My same problem family.
In a nutshell:
*questions every time I enforce a policy
*has been here 5 weeks
Thursday night they were late for pick up and late fees were due. There was road construction. I am not sure if dcm was aware of construction or not. My policy is late fees are due regardless of reason why you are late.
Friday morning, dcd drops off. He then asks if it is fair if I charge late fees for something that they can't control. I state it is in my policies regardless of reason. He repeats that they can't control it. I suggest they have an alternate for pick up. He says that no one would have been able to get here due to traffic. There are 3 ways in to my subdivision. Then he says it doesn't matter that they couldn't get here b/c I would not be able to get out anyways to get my own children. ???? I just repeat that it's my policy. He hands over the late fees and leaves.
So I am steaming for plenty of reasons.
*Is it fair? Seriously?
How about, it is my policy. Period. How about, now I will have late fees for my own kids, do you think I will ask their caregiver if it is fair to have to pay them? How about, I am working extra unscheduled time and should be compensated for it? Argh.
Go on about our morning. Their little guy is acting off so I put him down for an early morning cat nap. Wake him for snack and he seems off still. I make a comment that he looks sick. His sister says that he is sick. Mommy had him in bed and said he felt really warm. So I always take what dcks tell me with a grain of salt, but seriously? You think he may be getting sick and drop him off anyway?
I call for pick up. Tell dcps that dcb has a fever and the kids will need to be picked up within an hour. My policy is one pu/do per day per family. Dcd questions me on having to pu dcg. Seriously. IT IS MY POLICY. That is all I said. Dcd says he will be here in 10 mins.
I get dcks ready, we are by the door....... for 50 mins. They almost got late fees, again, and actually I would have termed if they were late.
So.
I am actively looking to replace. It is dry out there. The most I am getting are requests for care in August. That is 9 weeks away! I will only have 1 dcb if I term now. Money is a factor but not a deciding issue.
My dh thinks I should write a letter and tell them that continuing to challenge my policies is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. He says it will either make them shape up or ship out. I feel like the air needs to be cleared but don't want to make it uncomfortable, kwim? Just a matter of fact, this is the way it is going to be, we cannot continue on like this. Not an ultimatum type letter I guess.
What do you all think?
I am writing this out and thinking to myself, just term already. I guess, though, I am looking for advice on how to continue this relationship. Standing my ground. Without dealing with anymore challenges. Is it possible?
In a nutshell:
*questions every time I enforce a policy
*has been here 5 weeks
Thursday night they were late for pick up and late fees were due. There was road construction. I am not sure if dcm was aware of construction or not. My policy is late fees are due regardless of reason why you are late.
Friday morning, dcd drops off. He then asks if it is fair if I charge late fees for something that they can't control. I state it is in my policies regardless of reason. He repeats that they can't control it. I suggest they have an alternate for pick up. He says that no one would have been able to get here due to traffic. There are 3 ways in to my subdivision. Then he says it doesn't matter that they couldn't get here b/c I would not be able to get out anyways to get my own children. ???? I just repeat that it's my policy. He hands over the late fees and leaves.
So I am steaming for plenty of reasons.
*Is it fair? Seriously?
How about, it is my policy. Period. How about, now I will have late fees for my own kids, do you think I will ask their caregiver if it is fair to have to pay them? How about, I am working extra unscheduled time and should be compensated for it? Argh.
Go on about our morning. Their little guy is acting off so I put him down for an early morning cat nap. Wake him for snack and he seems off still. I make a comment that he looks sick. His sister says that he is sick. Mommy had him in bed and said he felt really warm. So I always take what dcks tell me with a grain of salt, but seriously? You think he may be getting sick and drop him off anyway?
I call for pick up. Tell dcps that dcb has a fever and the kids will need to be picked up within an hour. My policy is one pu/do per day per family. Dcd questions me on having to pu dcg. Seriously. IT IS MY POLICY. That is all I said. Dcd says he will be here in 10 mins.
I get dcks ready, we are by the door....... for 50 mins. They almost got late fees, again, and actually I would have termed if they were late.
So.
I am actively looking to replace. It is dry out there. The most I am getting are requests for care in August. That is 9 weeks away! I will only have 1 dcb if I term now. Money is a factor but not a deciding issue.
My dh thinks I should write a letter and tell them that continuing to challenge my policies is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. He says it will either make them shape up or ship out. I feel like the air needs to be cleared but don't want to make it uncomfortable, kwim? Just a matter of fact, this is the way it is going to be, we cannot continue on like this. Not an ultimatum type letter I guess.
What do you all think?
I am writing this out and thinking to myself, just term already. I guess, though, I am looking for advice on how to continue this relationship. Standing my ground. Without dealing with anymore challenges. Is it possible?
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