Ever Heard Of This?

[BentleysBands]

just curious....

got a text from dcm last night at 930p saying the kids wont be here until 8-9a because she/dad took the day off and dont wanna get up and bring at 630a....said her sister is have a memorial service for her baby she miscarried at 10wks...SIX WEEKS AGO .... does this reallly happen? i've had 3 miscarriages all under 11wks and didnt have a memorial service...do ppl really do that? and 6 wks later??

my dh said they are full of BS and hes a great judge of character!!

onlly way i will know if its true or not is to hit up Paw Paw who visits once a week (we compromised on 1 day a week) and see what he says ....

cuz if this IS true i do NOT want to cause any problems kWIM?

background to this family: all my dcp's know that they pay for their spot and i dont question what they do while the kids are here. so long as they arent late picking up..who cares . tho it bugs me yes, i dont stress about it....well THIS family was abusing it and since i give them a VERY reduced rate i change for them that kids will ONLY be here when they are working! paw paw can watch them if they wanna shop,etc.....so thats why i'm leary about believing them today......any advice? keep quiet and find out from paw paw next week?

[Luna]

I would accept it as true. We've all heard that different people grieve in different ways so there's a decent chance that this is really what they're doing. IMO it's much too sensitive a situation to question it.
If it isn't true, that's pretty low and I don't think I'd want to know!

[legomom922]

Why be upset that they are coming late anyway?? You are still getting your pay unless you charge them hrly for the time they are. Otherwise, so what?? I love it when my DCP's come late. It's less work and I still get my daily rate.

I would never question anything a DCP tells me. It's really none of my business. Just enjoy the peace.

[BentleysBands]

i'm not questioning them being late.....i'm questioning the reason she has told me....since i no longer allow them to do what they want when kids are here, they MUST be working or come get them...i'm wondering if its her excuse so she can shop.....parents lie we all know....it wouldnt be an issue had she not abused it before

[legomom922]

I understand that, but why be upset if she's not working? She is still paying you...

[BentleysBands]

I understand that, but why be upset if she's not working? She is still paying you...

because as i stated in original post, she abused that privilage before by being late on several occasions so she no longer has that privilage like others.

[kendallina]

Yes, people do do this, I wouldn't question it.

[BentleysBands]

Yes, people do do this, I wouldn't question it.

Thanks! i just wasnt sure.

[laundrymom]

Yes I have.

[legomom922]

because as i stated in original post, she abused that privilage before by being late on several occasions so she no longer has that privilage like others.

I still feel like I am missing something here. if she has been late before, I still dont understand if she comes at 7am or 8am, and she is still paying you, why it would matter? Unless you charge her by the hr, then I can see being late by an hr would make you lose pay...

[jen]

I still feel like I am missing something here. if she has been late before, I still dont understand if she comes at 7am or 8am, and she is still paying you, why it would matter? Unless you charge her by the hr, then I can see being late by an hr would make you lose pay...

It isn't about being late, it is about bringing the children when they aren't working.

She is giving them a very reduced rate, and in exchange they are only to bring the children when they are working. They are not working in this case, however, if the parent is in fact at a Memorial Service she is OK with that. Based on a past history of abusing the reduced rate, she is hesitant to accept their word on where they are spending their time today.

[E Daycare]

My dck mother miscarried at 17wks horribly so and they had the memorial service about two months after so Id accept that as true too. I was also taken aback seeing how it seemed so long but I didnt question it as I figure its different for each individual.

I can see how youd think they "cried wolf" though.

[BentleysBands]

It isn't about being late, it is about bringing the children when they aren't working.

She is giving them a very reduced rate, and in exchange they are only to bring the children when they are working. They are not working in this case, however, if the parent is in fact at a Memorial Service she is OK with that. Based on a past history of abusing the reduced rate, she is hesitant to accept their word on where they are spending their time today.

you have worded this perfectly!!!! thanks

[TGT09]

I'm not sure I would question this.....being a victim of infertility myself, I can vouch that people grieve differently.

[jen]

you have worded this perfectly!!!! thanks

No problem!