2.5 Year Old Goes Potty At Home But Not At DC

[LeslieG]

I have a 2.5 year old dcb that will go on the potty at home (and will even ask to use it) but will not use it for me. Do any of you have advice on how to get him interested in using it at my house?

... HELP I'M TIRED OF CHANGING POOP!!! ::

[AmyKidsCo]

I would have the child sit on the potty at regularly scheduled times - here it's always after breakfast, before going outside, after coming back inside, after lunch, and after nap.

Note I said to have the child SIT on the potty - don't tell him he has to GO potty because you can't make him go.

[Blackcat31]

I have a 2.5 year old dcb that will go on the potty at home (and will even ask to use it) but will not use it for me. Do any of you have advice on how to get him interested in using it at my house?

... HELP I'M TIRED OF CHANGING POOP!!! ::

I have certain activities here that only kids in underwear get to do.

Sometimes that is enough to motivate a child who is clearly ready into being ready.

For example, each child here gets their own art supply box. If you wear underwear, you get scissors, glue and markers. If you wear diapers/pull-ups you get crayons and a glue stick but no scissors or markers.

I also offer a few extra curricular activities such as swimming lessons and gym time via the YMCA. Children NOT potty trained are not allowed to participate in these activities.

You need to find something that motivates him to want to use the toilet and then go with it. For each kid, that motivator is different. Some respond well to sticker charts or candy and others do well with praise and positive reinforcement. You just gotta find what his currency is.

[nanglgrl]

Are you certain the child goes potty at home and tells his/her parents? A lot if parents say that to make you work harder on potty training at daycare while they have the child in diapers at home. I had one recently but was friends with the parents in Facebook and wverytime they posted a picture of the child he was in diapers..every single time.

[hope]

I would not fully trust that he is going potty at home. I have found many, many parents that just say that so that the provider does the work. I wouldn't stress over it. If he goes at home he should go for you. Until then, pull ups.

[boysx5]

I would not fully trust that he is going potty at home. I have found many, many parents that just say that so that the provider does the work. I wouldn't stress over it. If he goes at home he should go for you. Until then, pull ups.

Yes I couldn't agree more I just termed someone over this they wanted me to potty train so the child could go to school

[hope]

Every friend, neighbor and family member with kids I know says they have done this. They all seem proud to be getting out of the potty training deal. They just put junior in underwear one day and say he has been doing great at home. They make it the daycares problem. And we all fall for it and feel like we are doing something wrong!

[Meeko]

Too often the parents will proudly say "He goes potty all the time at home!" But that's because they take him every 20 minutes.

I had one dcb who had no concept that he was supposed to be responsible for recognizing the need to go. If we didn't send him, he would just wet his pull-up and carry on as if all was normal. He just figured somebody was supposed to tell him every single time.

I finally got through to his parents that HE had to tell US......not the other way around!

[nannyde]

I have had kids trained at home for a year before they trained at my house. I don't worry about the parent lying. I have my policies and I stick to them. I refuse to do daily conferencing about it also. Once a month we can touch base. If they say he's great at home then they are just buying four to five diapers a day. That's a small amount of money. If they say the kid will be confused if I do diapers and they do underwear, I remind them that the kid has done great at home and that means they aren't confused.

I get tired of the lying. Potty training lying is second only to illness lying in daycare.

[LeslieG]

I don't know, I really don't think they're lying to me. They give him two teddy grahams every time he goes pee, so dcd said he asks a lot at home because he wants to get his treat.

Dcm brought some teddy grahams to keep at my house every time he goes… but it doesn't seem to have the same effect here.

I have been asking him to sit on the potty here and try. I'll have him sit there until he goes pee.. sometimes that's a half hour of sitting. He still pees in his diapers all the time here. I'm just confused at why he asks to use the potty at home and doesn't here.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I don't know, I really don't think they're lying to me. They give him two teddy grahams every time he goes pee, so dcd said he asks a lot at home because he wants to get his treat.

Dcm brought some teddy grahams to keep at my house every time he goes… but it doesn't seem to have the same effect here.

I have been asking him to sit on the potty here and try. I'll have him sit there until he goes pee.. sometimes that's a half hour of sitting. He still pees in his diapers all the time here. I'm just confused at why he asks to use the potty at home and doesn't here.

HOLY COW! Please do not make a child that young, or any child for that matter, sit on a toilet for 30 minutes!
It should take ONE minute. One minute, no pee came out, he is done. One minute, pee came out, he is done.
I have a 2.5DCG that Mom says is potty trained. One month ago she said she asks her to go potty every 20 minutes. Um. That isn't potty trained. That is just coincidentally going pee in a toilet because you are there three times an hour anyways.

[nannyde]

I don't know, I really don't think they're lying to me. They give him two teddy grahams every time he goes pee, so dcd said he asks a lot at home because he wants to get his treat.

Dcm brought some teddy grahams to keep at my house every time he goes… but it doesn't seem to have the same effect here.

I have been asking him to sit on the potty here and try. I'll have him sit there until he goes pee.. sometimes that's a half hour of sitting. He still pees in his diapers all the time here. I'm just confused at why he asks to use the potty at home and doesn't here.

Three minutes on the pot at normal diaper changes. That's all you need.

[Play Care]

One of the things I do when a parent insists their child is trained at home is to have THEM bring them to the potty here and SHOW me the child is trained.

[LeslieG]

HOLY COW! Please do not make a child that young, or any child for that matter, sit on a toilet for 30 minutes!
It should take ONE minute. One minute, no pee came out, he is done. One minute, pee came out, he is done.
I have a 2.5DCG that Mom says is potty trained. One month ago she said she asks her to go potty every 20 minutes. Um. That isn't potty trained. That is just coincidentally going pee in a toilet because you are there three times an hour anyways.

Oh no! Now I feel terrible!! I have no children of my own and I really have no experience potty training kids, so I had no idea that 30 minutes was too long!

I was just trying to get him to see that pee goes in the potty, not his diaper. If I have him sit on the potty for a minute or two at certain times of the day, I feel like he won't go because he already got his pee out in his diaper.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Oh no! Now I feel terrible!! I have no children of my own and I really have no experience potty training kids, so I had no idea that 30 minutes was too long!

I was just trying to get him to see that pee goes in the potty, not his diaper. If I have him sit on the potty for a minute or two at certain times of the day, I feel like he won't go because he already got his pee out in his diaper.

That makes sense but that is just an incredibly long time for a 2-year-old to sit (even off the potty).

I really think he is too young to be potty trained. I have only met one little boy who was potty trained at 2.5 and his Mom was a SAHM at the time. He came here at age 3 fully trained so I don't know what her methods were to get him to that point but even being a fully potty trained newly turned 3yo little boy is pretty good in my book! Most boys that I have known tend to train around 3.5.
Maybe take a look at the following list (for signs that YOU see, not what Mom says...because parents can say a lot and it doesn't mean it is true...!): http://www.babycenter.com/0_potty-tr...cklist_4384.bc