Not Sure What to Think - Peanut Allergy

[Blackcat31]

It's not lying. Blackcat says her DH eats Peanut M&Ms to elevate his blood sugar; my daughter eats miniature peanut butter cups. We also eat a lot
of peanut butter. And I do a lot of Asian-style cooking with peanut oil. Truly,
it would be a huge lifestyle change, and it definitely wouldn't be fair to DD.
When she calls I'm just going to appeal to her as a reasonable human being and tell her that what she is demanding is not something that I can do and hope that she is rational about it.

His Dr put it in writing. (bet your DD's doctor would be willing to as well)

The chocolate helps bring it up quickly and the peanuts help it remain stable.
Peanut M&M's don't melt like Snickers bars so they are easy to grab and bring with us. He will eat a Snickers too (chocolate and peanuts too) but they melt in the summer.

[nannyde]

It's not lying. Blackcat says her DH eats Peanut M&Ms to elevate his blood sugar; my daughter eats miniature peanut butter cups. We also eat a lot
of peanut butter. And I do a lot of Asian-style cooking with peanut oil. Truly,
it would be a huge lifestyle change, and it definitely wouldn't be fair to DD.
When she calls I'm just going to appeal to her as a reasonable human being and tell her that what she is demanding is not something that I can do and hope that she is rational about it.

Don't appeal... just TELL her.

No fuss
No muss
She has a child with a special need. She will understand that the child who needs to have access to peanuts must have her needs met. Tell her you have had the child from birth and you can not terminate as the child is protected under the disability act

[Unregistered]

She hasn't technically started yet. Call mom right away and tell her that you are no longer going to be able to provide care for this child. Tell her its a safety issue in that her child can not be around peanut products and as this is your home as well as business. Your family enjoys many peanut products including in the daycare area and you can not quarantee there isn't a transfer of nut product to the child and as a result you are terminating the contract for her childs health and safety. You can also not guarantee any parent doesn't bring a peanut product into the center on their hands or person at drop off or pick up. Return any payment immediately. Wish her good luck perhaps also suggest with this new information she has discovered that perhaps hiring a nanny to watch the child in the safety of her own home would be more beneficial.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

It's not lying. Blackcat says her DH eats Peanut M&Ms to elevate his blood sugar; my daughter eats miniature peanut butter cups. We also eat a lot
of peanut butter. And I do a lot of Asian-style cooking with peanut oil. Truly,
it would be a huge lifestyle change, and it definitely wouldn't be fair to DD.
When she calls I'm just going to appeal to her as a reasonable human being and tell her that what she is demanding is not something that I can do and hope that she is rational about it.

I am so curious to hear how the phone call goes! I know some say to call, but since she texted and emailed you about the allergy, maybe you could just shoot her an email and save yourself the headache? Something like "I am so sorry to hear of LO's allergy! I totally understand you need for a peanut free environment, but I will not be able to accommodate that as I have a child who has been with me since birth and has a medical need for peanut products, per her doctor's orders and I will not be able to provide a nut free environment. There are centers who may be better able to accommodate LO's allergy. Thank you so much for your interest and best of luck in your childcare search!" If you have received a deposit, just let her know you will tear it up or send it back to her or whatever and then leave it at that.

[Tasha]

I emailed her and simply said that I cannot reasonably handle the accommodations she requires because peanuts are a necessary and integral part of a diet of a child in my care who also has special needs. I also told her that I would return her deposit by mail. I wrote it with a nice tone, and now I'm just hoping she'll accept it and not contact me. Honestly, the last 24 hours have been unbelievably nerve-wracking to me, and I don't even think I've done anything wrong.

[nannyde]

I am so curious to hear how the phone call goes! I know some say to call, but since she texted and emailed you about the allergy, maybe you could just shoot her an email and save yourself the headache? Something like "I am so sorry to hear of LO's allergy! I totally understand you need for a peanut free environment, but I will not be able to accommodate that as I have a child who has been with me since birth and has a medical need for peanut products, per her doctor's orders and I will not be able to provide a nut free environment. There are centers who may be better able to accommodate LO's allergy. Thank you so much for your interest and best of luck in your childcare search!" If you have received a deposit, just let her know you will tear it up or send it back to her or whatever and then leave it at that.

This but don't use "her" or him

[Tasha]

Her response to my email

"I am very disappointed and distressed about your decision and I will call you
later tonight to discuss further.''

[MyAngels]

I emailed her and simply said that I cannot reasonably handle the accommodations she requires because peanuts are a necessary and integral part of a diet of a child in my care who also has special needs. I also told her that I would return her deposit by mail. I wrote it with a nice tone, and now I'm just hoping she'll accept it and not contact me. Honestly, the last 24 hours have been unbelievably nerve-wracking to me, and I don't even think I've done anything wrong.

Good for you! I'm sure she'll be reasonable (fingers crossed). Let us know how it ends up

[Tasha]

Good for you! I'm sure she'll be reasonable (fingers crossed). Let us know how it ends up

See post above. I don't think she's in a reasonable frame of mind, and now
this thing will just continue.

[Rockgirl]

"I am very disappointed and distressed about your decision and I will call you
later tonight to discuss further.''

Not sure what she thinks there is to discuss. Don't let her bully you!

[nannyde]

"I am very disappointed and distressed about your decision and I will call you
later tonight to discuss further.''

I won't be available to discuss this tonight as I am conducting interviews for the slot. I am not at liberty to discuss this further as I am obligated to maintain confidentiality for the special needs child in my care. The child qualifies under the Disability Act which requires I keep all medical information confidential including treatments the child is currently receiving. As the parent of a special needs child who qualifies under the Disability Act I am certain you understand.

The good news is that we just met a couple of days ago and had only one interview. I am SO thankful we didn't have peanut products out and on our person during the interview. It could have been a devastating outcome since you were unaware of your child's allergy at that time. We can all be grateful nothing happened to your precious child.

I would encourage you to notify any prospective provider BEFORE the interview as peanut products are a highly used source of nutrition in nearly every daycare. With your daughter's severe allergy, she could come upon it by simply entering the home.

Good luck in your search.

[Thriftylady]

i won't be available to discuss this tonight as i am conducting interviews for the slot. I am not at liberty to discuss this further as i am obligated to maintain confidentiality for the special needs child in my care. The child qualifies under the disability act which requires i keep all medical information confidential including treatments the child is currently receiving. As the parent of a special needs child who qualifies under the disability act i am certain you understand.

The good news is that we just met a couple of days ago and had only one interview. I am so thankful we didn't have peanut products out and on our person during the interview. It could have been a devastating outcome since you were unaware of your child's allergy at that time. We can all be grateful nothing happened to your precious child.

I would encourage you to notify any prospective provider before the interview as peanut products are a highly used source of nutrition in nearly every daycare. With your daughter's severe allergy, she could come upon it by simply entering the home.

Good luck in your search.

this!!!!

[childcaremom]

I won't be available to discuss this tonight as I am conducting interviews for the slot. I am not at liberty to discuss this further as I am obligated to maintain confidentiality for the special needs child in my care. The child qualifies under the Disability Act which requires I keep all medical information confidential including treatments the child is currently receiving. As the parent of a special needs child who qualifies under the Disability Act I am certain you understand.

The good news is that we just met a couple of days ago and had only one interview. I am SO thankful we didn't have peanut products out and on our person during the interview. It could have been a devastating outcome since you were unaware of your child's allergy at that time. We can all be grateful nothing happened to your precious child.

I would encourage you to notify any prospective provider BEFORE the interview as peanut products are a highly used source of nutrition in nearly every daycare. With your daughter's severe allergy, she could come upon it by simply entering the home.

Good luck in your search.

I wouldn't even answer the phone.

[Tasha]

I won't be available to discuss this tonight as I am conducting interviews for the slot. I am not at liberty to discuss this further as I am obligated to maintain confidentiality for the special needs child in my care. The child qualifies under the Disability Act which requires I keep all medical information confidential including treatments the child is currently receiving. As the parent of a special needs child who qualifies under the Disability Act I am certain you understand.

The good news is that we just met a couple of days ago and had only one interview. I am SO thankful we didn't have peanut products out and on our person during the interview. It could have been a devastating outcome since you were unaware of your child's allergy at that time. We can all be grateful nothing happened to your precious child.

I would encourage you to notify any prospective provider BEFORE the interview as peanut products are a highly used source of nutrition in nearly every daycare. With your daughter's severe allergy, she could come upon it by simply entering the home.

Good luck in your search.

I love this letter but don't you think she will think I am taunting her with the bolded part?

[daycare]

this!!!!

I would let her call and I would tell her what nan said. I would make certain to make it clear that it's not matter of CANT it's a matter of WILL NOT.