at the drop of a hat), you could joke around with her, she was sweet and loving, and helpful. I started watching her when she was 3 years old and kept her until she was in 2nd or 3rd grade. My oldest daughter was a newborn when I started watching her and she was practically like a big sister to my oldest daughter. I happened to come across her family a couple of years ago and they invited me to a parade in their area and to their family get-together. I enjoyed seeing them, but again, we didn't really keep in touch. I have moved about 1/2 hour away from where they live (they still live where I used to live when I watched her). So, due to the distance between us, we don't get together. But we are Facebook friends, so we keep in touch there.
I have a couple of other kids that I really connected with and think of often. Actually, my younger daughter is named after one of my previous daycare kids! Here's that story... My older daughter and I were sitting outside having a picnic dinner one day. She looked up at the sky and told me that the babies were crying. I asked her "What babies were crying and why are they crying?" She told me that the babies in Heaven are crying because one of them wants me to be her mommy. A couple of days later, I found out that I was pregnant! So, when I told my older daughter that I was pregnant, she said that she wanted the baby to be a girl and wanted her name to be 'such and such' just like 'so and so' (her friend's name in my daycare). So, we named the baby after the daycare kid just like my daughter wanted us to do. The sad part is that I stopped watching that daycare child before we decided to name my daughter after her, so she has no idea that we named our baby after her which I would love to tell her because I think that she would think it's neat to have someone named after her.
There was another little boy who was just the cutest and sweetest thing. He was about 1 1/2 years old when I started watching him and my older daughter took to him as if he was her baby brother. His mother and I ran into each other in the mall a few years ago and they came over to visit, but that was the only time we've seen each other since I stopped watching him. I knew he wouldn't have a clue who I was since he was 3 years old when I stopped watching him and 3 years had gone by.
There was another little girl who was just the sweetest thing. She was 3 years old. She connected with my personal children and was more like their little sister and her mother and I connected really well.
So yes, I do have some of my former kids that my personal kids and I really connected with who I do miss.Comment
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Some... sorry to say I couldn't wait to see them go.
Some I miss every single day.
Several I have kept in close contact with for many years.
This is my most favorite daycare kid ever............with her own son!
She's 27 now and we talk on the phone often and chat on FB almost daily.. She came to me at 6 weeks old and it broke my heart to leave her when we moved away when she was three. We have never lost contact. I have photos of her going to KG.....graduating high school, graduating college, getting married and having her son etc.
...and yet I forget the names of kids who left 6 months ago! Go figure!Attached FilesComment
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I had an experience like this once. It was that the mother couldn't find a spot for the girl for the day I took her in under the impression she liked being here. There were a few issues. Mostly that she was a bully. She was always a bully mean girl type. She said to me in a really mean tone "This is why I don't come here any more. I told my mom I don't like it here". I lost it and said "Good, you might boss her around. You're not the boss here". I let her have a fit over little thing.My first couple years of day care I had a wonderful little boy. When he went off to K he no longer came here (mom teaches at the school so he didn't need b/a care) but one day they had a teacher inservice day so mom asked if I could take him. He had only been gone a couple months at this point. The other dck's were so thrilled to see him and he just looked like a deer in the headlights. At one point he was trying to get away from everyone and hollered "I DONT EVEN REMEMBER YOU!!!"
That was my lightbulb moment.
Three years of care, gone for maybe three months tops, and he didn't even remember us... So yeah, I enjoy them when they're here.Comment
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When I closed down last year, a few parents commented on how hard the transition would be for the child, they'd miss me, etc. I reminded them that their child would take their cues from the parents and that, in all honesty, the children probably wouldn't remember me in a few months. They didn't believe it and yet.... ran into a few of them about 6 months later and they didn't remember me.My first couple years of day care I had a wonderful little boy. When he went off to K he no longer came here (mom teaches at the school so he didn't need b/a care) but one day they had a teacher inservice day so mom asked if I could take him. He had only been gone a couple months at this point. The other dck's were so thrilled to see him and he just looked like a deer in the headlights. At one point he was trying to get away from everyone and hollered "I DONT EVEN REMEMBER YOU!!!"
That was my lightbulb moment.
Three years of care, gone for maybe three months tops, and he didn't even remember us... So yeah, I enjoy them when they're here.
Having said that, I do get attached to my kiddos. I miss the majority once they move on. I do have a few that I miss dearly and a few that, well, not so much.
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Definitely some. I had a former dcm and her 8 yo drop by Friday to visit. They both gave me hugs and said how much they missed me and loved me. Dcb said 'how about a game of cards?' Ironic because this was a little guy who was(and still is!) very physically aggressive so I was always on his case. But it's good to know he has fond memories.
I'd had him since he was a big blue-eyed bald happy baby. And his dear sweet 11 yo sister, I miss her so much. Then there's another sweet little girl who turned 8 this past May, I miss her terribly. The 2 older girls I have this summer I will miss with all my heart, plus their brother who is now 14. Egad, the 11 yo started coming when she was 18 months.
Most of them I miss terribly in the beginning but then you get new children, your time and life gets filled again. Before you know it a year, then 2, has gone by and you're thinking...hmm wonder whatever happened to so-n-so.
And yes, then there are the few that you go through the motions, hope they do well, but cannot wait until they start school. Let's face it, we can't bond 100% with all of them.
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I very lightly miss the boy that started my career in childcare, like when I see beyblades or someone who looks like him. I'm glad they gave me the chance they did.
Now that summer camp is almost over, I will miss this gang that I got to know for 12 weeks. Some more then others.
I'm excited to see my Afterschool kids again, the ones that didn't go to camp. I can't wait for their stories, quirks and chaos. Its sad knowing some will not be coming back for various reason, but they always somehow find me. I've gotten so many visits and "run ins" over the summer its like they never leave..
Although I'm a very guarded selectively social person, I make it a point to bond with any kids that come into my care. They become my children therefore when they leave they take a tiny piece of me. I don't mind because its the reason I love my job.
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