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well, I started a new family 4 weeks ago, and 2 of the kids are here (the dd is b and a school but dcb is here all day) well the other day I'm sitting at the table and he comes and tells me "baby said F**K You" I had to pick my mouth up off the floor. He just turned 3, so I said to him that we don't say things like that and that next time he will stand in the corner. So yesterday his sister and my dd ( 5 and 6 yrs old along with my 10 yrs old) were sitting at the kitchen table and he comes up to them and a starts saying over and over F**CK YOU. My girls didn't know what to do because they were so shocked. So he had to go in the corner, but his sister says to me that he always says that. So when dad picked them up late (other issue) I'm telling dad what he said, and dad says to me, well am I sure he wasn't saying fart face, I'm like um no because he was super clear. So then dad says that his older brothers say that, well the brothers are 11 and 13 the same age as my 2 older ones. I'm worried that the 5 yr old will repeat that word (because this kid has issues) but how do I stop him from saying this.
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Biggest thing with swearing or any bad behavior is the attention it gets.
I've heard many theories on this. Some say ignore it, don't give it a reaction, cause that's what they are looking for.
Some say soap in the mouth (which you can't do or you'll be in big trouble)
Some say tabasco sauce!
I have 3 kids of my own. Each one of them has dropped a bomb of some sort. For one, the threat of a smack was enough (she's always the perfect angel).
For the other 2, taking away a toy worked and there has yet to be another incidence.
But be careful with threats, we were really young parents with our daughter, and didn't understand the threatening method yet. If you're going to use threats, make sure it is something you are able to follow through with, or else you're toast for the rest of your life! -
When one of my dcg's was doing this I kept telling her we don't talk like that here and gave her a time out every time she did it. She finally stopped, but it did take some time and lots of time outs.
BTW, saying "fart face" would get the same thing!Comment
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yes, your right about the word fart face, you do stand in the corner for that. I just don't get it, I have 4 kids, and its so rare that my own children even call each other names, heck I don't ever recall my children calling another child names. I think dad thinks its funny, but I don't.Comment
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here that would have earned him having to call his mom or dad, at work, and tell them he used a bad word here if he was over age 4. Then he would have to sit for a good while by himself why the rest of the children played something fun. Then at pickup I would have another talk with him in front of the parent who picks up and say,.. I understand that my rules may be different than home but I will not allow bad words, ever. It is unacceptable and will get you nowhere but alone and trouble here. If you say it again,.. you will sit for double the time period as today, If you say it again after that you will have to be picked up. The 4rth time is termination. And then I would look at the parent, and say,.. Is that clear enough for you?? we do not use bad words at child care. EVER.
as for the younger 3 yr old,.. I would say,.. Im sorry,.. I think we need to go clean your mouth, lets wash those ugly words out of there,.. ewww,.. then march them to the bathroom, grab some baking soda on a toothbrush and have them brush. tastes eww but doesnt hurt them,.. and teeth are clean to boot!
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