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  • SquirrellyMama
    New Daycare.com Member
    • Mar 2012
    • 554

    #16
    Originally posted by daycare
    sorry have to throw this out there, but are you doing something you are not supposed to that is causing you to freak out like this? If you have nothing to hide, then so what....even if someone did complain so what.
    It is possible to freak out even if you aren't doing anything wrong. I hate tax time. Every year I worry that I'm going to be audited. Why? No clue. We document everything and aren't doing anything illegal.

    I've worried about this since I've been an adult.

    Kelly
    Homeschooling Mama to:
    lovethis
    dd12
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    • Unregistered

      #17
      Originally posted by daycare
      got it....I don't know what really that means anxiety to think that way. is it like an illness? Sorry I am just trying to understand. I looked up anxiety and it just says an inner state of unpleasant turmoil
      This, perfect

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      • Thriftylady
        Daycare.com Member
        • Aug 2014
        • 5884

        #18
        Originally posted by Unregistered
        It is an illness. Mine goes hand in hand with my depression, when one gets bad the other follows. I have medications to control the anxiety and depression actually I have three medications and one I only take when my anxiety gets super bad (don't take those often at all I fear the addictiveness one person told me when you are scared of your meds you need them ). But mine is mostly managed with meds, but it isn't a cure all. I have severe financial anxiety, they say it comes from when I was little and mom mom digging in grocery store dumpsters to feed me. I have other anxiety that goes with my staying with an abusive ex for almost ten years.

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        • daycare
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          • Feb 2011
          • 16259

          #19
          Originally posted by Unregistered
          wow...ok. Well then i guess you have all right to think like that if you are suffering from anxiety.

          i kind of understand anxiety, but I guess i didnt really know that it did that to people. Sorry i am sounding pretty dumb right now, but i don't have any experience with it.

          Sorry to hear that this happens to you.....

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          • daycare
            Advanced Daycare.com *********
            • Feb 2011
            • 16259

            #20
            Originally posted by Thriftylady
            It is an illness. Mine goes hand in hand with my depression, when one gets bad the other follows. I have medications to control the anxiety and depression actually I have three medications and one I only take when my anxiety gets super bad (don't take those often at all I fear the addictiveness one person told me when you are scared of your meds you need them ). But mine is mostly managed with meds, but it isn't a cure all. I have severe financial anxiety, they say it comes from when I was little and mom mom digging in grocery store dumpsters to feed me. I have other anxiety that goes with my staying with an abusive ex for almost ten years.
            omg you are going to make me cry...........

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            • Thriftylady
              Daycare.com Member
              • Aug 2014
              • 5884

              #21
              Originally posted by daycare
              omg you are going to make me cry...........
              Don't cry, I really am okay. My mom did the best she could at the time while being totally in love with an alcoholic who was wonderful when he was sober. She loved him till the day he died they almost got remarried because he was clean and sober and back to the wonderful man that he was without his demons. But he passed before they could.

              I still have after effects and PTSD from my first marriage, but in other ways it has made me who I am today and although I have some issues, I like who I am now. I am a great wife and mother and have awesome kids who my awesome hubby adopted! The crap just gets in the way sometimes. Doesn't make my life horrible, it does make it SEEM horrible some days, but really it isn't. Today is a good day! I stood up for myself yesterday DESPITE my financial anxiety and I am proud of myself for it. Each day that I win is a small victory and I hope the OP feels that way also.

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              • daycare
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                • Feb 2011
                • 16259

                #22
                :hug::hug::hug:happyfacehappyfacelovethislovethis

                you are amazing!!

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                • Thriftylady
                  Daycare.com Member
                  • Aug 2014
                  • 5884

                  #23
                  Originally posted by daycare
                  :hug::hug::hug:happyfacehappyfacelovethislovethis

                  you are amazing!!
                  Only today tomorrow may be a bad day! When you have anxiety and/or depression it is day by day. Some days you see the small victories, other days you are just a mess worried about who the heck just knocked on your door and what in the world you did wrong.

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                  • Josiegirl
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Jun 2013
                    • 10834

                    #24
                    Anxiety is no fun to deal with. I've had it for 20some years and meds. have helped. Anxiety, depression, paranoia, so I can completely understand the OP's feelings of worrying if it's something she did even with being a good provider.

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                    • Unregistered

                      #25
                      OK so in other words I am lying that I am legal? I do recall saying that I am legal and I have anxiety and worry issues. But you just over look that and say Oh well she is worried so she must be doing something wrong...and btw I am sooo sorry to throw that out there.

                      No, you are not sorry for throwing that out there. That was rude and very hurtful to me. I am sorry that you feel that way even though I wrote the truth. However, I am legal and I run my daycare very professional. I was licensed years ago and not one time did I receive any violation. It is a choice that I do not like the state telling me how and what to do. I am a good person, I love my kids, and I am legal. I do story time, circle time, music n movement, calendar time, weather time, art, and much more. I do more then most unlicensed and just as much as a preschool. I find you comment and ones who agreed with you vey very offensive and I just do not see how you could have said that. Me, the type of person I am, I would have felt bad knowing I was going to hurt someone's feelings. You are very aware that you were going to offend me and hurt my feelings. I just do not get why people can't be nice? This is a site for all us providers to feel like we can have someone to turn to and a comment like that does not say that.

                      To confirm: I am legal, I am not doing anything wrong, I have an anxiety disorder (DR said so just so you are confused about that too), and I worry over EVERYTHING!!!!!

                      Moral of this whole thing....DO NOT JUDGE SOMEONE BUT TREAT THEM LIKE YOU WANT TO BE TREATED.

                      Originally posted by daycare
                      sorry have to throw this out there, but are you doing something you are not supposed to that is causing you to freak out like this? If you have nothing to hide, then so what....even if someone did complain so what.

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                      • blueskiesbutterflies
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Aug 2014
                        • 87

                        #26
                        I suffer from anxiety, depression, and ocd as well. I live a life that caters to the illness and I choose not to use medication. Some days can be jus torture and when something happens you want to crawl in bed and just "heal" from all the pain the world has thrown at you.

                        I get so upset and full of anxiety at the little things. That most people do not worry about. Such as, a parent comes in acting different then I will worry all day that they are upset with me and that they are leaving. Most of you don worry about that but I do.

                        I am in the middle of getting my BS and I have one more year. I have managed to obtain a 4.0 gpa and I struggle with it and worry with it every single day! If I get something below a 100 I worry. I once got a B on an assignment in my class and it was the end of the world. But really is it? Is it something to stress and worry about? No, but I am unable to control it.

                        Your mind can be sick like the rest of your body. It can not be cured but it can be controlled if u can handle the meds. I could not handle any of the medication, but here lately I have been thinking of going back to them.

                        All in all, I can see why she would be so afraid and does not mean that she is doing anything wrong. I would have freaked out if it were me. But, I do not answer the door to strangers during daycare hourse and we get a lot of church people and those guys who sell meat and stuff. I just do not feel like it is safe when you have others kids.

                        :hug:

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                        • Thriftylady
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • Aug 2014
                          • 5884

                          #27
                          Originally posted by Unregistered
                          OK so in other words I am lying that I am legal? I do recall saying that I am legal and I have anxiety and worry issues. But you just over look that and say Oh well she is worried so she must be doing something wrong...and btw I am sooo sorry to throw that out there.

                          No, you are not sorry for throwing that out there. That was rude and very hurtful to me. I am sorry that you feel that way even though I wrote the truth. However, I am legal and I run my daycare very professional. I was licensed years ago and not one time did I receive any violation. It is a choice that I do not like the state telling me how and what to do. I am a good person, I love my kids, and I am legal. I do story time, circle time, music n movement, calendar time, weather time, art, and much more. I do more then most unlicensed and just as much as a preschool. I find you comment and ones who agreed with you vey very offensive and I just do not see how you could have said that. Me, the type of person I am, I would have felt bad knowing I was going to hurt someone's feelings. You are very aware that you were going to offend me and hurt my feelings. I just do not get why people can't be nice? This is a site for all us providers to feel like we can have someone to turn to and a comment like that does not say that.

                          To confirm: I am legal, I am not doing anything wrong, I have an anxiety disorder (DR said so just so you are confused about that too), and I worry over EVERYTHING!!!!!

                          Moral of this whole thing....DO NOT JUDGE SOMEONE BUT TREAT THEM LIKE YOU WANT TO BE TREATED.
                          Please don't feel that way. People that don't suffer from anxiety just don't understand it. I wouldn't if I didn't have it. But really once you hang out more in this forum and get to know people better you will know that posters here don't judge harshly. That is why I felt like I could open up here and your thread and share about my anxiety to help others understand that it is an evil monster some days. I have no doubt you have anxiety, in fact I brought it up here. But really, if you are having it so badly you may want to see your dr again so he can adjust your meds so you don't feel so badly. Mine have had to be adjusted many times, and it always works out for the better.

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                          • MyAngels
                            Member
                            • Aug 2010
                            • 4217

                            #28
                            I had an "official looking" visitor once when I was closed. I actually wasn't here, but my then teenage daughter was. She was still sleeping, and by the time she got to the door to look out the person was already getting back into her car so she just went back to bed. Turned out to be the State Board of Education doing some kind of audit for the food program.

                            I had forgotten to notify them that I was closed for the day . I did get a phone call from the FP, but nothing else was ever said about it and they never did come back.

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                            • MyAngels
                              Member
                              • Aug 2010
                              • 4217

                              #29
                              Originally posted by daycare
                              If you have nothing to hide, then so what....even if someone did complain so what.
                              That is a very naive point of view. In our business a single complaint, whether it's true or not, has to potential to ruin not only our business, but our personal lives as well.

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                              • jenboo
                                Daycare.com Member
                                • Aug 2013
                                • 3180

                                #30
                                Originally posted by Unregistered
                                OK so in other words I am lying that I am legal? I do recall saying that I am legal and I have anxiety and worry issues. But you just over look that and say Oh well she is worried so she must be doing something wrong...and btw I am sooo sorry to throw that out there.

                                No, you are not sorry for throwing that out there. That was rude and very hurtful to me. I am sorry that you feel that way even though I wrote the truth. However, I am legal and I run my daycare very professional. I was licensed years ago and not one time did I receive any violation. It is a choice that I do not like the state telling me how and what to do. I am a good person, I love my kids, and I am legal. I do story time, circle time, music n movement, calendar time, weather time, art, and much more. I do more then most unlicensed and just as much as a preschool. I find you comment and ones who agreed with you vey very offensive and I just do not see how you could have said that. Me, the type of person I am, I would have felt bad knowing I was going to hurt someone's feelings. You are very aware that you were going to offend me and hurt my feelings. I just do not get why people can't be nice? This is a site for all us providers to feel like we can have someone to turn to and a comment like that does not say that.

                                To confirm: I am legal, I am not doing anything wrong, I have an anxiety disorder (DR said so just so you are confused about that too), and I worry over EVERYTHING!!!!!

                                Moral of this whole thing....DO NOT JUDGE SOMEONE BUT TREAT THEM LIKE YOU WANT TO BE TREATED.

                                Daycare was not trying to be hurtful or judgmental. She comes from a different country and is constantly learning new English words/terms. She said she did understand what anxiety was and didn't know it could be so bad that it's actually an illness people struggle with.
                                Then she goes on to apologize for not understanding it at first.
                                Did you read all her comments? She never said you were a liar or illegal. She simply didn't understand.

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