New Mom Control Issues - Advice Appreciated

[MarinaVanessa]

I would be showing them the email from licensing, not in a rude way, just to clear things up.

"I looked into the regulations, here is the response from my licensor..."

I would need to let them know that I know they are full of crap. Just me

If anything I would do this just so that they know that I wasn't the one that was misinformed and "damaged" the relationship. I would hate for them to think that I was the one that was in the wrong and risk them talking to other people about the situation based on their perception.

"Hi Susan. How are you? Good, listen ... I just wanted to come over to make sure that we were still good as far as being neighbors and all. I'd hate for you guys to be upset at me or for things to be awkward between us. I really love having you guys as neighbors.

So anyway I finally heard back from my licensing analyst about that regulation that you guys said about family child care providers having to accommodate the parent's requests ... well she did say that centers and family child care providers have different regulations so maybe you guys were thinking of a regulation for them and somehow got it mixed up or something.

Well I just wanted to give you guys a copy of her reply because I don't want you guys to think that I intentionally or unintentionally did anything against you guys that went against regulations. I would hate for you guys to think that way about me and I don't want any awkwardness between us. Here's her response, I went ahead and included her name and number just in case you had any questions. Well thanks for letting me clear the air, if you need anything don't hesitate to come over or give me a call"

Still says "You messed up, not me" but in a nice way.

[cheerfuldom]

I'm so glad you were paid.

Now get right back on the horse with them as neighbors. Don't shy away from them. When you see them give them a wave and whenever you see the baby say he is getting SO big and is darlin. The quicker you act as you did before, the quicker the tension will alleviate.

You did nothing wrong and after she gets some motherhood under her belt she will start to feel ridiculous about her treatment of you. She won't admit it.

She will most likely be a stay at home mom soon so she will be around alot.

Exactly! I had to fire an assistant and the next time I saw her in town, I immediately went over and said hi, asked about her son (who I termed also) and just showed with my actions that even though she screwed me over and I had to fire her, I did nothing wrong and was not going to hide or sneak around. I would just go on my merry way. Play in the front yard EVERY day for the next two weeks to make sure the neighbors see you have nothing to hide

[hsdcmama]

If anything I would do this just so that they know that I wasn't the one that was misinformed and "damaged" the relationship. I would hate for them to think that I was the one that was in the wrong and risk them talking to other people about the situation based on their perception.

"Hi Susan. How are you? Good, listen ... I just wanted to come over to make sure that we were still good as far as being neighbors and all. I'd hate for you guys to be upset at me or for things to be awkward between us. I really love having you guys as neighbors.

So anyway I finally heard back from my licensing analyst about that regulation that you guys said about family child care providers having to accommodate the parent's requests ... well she did say that centers and family child care providers have different regulations so maybe you guys were thinking of a regulation for them and somehow got it mixed up or something.

Well I just wanted to give you guys a copy of her reply because I don't want you guys to think that I intentionally or unintentionally did anything against you guys that went against regulations. I would hate for you guys to think that way about me and I don't want any awkwardness between us. Here's her response, I went ahead and included her name and number just in case you had any questions. Well thanks for letting me clear the air, if you need anything don't hesitate to come over or give me a call"

Still says "You messed up, not me" but in a nice way.

That's a good way to put it, I think I'll do that. I've been trying to think of a way to show them that they are misinformed without making this whole thing worse. I would hate for them to try & intimidate another provider into doing what they want based on false regulations.