3 Yr Old Boys and Butt Issues

[Starburst]

Ever older boy that I have enrolled would love to talk about butts and poop. I think that it is allowed at home or someone is laughing at him. I once had two brothers who called each other butt face and brown donuts hole. Mom thought it was soooo funny! needless to say, I did NOT enroll them.

Yeah, there has to be a certain point where you let them know there are boundaries to butt jokes. I guess in that boy (3) I used to watch's family they call butts 'dudaloids' (I'm not sure how to spell it, it's another language). And I guess he thought it was funny to call people that but when he did that to me I told him thas not something you call people and that if he's going to go to preschool soon he won make any friends if he calls people that and they find out what it means; and that it might even get kicked out of the program (he's excited about the idea of going to school and making friends). Of course his family still lets him joke like that and he's often spoiled ('miracle baby', they were older parents) so he continued doing it, though last I heard his mom decided to wait another year before preschool (mostly because it's a small town and none of the centers there are 100% nut free).

To OP: it may be best to teach him (and all the kids) about personal space and boundaries. Maybe an activity where they make shields and whenever another child is invading their 'bubble' they say put it up and say "I need space" or something. May also need to talk to the boy's parents about them teaching him about good touch/bad touch (since when you get older touching someone's but can be considered sexual harassment) if you are not comfortable talking about it.

[Unregistered]

Animals, again

I allow the children to use as much potty language as they want - in the bathroom.

As for butt smelling, I'd explain why animals do that, then talk about the ways people get to know each other instead of butt smelling.

My 8 yr old is still obsessed with butts - gotta love boys!

Let them smell butts when a child has cut loose with some really smelly diarrhea and they can see how wonderful it is. Again, these little ones seem to be only just above animals and in some ways less trainable. It's been a long time since I was that age but I no memory of butts, penises or any of this...

[Ariana]

Went through this with my daughter (It's not just boys!!) and apparently my husband did this as a kid. must be genetic ::

What worked for me was talking to her about her butt and her private parts. I got a book and we talked about all the different parts of her body and boys bodies and I really talked about it and talked about it. Then I asked her to ask any questions she had. I also explained what poop is and how it comes out yadda yadda yadda. I basically killed the curiosity with information!

They are definitely doing this out of curiosity and also to get reactions. If you treat it as a "learning opportunity" each and every time this comes up they might drop it. I also used to send kids to the bathroom when they'd talk about poop or butts. I would say something like "well you must need to go to the bathroom since you are talking about bathroom things". That helped too. Depends on the child.

[childcaremom]

OP stated that another parent of a little girl is upset about the constant talk and touching of her bottom. This would concern me as the provider, as it opens the door for liability issues.

I would start having whole group discussions on what is and is not appropriate every day at circle time with the children. No BUTT touching or talk, period. It doesn't really matter what we consider "normal" or "just curiosity" when a parent is upset about their daughter's butt being touched and what they are trying to teach her about what is okay for another person to touch on her body.

ETA: OP, I would discuss with all of the parents the concerns and ask that they support me in discouraging this type of behavior by not allowing it at home and by talking to their children at home about what is and isn't appropriate. I'd also provide the concerned parents with written info on what you are doing to stop the behavior.

I have one who is like this. It is especially rampant on Mondays. I remind him that we don't talk like that at my house. Period. Sounds like these two need a firm reminder followed by the stink eye and possibly some separation from each other if possible. This type of 'humour' is often funnier with an audience so I would take that possibility away.

I would also be talking to the parents involved.

I would also be encouraging the children who are bothered by ANY behaviour to use their words to ask their friends to stop and then remind friends that we respect each others words and stop when we are asked.

[Play Care]

I have one who is like this. It is especially rampant on Mondays. I remind him that we don't talk like that at my house. Period. Sounds like these two need a firm reminder followed by the stink eye and possibly some separation from each other if possible. This type of 'humour' is often funnier with an audience so I would take that possibility away.

I would also be talking to the parents involved.

I would also be encouraging the children who are bothered by ANY behaviour to use their words to ask their friends to stop and then remind friends that we respect each others words and stop when we are asked.

I'll admit I'm not one who thinks "farts are funny" so take it FWIW. There is a world of difference IMO between a child who uses "poop" for the punchline of every joke and using your hands on other kids. The child was physically touching other children inappropriately. And that is not okay. Ever. As a parent I can see why the parent was annoyed as this was way beyond the usual poo jokes. It was crossing the line.