I am a registered user and posted previously about a dcm who was not comfortable with me taking her 2 year old to the splash pad. She ended up having grandma watch dcg while we went and then she was dropped off after lunch. I understand her nerves (first time mom and definitely a helicopter mom), but since then, I have been thinking about it and getting stressed. I run a small group so that we have the freedom to leave and go do the fun activities the community has to offer, but now, this one mom is making that impossible. There have been quite a few times where we all wanted to go to the splash pad, but we couldn't because I know her mom would flip and not be okay with it.
I went ahead and decided to talk to her about it. Again, it is not about her being uncomfortable, but more about finding a solution so that the other kids and I have the freedom to do these activities, and either leave dcg with grandma or have her come with, so I explained that and she said "it's not you that I don't trust, its the other kids". That kind of insulted me. I don't trust other kids either, which is why it is my job to protect my kids and keep them safe and teach them how to interact with other kids safely as well. If there are too many kids at the splash pad and I am not comfortable, we don't go!
Anyway, she left very quietly and seemingly annoyed, but I am not sure and I don't know how to handle this now. She is a great friend of mine, so ending our relationship will be very difficult, but I have such a hard time working with someone who doesn't trust me. This is my 17th year of childcare and he 2nd year of being a parent, but by the way she talks, you would think she has been doing it for ages!
Anyway, sorry for the long post, but I guess I just needed to type this out to feel better. I was very nice about what I need for my daycare and for me, so the ball is in her court, but I guess it just bugs me because I KNOW she doesn't trust me, but if it comes to me or someone else who would be a total stranger, I am the lesser of two evils in her eyes. And that is not a place I want to be. Does that make sense? Any words of encouragement? TIA!
I went ahead and decided to talk to her about it. Again, it is not about her being uncomfortable, but more about finding a solution so that the other kids and I have the freedom to do these activities, and either leave dcg with grandma or have her come with, so I explained that and she said "it's not you that I don't trust, its the other kids". That kind of insulted me. I don't trust other kids either, which is why it is my job to protect my kids and keep them safe and teach them how to interact with other kids safely as well. If there are too many kids at the splash pad and I am not comfortable, we don't go!
Anyway, she left very quietly and seemingly annoyed, but I am not sure and I don't know how to handle this now. She is a great friend of mine, so ending our relationship will be very difficult, but I have such a hard time working with someone who doesn't trust me. This is my 17th year of childcare and he 2nd year of being a parent, but by the way she talks, you would think she has been doing it for ages!
Anyway, sorry for the long post, but I guess I just needed to type this out to feel better. I was very nice about what I need for my daycare and for me, so the ball is in her court, but I guess it just bugs me because I KNOW she doesn't trust me, but if it comes to me or someone else who would be a total stranger, I am the lesser of two evils in her eyes. And that is not a place I want to be. Does that make sense? Any words of encouragement? TIA!
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