Is There Anything More Stressful....

[Unregistered]

"If they're really grasping with a TOY for WEEKS, it is too hard for them. Gosh forbid you spend money on toys that are appropriate for that child or do something developmentally appropriate. I don't know where you guys are pulling life skills into this. I'm talking about puzzles."

1. "grasping at a toy for weeks"? No one described a technique where a child could not physically grasp the puzzle piece.

2. "don't know where you guys are pulling life skills into this"? Problem solving. Life skill.

3. Better check that degree.

Done.

:shrugs:

[Rockgirl]

I won't be insulted or offended if a mod chooses to delete this entire thread. It's so far off from how it was intended to be.

[taylorw1210]

*sigh*

SMH

Thanks for reminding me why I've been avoiding this place lately.

I was just thinking I hadn't seen much of you lately. :dislike:

[daycarediva]

"Turny turny" (where the child is trying on their own each angle) and a child asking for help, it not what the OP described at all. I can tell most of you didn't finish (or attend) college, because I'm talking oranges here and everyone else wants to talk about apples, bananas, and fruit salads. It just tells me the sort of centers MOST (again not all) are running on these boards. I feel bad for the children.

Again, what do you consider developmentally appropriate?

Should op have removed the toy from this child,(essentially saying it's too hard for you) or should she have done what it sounds like she DID, which is offer assistance to help him finish/persevere through the challenge and boost his confidence?

It's impossible to buy toys that JUST meet/exceed the developmental level of a mixed age group.

They also learn HOW to do things by watching their peers.

It IS developmentally appropriate to provide an enriching atmosphere with a responsive, attentive, caring provider-like the OP. Children will attempt anything that they're interested. If they can't complete the puzzle/what have you now, I have children who will not QUIT until they CAN do it. I have others who stop and wait. It's all personality, neither is 'right' or 'wrong'. The child wasn't being FORCED to do something he/she couldn't do.

[daycarediva]

Life skills apply to nearly every situation in ECE. Confidence, self esteem, perseverance, that 'grit' of sticking it out and completing the puzzle, with the help of a trusted adult will only teach that child that

-it's ok to not know how to do everything.
-it's ok to fail.
-it's ok to ask for help.
-I will do better next time.

I can think of 100 adults who need those life lessons.

If all we ever hand kids are things that are easy/not challenging we aren't helping them grow and develop. They will never learn to fail at little things and when big failures come later- tests, applications, etc they will not have the confidence and self esteem to handle those.

[Rockgirl]

I say this all the time, "First, you try. If you need help, you can ask me, but I'd like to see you try first." Many times, they surprise themselves (and me sometimes) by doing it alone, and what a boost for their confidence! But they know it's ok to ask for help. Right or wrong, it's how I do it here, and I will continue to. The original post was just a little dig at myself, that I felt others would relate to, and most did. Thanks, ladies.

[KiddieCahoots]

"If they're really grasping with a TOY for WEEKS, it is too hard for them. Gosh forbid you spend money on toys that are appropriate for that child or do something developmentally appropriate. I don't know where you guys are pulling life skills into this. I'm talking about puzzles."

1. "grasping at a toy for weeks"? No one described a technique where a child could not physically grasp the puzzle piece.

2. "don't know where you guys are pulling life skills into this"? Problem solving. Life skill.

3. Better check that degree.

Done.

:shrugs:

Please be more specific in what you would do.....this does not enlighten me at all.

[Blackcat31]

Any mods reading this?

Sounds like its getting pretty personal against everyone on here.

Yep. I am reading this and following along.

Confused though why unregistered members are held to a higher standard of behavior than registered users. :confused:

Seems to me the personal insults came from registered users first.

Personally, I value registered and unregistered members equally and show the same respect towards both.

We have several "regular" unregistered posters that participate daily/weekly and I have to say I completely understand why they hesitate or refrain from registering.

[Blackcat31]

I won't be insulted or offended if a mod chooses to delete this entire thread. It's so far off from how it was intended to be.

I can't delete it but will close it.

I am sorry your thread was derailed by such silliness.