So over leaking diapers

[Cozy_Kids_Childcare]

I gave up a few weeks ago telling mom she needs to change dcg before she comes. She use to change her when she got here, but dcg would scream an roll around waking up everyone. So I told mom you need to change her before coming. Then it was the issue of cloth diapers leaking constantly and me sending child home with nothing but a diaper in the middle of winter. Mom never ever brings extra clothes only one set no matter how many times I ask. This morning dcg was having a fit so I took her from mom and sat her on the floor. Totally arching her back and just all out fit. I told her to let me kno when she was done and I stepped over her to go make bagels. Well I finished the bagels and came back in the livingroom to find two big wet circles. Her entire butt was soaked with pee.... Which meant my carpet was wet with pee..... How do you get it in the moms head that she needs to be changed before she gets here. She drops off right as I wake up my 9-year old for school and trying to get breakfast ready. She likes to use the excuse that her husband is deployed.... Yet she has a cleaning company so she doesn't clean her house (3-days a week). She has someone to cut her yard. She only gives her kids a bath maybe one time in 10-days. Not even joking on that one. She gives them candy every morning to get them to get in their car seat without a struggle. Yet doesn't want me to give them juice (Apple/orange) because of the sugar. Doesn't want older dck who just turned 4 to nap during the day because then she can't get him to go to bed at 7/730. My husband said that every time her daughter diapers leak onto the carpet then I need to charge her a service bill for sanitizer and extra cleaning I have to do. He was like a few of those and she won't forget to change her. Does anyone else charge a fee for this?

[mim]

I know it's probably no help, but i do not accept cloth diapers. If they use cloth diapers at home fine, but they must Arrive in a disposable one as well as provide disposable diapers for me at daycare.
I didn't use cloth diapers with my own kids so I am not going to use them with daycare kids. just my opinion. I work 65hrs a week so I make things as easy as possible for me. Paper plates, disposable cups, plastic silverware. If I could I would use disposable sauce and frying pans.

[Baby Beluga]

I gave up a few weeks ago telling mom she needs to change dcg before she comes. She use to change her when she got here, but dcg would scream an roll around waking up everyone. So I told mom you need to change her before coming. Then it was the issue of cloth diapers leaking constantly and me sending child home with nothing but a diaper in the middle of winter. Mom never ever brings extra clothes only one set no matter how many times I ask. This morning dcg was having a fit so I took her from mom and sat her on the floor. Totally arching her back and just all out fit. I told her to let me kno when she was done and I stepped over her to go make bagels. Well I finished the bagels and came back in the livingroom to find two big wet circles. Her entire butt was soaked with pee.... Which meant my carpet was wet with pee..... How do you get it in the moms head that she needs to be changed before she gets here. She drops off right as I wake up my 9-year old for school and trying to get breakfast ready. She likes to use the excuse that her husband is deployed.... Yet she has a cleaning company so she doesn't clean her house (3-days a week). She has someone to cut her yard. She only gives her kids a bath maybe one time in 10-days. Not even joking on that one. She gives them candy every morning to get them to get in their car seat without a struggle. Yet doesn't want me to give them juice (Apple/orange) because of the sugar. Doesn't want older dck who just turned 4 to nap during the day because then she can't get him to go to bed at 7/730. My husband said that every time her daughter diapers leak onto the carpet then I need to charge her a service bill for sanitizer and extra cleaning I have to do. He was like a few of those and she won't forget to change her. Does anyone else charge a fee for this?

Why in the world would someone not change their child before dropping off? I would be embarrassed to drop my child off with a dripping wet diaper...

I have not charged for this yet - but if I was in a situation similar to yours, I would not hesitate to. Especially if mom was not being cooperative.

As far as the extra clothes go - I have been there with one past DCM. She refused to bring extra clothing. After a few reminders from me and of her not bringing them I finally told her I would start turning her away at drop off if she did not bring the supplies she agreed to supply when she signed my contract. I had to turn her away once, then magically she brought the extra clothes.

[Leigh]

Why not call mom and tell her that she needs to come get her daughter because she peed through her clothes right away and has no spares? I would absolutely tell this mom that you'll no longer accept cloth, and need the child in a clean diaper at drop-off and check. If it's not clean, don't invite her in to change, hand her the child and ask her to return when the child is ready.

[Martha Stewart]

Can you increase her rates by $10 a week and say that diapers and wipes will now be provided?

I know it is frustrating that she drops off while you are waking your 9yo & fixing breakfast. I used to struggle with this and would get frustrated - but then i realized that I was open for business at that time - so I adjusted my home schedule so that nothing vital to the day would be happening during a drop off time. Maybe getting your child up 15 minutes earlier would help alleviate that particular frustration?

[Cozy_Kids_Childcare]

Can you increase her rates by $10 a week and say that diapers and wipes will now be provided?

I know it is frustrating that she drops off while you are waking your 9yo & fixing breakfast. I used to struggle with this and would get frustrated - but then i realized that I was open for business at that time - so I adjusted my home schedule so that nothing vital to the day would be happening during a drop off time. Maybe getting your child up 15 minutes earlier would help alleviate that particular frustration?

I never know really when she is going to drop off. Some times she drops off at 6:45 and then some times it is 7:20. All depends on how the kids are acting that morning. I wake him up every morning at 7. I make breakfast for everyone at the same time so I'm not trying to help my son find his shoes or library books while I'm making eggs or some thing. My biggest frustration is that she doesn't get that changing her child diaper before putting her in the car in the mornings should be her priority. I've said something several times and it works for a few weeks and then back to her normal. This time she blames her husband being deployed on why she forgets everything and how hard life is with two kids. My favorite was when she said being a working single mom isn't for me. First I absolutely hate it when people act like their world is fall apart because their spouse is deployed. You signed up for that lifestyle when you married a military member **** it up. There are thousands of people doing the exact same thing.