Help With DCM Conversation Tonight...

[finsup]

Ok, so I've had this little guy (4 months old) for about 2.5 months now. Today I see the mom's post on fb saying she is trying to find a work from home job or a really good paying part time job so she can stay home with him. Now, as a mom I totally get it. As a provider, what do I say to her tonight? I mean would you term over something like this? Try to fill the spot and term when you get a new client? Wait until they "for sure" are leaving and try to fill the spot then? I guess I'm just trying to figure out what my next move should be, and what to say to her tonight.
Terming now or later doesn't make much of a difference. It will be a loss of income, but my husband's income is what we rely on. Anything I make is "extra" so to speak and while the extra money from this little guy is nice (and I def. would want to replace that soon) we can get by without it with minor changes.
Any suggestions would be appreciated!

[Cat Herder]

I'd let it go.

All moms are looking for that dream job... along with a eat-all-you-want diet and wrinkle eraser that works.

[daycare]

I have parents tell me this to my face...it does not bother me one bit...

Would you rather hear a mom say. I am looking for a way to have my child in childcare for as many hours as possible so that I don't have to be with them?

I hate being away from my kids. I wish I could home school come out of my mouth often because I miss them when they are gone. But then the reality sinks in and saves my life......;

I would do as previous poster said and LET IT GO................don't get me started on that song.....

[cheerfuldom]

I would tell her you saw the FB post and completely understand the comment. You just would ask that if she ends up changing jobs, you need XYZ for notice and payment per your contract. More often than not, these moms end up staying with their current jobs but it is understandable to want to look around and see what your options are. I would just wait it out for now, provided she understands you will not allow her to just disappear one day without notice or payment as agreed upon.

[midaycare]

Wait it out. Sounds like she is putting feelers out there to see of any possibilities. I don't know her career and how likely it is. If the income doesn't matter, don't term and don't say anything. She may not change a thing. Why term if the income isn't an issue?

[finsup]

Yeah, you ladies are right. The reality is, she's going to have a hard time making anywhere close to what she is making now even at a part time job. Way, way, less if she's doing any of the other typical work from home (selling stuff) jobs. Too many people in this area do those already. I guess I just don't like the uncertainty, I know it's a part of this job but it still doesn't make me like it

The money thing, while it's not completely needed, it is helpful to have. We can make it work without it but really would rather avoid that if we could!

[AmyKidsCo]

ITA to wait it out. I'd pretend I didn't see it unless she came with a 2 week notice. At the same time, if I got calls for an infant I'd tell them there might be an opening sooner than originally anticipated.

[renodeb]

I would let it go. If every mom had it her way we would be out of business. I have a client who has talked to me on several occasions about trying to go part time at her job. (she works for VA health services). I finally got the nerve up to call her and talk to her about what that would mean as far as needing me. She said that she was sorry to make me anxious and that it wasnt a change that is gonna happen in the near future. This is why its hard to be friends with dc parents on facebook!
Deb

[AmyLeigh]

It took me three years to go from full time to part time, then another two years to work from home. Its not an easy transition. Don't worry.

[Shell]

I had a somewhat similar situation where a dcm asked if anyone knew anything about the local public preschool. I sent her a message telling her that I saw the post, and is she planning in bringing dcg elsewhere. She said it's for next year, but I'm honestly a little worried. It certainly wouldn't be the first time a parent has said they are staying, and wind up leaving shortly afterwards. In your case, I would mention you saw the post, and tell her if/when she doesn't need care to make sure to give plenty of notice. I am nervous I will pass someone up just to have dcm give notice, but there are no guarantees that anyone will stay.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

ITA to wait it out. I'd pretend I didn't see it unless she came with a 2 week notice. At the same time, if I got calls for an infant I'd tell them there might be an opening sooner than originally anticipated.

This is what I would do as well.

I would like to put feelers out there for a way for me to be a SAHM without having to work at all...lemme know what ya find, girl...

[Crazy8]

I would "like" her status and see if she mentions it.

But like others said, those types of wishes don't usually amount to much, she's probably just missing being with her baby which is a great parent to have!

[KidGrind]

Ok, so I've had this little guy (4 months old) for about 2.5 months now. Today I see the mom's post on fb saying she is trying to find a work from home job or a really good paying part time job so she can stay home with him. Now, as a mom I totally get it. As a provider, what do I say to her tonight? I mean would you term over something like this? Try to fill the spot and term when you get a new client? Wait until they "for sure" are leaving and try to fill the spot then? I guess I'm just trying to figure out what my next move should be, and what to say to her tonight.
Terming now or later doesn't make much of a difference. It will be a loss of income, but my husband's income is what we rely on. Anything I make is "extra" so to speak and while the extra money from this little guy is nice (and I def. would want to replace that soon) we can get by without it with minor changes.
Any suggestions would be appreciated!

I wouldn’t say anything. If I was didn’t want to loose the income, I’d start interviewing to keep my options open.

[TwinKristi]

Yeah I agree with the others. Don't put too much into it at this point. I've had 2 moms quit their jobs to stay home and they both ended up back at work. One worked from home PT and then went back FT recently. The other ended up having grandparents watch the baby within a year. Both were for the best anyway as they were typical "first time moms" who's special little snowflake needed extra special care because after all, they were very special.
Just file it in the back of your memory Rolodex and remind her she needs to give you 2 wks notice (or whatever your policy is) when it's time.

[AmyKidsCo]

I would like to put feelers out there for a way for me to be a SAHM without having to work at all...lemme know what ya find, girl...

I thought I'd try being a Kardashian, but apparently there are already enough of them. ::