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My baby has started crawling and pulling up, even using the other kids for leverage. I taught them to freeze and call for help if she bothers them. I would swear I learned that from Nannyd, but since she says she doesn't mix ages, it must have been someone else here. Sometimes, they allow it patiently, sometimes they call for help with varying degrees of angst. Mostly, they hand over a few blocks or animals. If they go in her mouth, they will pitch them in the dirty toy basket. Yesterday, the 2 yo boy was feeding a doll. He ended up showing the baby how to give the doll a bottle. It was adorable.
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You did. Its a technique she calls "surrender to the baby"
You can find it here: https://www.daycare.com/nannyde/?s=s...er+to+the+babyComment
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I thought so. All I know is that it works miracles. I have a 2 yo stroke survivor with rage issues. Last fall, I took a micro-preemie just a month out of NICU. I started teaching him the first day, long before we were even doing tummy time with her. Nine months later, he can be in the middle of a rage, and when curious baby tries to approach him, he backs away or calms down. He has nudged her with his foot once, and I think he was appalled with himself.
. He was largely non-verbal until recently. I think he learned to say my name because of the baby.
He has added "help" to his vocabulary now.Comment
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I agree with what everyone else said, but I also have to add that it really makes me sad to think of older children treating babies that way. Right now I have two infants, one toddler and three preschoolers. All of the older children just love the babies lovethis.
I have always taught my older kids that they are the "teachers" to the young babies, just as they were "taught" by the older kids in care when they were tiny. Not just this group, but through the years my kids have always been great with the tiny ones.
I sincerely hope I don't run end up enrolling any "flower children" before I'm old enough to retire. I'm not sure how I'd handle that
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I would not mix a crawler in with my older three and four year olds. I start SLOWLY integrating them when they are fully walking and have the rooms divided up so that the new walker can play with everything on his side. I don't have a multi level aged group room where a baby cruises in and out of the older kids play.
If I mix a baby with a new walker there is an adult within feet of the children and it is for brief times to work with the walker to stay off and away from the baby.
I have a video of integrating a new walker into the one and two year old side of the room and how yo train everyone off the babies.
When I say surrender to the baby non walking infants I mean leave them and their stuff alone. Don't touch or go near.
I've seen too many deals in my career of older kids falling on or tripping over babies when babies are allowed in their play area. Also, when there are infant injuries it is common for the provider to blame it on an older child falling or harming the baby. It puts the provider under great suspicion when this claim is made because it is SO common when a baby gets a broken leg or internal injuries.Comment
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I would set up expectations each day before play started.
I'd say the baby will be close to you and touching you today. That's what will happen when you are here.
I'd ignore the older kids negative baby remarks to a point.
I'd notice and comment to kids who were kind to the baby.
If kids said this to a baby who grabbed two blocks and sat up and knocked them together and they complained I'd say, "You can continue to play with everyone including baby or sit at the table doing table toys where baby can't reach...it's your choice. I'd be using my firm voice and look!
If it continued I'd be firmer and firmer and direct them to the table each time without a choice. I'm sure I'd being saying oh no! Absolutely NOT! Go find a toy at the table. Play would be limited if it continued.Comment
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