Worried About Termination

[littlelionspreschool]

I e-mailed Tom Copeland the details of the term and events after and he said there was nothing I did to discriminate.

It's not like she didn't have the forms to begin with, so I just gave her new copies since her lawyer was involved. I was worried what would happen if I didn't send them!

I just had to send the dad an insufficient funds letter telling him to mail me a money order so I know I will get the money this time. If I don't hear from him, does it cost money to take him to small claims court? It's for $140, so if it costs a lot to take him to small claims court, I'll just have to be out the money.

[Shell]

I think I am on the homestretch of this drama filled mess. Now the parent drives by our house randomly which is creepy, but not a terribly big deal since she hasn't stopped yet. Her attorney mailed me a letter stating I needed to mail her progress reports. I told the attorney she received them at conference time and was told "they were lost or destroyed" so she needed another copy. Well that's not my problem, but I gave her another copy of them anyway!

The hardest part is the parents asking a million questions about the family. They obviously don't know for sure that I terminated the family, but they have heard "hearsay" from the dad's friends or have been told by the dad that they were "kicked out". Then I have them asking if they were terminated to which I have to basically avoid the subject for privacy reasons. I just say....well I haven't spoken to them in a few weeks so I don't know what is going on with them at this point and time.

Do you think she's trying to sue you for discrimination, and needs the progress reports to "back up" her claims?

Just a thought- I can be a paranoid person.

Her driving by is creepy- she seems a little obsessed with being termed- hopefully she finds some other drama to occupy her time and leaves you alone!

Parents like this are the reason why I always make up an excuse for terming- parents can be crazy!

[laundrymom]

"They are no longer enrolled" is how I respond.

And as for me, I keep all observations reports in my possession. The only things I ever return are items like clothes, diapers, etc. Things they've purchased. I tell them when I hand them contract to fill out, "make sure you make copies of this if you want them. I do not offer that service."
At termination day they get the stuff in their cubby and a great big smile as they walk out the door.
I have in my contract that I keep belongings for 5days following termination date, so if they don't take them with them or aren't attending at that time, I donate or trash their belongings on that fifth day.

I think I am on the homestretch of this drama filled mess. Now the parent drives by our house randomly which is creepy, but not a terribly big deal since she hasn't stopped yet. Her attorney mailed me a letter stating I needed to mail her progress reports. I told the attorney she received them at conference time and was told "they were lost or destroyed" so she needed another copy. Well that's not my problem, but I gave her another copy of them anyway!

The hardest part is the parents asking a million questions about the family. They obviously don't know for sure that I terminated the family, but they have heard "hearsay" from the dad's friends or have been told by the dad that they were "kicked out". Then I have them asking if they were terminated to which I have to basically avoid the subject for privacy reasons. I just say....well I haven't spoken to them in a few weeks so I don't know what is going on with them at this point and time.

[littlelionspreschool]

I think I am on the homestretch of this drama filled mess. Now the parent drives by our house randomly which is creepy, but not a terribly big deal since she hasn't stopped yet. Her attorney mailed me a letter stating I needed to mail her progress reports. I told the attorney she received them at conference time and was told "they were lost or destroyed" so she needed another copy. Well that's not my problem, but I gave her another copy of them anyway!

The hardest part is the parents asking a million questions about the family. They obviously don't know for sure that I terminated the family, but they have heard "hearsay" from the dad's friends or have been told by the dad that they were "kicked out". Then I have them asking if they were terminated to which I have to basically avoid the subject for privacy reasons. I just say....well I haven't spoken to them in a few weeks so I don't know what is going on with them at this point and time.

[Gemma]

I really doubt a psychiatrist suggested a "graduation ceremony". More like dcm wants more of your attention.

Stop all communication and don't respond to anything from dcm. Block her if you can.

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I don't know, it kind of feels like if the parent is suggesting a graduation ceremony for their child, they are trying to look out for their kids feelings. An older child probably would be confused and bamboozled by a sudden change in care and although a graduation ceremony is not possible (1. it's not what normally happens 2. under these circumstances the chance of drama is too high) but it doesn't seem unreasonable to do something to offer closure to the kid. Maybe tell the parent, "We aren't able to hold ceremonies for our friends who are moving on, but we'd love to present xxxx with a book signed by all our friends and teachers, I'll pop it in the mail next week." That way you show you're trying to meet them halfway so she can't complain about the way you handled it, you are giving the child support, but you don't have to see them again.

I agree. Sounds like she is trying to rope you back in to control the outcome and have the last word. She's behaving like a jilted ex. Good job ignoring her.

[KiddieCahoots]

OMG that is so funny! I would block her number if you can and try to avoid contact. She just wants an excuse to get face to face with you, so don't give her the opportunity.

This^^^ I really hope she isn't voicing this with dcg. That's what would be dragging it out for her.....dcm's inability to keep the drama at bay.

OMG that is so funny! I would block her number if you can and try to avoid contact. She just wants an excuse to get face to face with you, so don't give her the opportunity.

[Controlled Chaos]

I had a dcm ask me to organize a graduation ceremony for her son too recently :: It was a amicable term, but I was not going to put a whole bunch of work into a fake event. I made dcb a sweet goodbye card, but a graduation You've got to be kidding me!

[sharlan]

I really doubt a psychiatrist suggested a "graduation ceremony". More like dcm wants more of your attention.

Stop all communication and don't respond to anything from dcm. Block her if you can.

[laundrymom]

So the mom continues to text me....now she is telling me "since her child did nothing wrong" if we would do something to help her with closure. The mom said she took her daughter to the psychiatrist and they said she should have a "graduation" ceremony.....umm what?! Why would I go out of my way to see the family again (awkward!) and have a fake graduation ceremony for this poor child?! I would guess that over a week of not seeing us, the kid is probably pretty sad, but seeing us one more time isn't going to make her feel any better! If anything it would make her more sad to see us and know it's her last time. I didn't respond to any of the messages but I would love to text the mom and say the psychiatrist is nuts! You don't rub salt in a wound...."Hey xxxx, here are your friends and teachers you won't be seeing again. Happy "graduation"." :dislike:

Kids are resilient. And from the sounds of things, they have more issues than were created by you finally standing up to them. I wouldn't respond.

[Josiegirl]

Wow, the psychiatrist sounds as nuts as dcm. Was she making that up? I don't give dcks anything like a ceremony to kick 'em out. The 2 dcfs I had to terminate I said bye. That's closure right?
I wouldn't respond to anything she says at all. Did you call licensing for advice?

[Thriftylady]

Oh I so would not be doing a "graduation ceremony". The whole thought of it ticks me off. When my kids left 8th grade for high school they had a "graduation ceremonty" THREE hours long and every kid walked and every kid got some award most of them were stupid. UM you didn't graduate yet, you went to middle school like you are supposed to do!

Oops sorry that turned into kind of a rant didn't it? You owe them nothing, and I feel sorry for this little girl because her mom is giving her the wrong picture of life and how real life is.

[littlelionspreschool]

So the mom continues to text me....now she is telling me "since her child did nothing wrong" if we would do something to help her with closure. The mom said she took her daughter to the psychiatrist and they said she should have a "graduation" ceremony.....umm what?! Why would I go out of my way to see the family again (awkward!) and have a fake graduation ceremony for this poor child?! I would guess that over a week of not seeing us, the kid is probably pretty sad, but seeing us one more time isn't going to make her feel any better! If anything it would make her more sad to see us and know it's her last time. I didn't respond to any of the messages but I would love to text the mom and say the psychiatrist is nuts! You don't rub salt in a wound...."Hey xxxx, here are your friends and teachers you won't be seeing again. Happy "graduation"." :dislike: