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I have a DCG I adore, but the parents on the other hand, are very entitled and expect me to go above and beyond for them. Bring DCG sick, late pickups, early drop-offs, late payments... I have bent over backwards to accommodate for this family this year...DCG is special needs and is really thriving in our program, that's the only reason this family hasn't been termed. I put in a lot of extra work for her and still care for 7 other children in our program. I guess I am not surprised that this was the only family that didn't come to our daycare Christmas party, give me a gift/Christmas card, or even thank me for the gifts for their child and family I had given them. It just makes me sad really. I just wanted to be told we appreciate all that you do. In almost 10 years of providing child care, I've had several families not get me gifts or a Christmas card at this time of the year. It's nice if they do, but it doesn't bother me if they don't. This family really bothered me this year though...just needed to vent...
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I'm sorry you are hurt by this.
Unfortunately, when you go above and beyond for a family and do special, that special simply becomes the norm and in the family's eyes just something you do as part of your job.
In the future, only do special if YOU want to. If the daycare girl is thriving and flourishing in your program, that is your reward.
She (DCG) can't go out and buy you a gift or a card or maybe even say the words "thank you" but I am betting she IS appreciative of everything you do for her and that's what it's really about. -
I'm sorry you are hurt by this.
Unfortunately, when you go above and beyond for a family and do special, that special simply becomes the norm and in the family's eyes just something you do as part of your job.
In the future, only do special if YOU want to. If the daycare girl is thriving and flourishing in your program, that is your reward.
She (DCG) can't go out and buy you a gift or a card or maybe even say the words "thank you" but I am betting she IS appreciative of everything you do for her and that's what it's really about.
When you always give special, it becomes the norm. You must then go even further to make them feel special. IME, too much "special" can lead to resentment toward you when you run out of special things to do for them.Comment
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Yes, I agree with the above replies!
I had a family that was the same way. I always went above and beyond for them and did a lot of extras that you said you did. They never participated in anything and rarely did I get a "thank you" from them. They repaid me by leaving without a 2 week notice.
It's true, I think they come to expect extras or for us to look the other way for late payments or whatever. From this one family, I truly believe in the phrase "if you give an inch, they will take a mile" to be true. It's sad because we as caregivers are giving people, but parents aren't always the same.Comment
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Yep, it's always the ones we do the most for that return us with the least. I also had a family that came to expect "special" as "normal" and just like the pp, was rewarded with them leaving after swearing they were staying on for at least another year Your experience with this family would personally make me get tougher- no more special, unless it is appreciated!
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