Preschoolers in Diapers. . .

[Unregistered]

I'm not changing a poopy anything. The pull-ups are for an extra layer of security, just incase they have an accident. The kids sit on the potty every hour and if they show any signs of needing a potty in between those hourly visits then they sit on the potty then as well. I reeeeeally do not believe that a child older than 2 needs a diaper. In my experience with my own kids, my experience in the center I worked at, and with the daycare kids I have now, I've never met a child that can't be potty trained by their 3rd birthday IF the parent is willing to put in the work.

This is exactly the kind of comment that is making me cry.
Four weeks into potty training my nearly three year old I have gotten no progress at all except him screaming at me and laughing defiantly every time he sets and poops himself (I'm not calling it an accident when he laughs and pees right as I put on a clean pair of underpants after saying "I don't have to pee when he is sitting on the potty).

I guess I'm just a crappy parent. I have two weeks before I have to restart a job. He won't be potty trained and his daycare won't take him back. I have no other options so that's it.

And yes I've tried literally everything. I'm just a bad lazy stupid parent.

[KiwiKids]

This is exactly the kind of comment that is making me cry.
Four weeks into potty training my nearly three year old I have gotten no progress at all except him screaming at me and laughing defiantly every time he sets and poops himself (I'm not calling it an accident when he laughs and pees right as I put on a clean pair of underpants after saying "I don't have to pee when he is sitting on the potty).

I guess I'm just a crappy parent. I have two weeks before I have to restart a job. He won't be potty trained and his daycare won't take him back. I have no other options so that's it.

And yes I've tried literally everything. I'm just a bad lazy stupid parent.

I've had the child that I tried everything with ( my own! ) after potty training so many kids over the years. He simply was not ready. I let it become a power struggle. Then one day he decided to use the potty and that was it. Day and night trained. No accidents. All in one day.

I know that doesn't help with the daycare situation, but some kids just take longer. The majority train around 2-3 but some kids are closer to 4yrs old when it happens.

[racemom]

I would start fresh in the morning. Tell him he is wearing big boy underwear, and if he makes a mess in them it is his responsibility to clean himself up. Explain to him he is big enough to use the toilet, and if he chooses not to poop in the toilet he will be expected to clean himself. And stick with it! It sounds like it has become a power struggle, and he is winning because you can't make him pee/poop on demand, give him the power, but make him face the consequences.

[Leigh]

This is exactly the kind of comment that is making me cry.
Four weeks into potty training my nearly three year old I have gotten no progress at all except him screaming at me and laughing defiantly every time he sets and poops himself (I'm not calling it an accident when he laughs and pees right as I put on a clean pair of underpants after saying "I don't have to pee when he is sitting on the potty).

I guess I'm just a crappy parent. I have two weeks before I have to restart a job. He won't be potty trained and his daycare won't take him back. I have no other options so that's it.

And yes I've tried literally everything. I'm just a bad lazy stupid parent.

I suggest finding a different daycare if the one you chose won't take a 2 year old who doesn't use the toilet. Some 2 year olds are capable, some are not. KiwiKids' example below says it all: they will do it when THEY are ready. The adult's job is to educate and facilitate. ONLY the child can decide when it is going to happen. We can push and prod all we want, but we can't force a child to eliminate on command-it has to be their choice. Don't make it a fight-just keep offering the toilet, offering encouragement and support, and stop fighting-only he can control where and when he eliminates.

I've had the child that I tried everything with ( my own! ) after potty training so many kids over the years. He simply was not ready. I let it become a power struggle. Then one day he decided to use the potty and that was it. Day and night trained. No accidents. All in one day.

I know that doesn't help with the daycare situation, but some kids just take longer. The majority train around 2-3 but some kids are closer to 4yrs old when it happens.

[hwichlaz]

May I ask you a question? My sister's nephew is 13 and wets the bed almost every night. They have taken him to the doctor and there is no medical reason for this. His mom is the sort that gets mad and has probably shamed him for it (I think they started PT when he was 2 or 3), so I am not sure if she has really helped the situation, so much as she has made it worse. She tells him he has to clean it up, but doesn't follow through, so their basement reeks like urine. This is also an issue for his sister who is 9, but not quite as bad. They have tried an alarm to wake him up at night, but he sleeps like the dead, and quite honestly, I think they are too lazy to get up and go wake him up to go. I feel bad for him, though, because he won't spend the night with his friends and it is definitely effecting his social life. Any advice on how to handle this? I dobt his mom will listen but maybe I can offer some hints in a subtle way. It is just so out of hand at this point, that I am really worried about it and he is not even my family!

At 13, it's not the parents that are lazy. He's hearing the alarm in the back of his mind, but isn't quite motivated enough to get up. Though, not following through on making him do the clean up IS lazy. If they aren't going to follow through, he should be in depends at night. It's not okay that he's sleeping in that. My ex husband wet the bed about onve a week until he was 12. He couldn't help it. BUT he could clean it up all on his own.