Soothers

[childcaremom]

Bringing up this debate again, sort of.

13 mos old has soother only at nap. Every so often she will throw it over the pack n play and then have a meltdown that she can't get it. I never get it for her and refuse to do this.

So she has been protesting for the past hour. Le sigh.

Has anyone weaned a child from the soother at daycare prior to them being weaned at home? Is this something that you would discuss with parents or just do it? I don't know. It doesn't seem like a big issue to me but maybe some parents would prefer to be consulted with this first?

I am more in line with it is in the best interest of the group for this little one to sleep and not wake the others. This happens about 2 times a week and is disruptive for the others. I have 2 other littles starting in a month and would like to get her adjusted prior to them coming if I am going to do it.

She is otherwise a good napper. If she wakes early she will play quietly until rest time is over..... unless she has tossed the soother.

She was an all day soother-er when she started. I just took it out one day a few weeks ago and forgot to put it back. She's been fine and is actually much more verbal and seems to have adjusted a lot better once it was gone. So already I have cut back on her time with it a lot.

Thoughts?

[finsup]

Bringing up this debate again, sort of.

13 mos old has soother only at nap. Every so often she will throw it over the pack n play and then have a meltdown that she can't get it. I never get it for her and refuse to do this.

So she has been protesting for the past hour. Le sigh.

Has anyone weaned a child from the soother at daycare prior to them being weaned at home? Is this something that you would discuss with parents or just do it? I don't know. It doesn't seem like a big issue to me but maybe some parents would prefer to be consulted with this first?

I am more in line with it is in the best interest of the group for this little one to sleep and not wake the others. This happens about 2 times a week and is disruptive for the others. I have 2 other littles starting in a month and would like to get her adjusted prior to them coming if I am going to do it.

She is otherwise a good napper. If she wakes early she will play quietly until rest time is over..... unless she has tossed the soother.

She was an all day soother-er when she started. I just took it out one day a few weeks ago and forgot to put it back. She's been fine and is actually much more verbal and seems to have adjusted a lot better once it was gone. So already I have cut back on her time with it a lot.

Thoughts?

Yup, dcb 2yrs has that thing in his mouth all the time still at home. He comes in with it, promptly hands it to me upon arrival and it goes in his bag. It doesn't even come out at nap anymore and there have been no problems. I didn't say anything to dcp's about weaning him, just what I start doing around 1. Dcd (drops off/picks up) is amazed that he just hands it over and doesn't understand how I did it :: I would only discuss it with a parent if I wanted them to do it at home too. Otherwise they may say something like "we would prefer dck to have it during the day" etc and well, to me, that wouldn't be an option. It's like if I tell my 4 year old he can have anything he wants for breakfast and he chooses ice cream. I then say no, you can't have that. Well he never really had a choice, I knew in my head what I wanted him to say but that didn't happen. Which would of course make him angry and annoyed. Same with dcp's if they don't really have a choice, they don't get asked

[laundrymom]

I always seem to "lose" them in the toys somewhere every day until they don't need it anymore. At which point I pull it out at drop off and hand it to mom.
"She doesn't use this here"
And open the door for her to leave.
I'm mean I guess but only young infants use paci's here. Under a yr.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

Bringing up this debate again, sort of.

13 mos old has soother only at nap. Every so often she will throw it over the pack n play and then have a meltdown that she can't get it. I never get it for her and refuse to do this.

So she has been protesting for the past hour. Le sigh.

Has anyone weaned a child from the soother at daycare prior to them being weaned at home? Is this something that you would discuss with parents or just do it? I don't know. It doesn't seem like a big issue to me but maybe some parents would prefer to be consulted with this first?

I am more in line with it is in the best interest of the group for this little one to sleep and not wake the others. This happens about 2 times a week and is disruptive for the others. I have 2 other littles starting in a month and would like to get her adjusted prior to them coming if I am going to do it.

She is otherwise a good napper. If she wakes early she will play quietly until rest time is over..... unless she has tossed the soother.

She was an all day soother-er when she started. I just took it out one day a few weeks ago and forgot to put it back. She's been fine and is actually much more verbal and seems to have adjusted a lot better once it was gone. So already I have cut back on her time with it a lot.

Thoughts?

I had the same issue with my almost two year old dcg and a few posters (blackcat and Meeko, I beliee) on here told me to do a pacifier spot and it has worked wonders. When dcg wants her paci, she goes to my loveseat, where it stays, and will chill with it for a minute, and then when she is ready to play, she leaves it on the couch and goes to play. She gets it for comfort, but doesn't get to carry it around. It has worked really well for me! I feel bad not giving it to her, since she gets it at home 24/7 and also cause she cries and whines the WHOLE day if I don't let her have it, but I also don't want her having it in her mouth all day, so this works because she gets bored on the couch while we are playing, so she seems to need it less and less here.

[racemom]

Most of our pacifier users stop at daycare long before home. Once they are old enough to sit and play, pacifiers are for nap only. When they move to a cot, pacifiers don't. We move to cots usually between 9 and 12 months, and then do not get their pacifier at nap anymore. I also have done if they throw it put of their pack and play they do not get it back. After a few days of no pacifier we give it to the parents and tell them dck no longer uses it here. Some parents think we are making them grow up to fast by doing that, but it works!

[stephanie]

I've had several dcks who are totally paci-free at daycare (even at nap) but get it whenever they want at home.

I would start weaning dcg from the paci at nap, then after a few days or a week and she goes asleep and stays asleep without it, just casually mention to dcm that she hasn't been using it at daycare.

[midaycare]

I wean before dcf's do. If I waited for them, it would never happen!

I have lots of washable stuffies to snuggle with. Blankets are allowed for nap - and nap only. Must remain in bag.

[Unregistered]

I agree get rid of it no need to tell the parents I get rid if these like that right before 1 usually 10months/11months, no pacifier(no need to wash constantly if thrown no searching for it everywhere), no bottle(I hate bottles leaking everywhere).it might take a few a days or a week but kid will get used to it.

[childcaremom]

Thanks for the advice

Will start to wean her from it today.