Preschoolers in Diapers. . .

[spedmommy4]

I tend to agree with Blackcat as well. That said, I have enrolled children in diapers who show all the signs of readiness and ask to use the potty here. I am sure developmental readiness plays a factor, but I feel like size 6 disposable diapers and pull ups have made the grown ups a little less motivated to work on it. Kwim?

[preschoolteacher]

I agree with BC in that I think different kids are developmentally ready a little bit later, and that current parenting trends of potty training at later ages (3, 4) are more on-par with what kids really need.

THAT BEING SAID... I would not enroll a child over 3 years old who wasn't fully potty trained.

I've had 9 kids go through potty training here in the last 2 years. The earliest was completely independent just before 2.5 years old. I had two more potty train at 2.5 years, and the other 6 all potty trained RIGHT before 3 years old. Some of the young 3 year olds are still working on it but are basically there.

Every provider should be aware of what she/he will and will not do in the job. I will not be changing the diaper of a 3+ year old who is not almost potty trained. It's not for me.

[Blackcat31]

Maybe this is a California thing but I am getting more and more calls from parents with 3 year olds (some nearly 4) who are nowhere near toilet trained. Do you all have age cut offs for accepting unpotty trained kiddos or policies regarding children this age with that have parents that aren't working on it? If you have policies, and don't mind sharing, I would love to see them. I'm considering revising mine.

I used to cringe when I saw 3 and 4 yr olds in diapers but as time has gone on, I've learned more about child development as well as parenting....its become clear that more parents are training according to their child's developmental needs verses just training because the child is 2.

Some kids simply aren't ready to be trained at 2 or 3 or 4 even. Like every skill a child masters in the first 5 yrs of their life, it's individualized.

I have learned that forcing a child before THEY show signs of readiness makes the process longer and tougher for everyone involved. If a child isn't started until they are demonstrating they are ready, then the process isn't really training at all as it seems to happen a bit more naturally.

However, with that being said... as a provider I do not involve myself in toilet training until near completion of the process.

Once a parent has made significant progress at home and the child has mastered certain skills in MY environment then I will start supporting the process. Until then, I play no role in it.

I will PM you my toilet training page.

[Controlled Chaos]

It would depend. I have an almost 4yo who still has poo accidents luckily he only poos at home

I would not accept a child over the age of 2 who wasn't potty trained. BUT if I am already carrying for a child who isn't fully trained until 3, I don't mind.

I just tell families who call "I only accept potty trained over the age of 2."

[spedmommy4]

Maybe this is a California thing but I am getting more and more calls from parents with 3 year olds (some nearly 4) who are nowhere near toilet trained. Do you all have age cut offs for accepting unpotty trained kiddos or policies regarding children this age with that have parents that aren't working on it? If you have policies, and don't mind sharing, I would love to see them. I'm considering revising mine.