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Unfortunately I'm not able to get on here as much as I would like to. I do visit occasionally and make posts, comment on some and read most. This past January I posted about a new baby that I had and would only have for 3 weeks. A lot of you agreed with me (I was thinking of terming because he cried a lot and wouldn't take a bottle). Anyway, I ended up terming after the first week, the kids were only here Mon-Thurs because Friday big brother (2) was sick. I termed after that. I was very honest with why, that even though he had made a lot of improvement in that first week, that I was just going to go ahead and term and wished them the best and all that good stuff.
Let me start from the beginning of the week. Both kids were adorable. Little brother was almost 6 months old and older brother was 2. Baby cried and cried. He was strictly breastfed. She did say that dad and grandma gave him a bottle with no problem at all. The first two days I couldn't get him to take the bottle however he did eat baby food very well so I wasn't real worried. However he did cry a lot unless I was holding him. He didn't nap but just a few minutes and he was here from about 6:30am-4:30 pm. You guys know how miserable it is for everyone when someone cries all day. It didn't just affect me but it was frustrating for my helpers I'm sure along with the other children. By day 3 I was able to get him to eat with a medicine dropper and fed him his milk with that. Mid morning I went to walmart and bought a couple different nipples and tried it the next day and guess what? He took it on day 4. But I went ahead and let them go since they were only 3 weeks anyway and the week had been hard.
Things are fine the next few days and that next Thursday I hear from another daycare parent that the baby had an episode at the new daycare. Also a home daycare. I read info about his incident on Facebook and it happened on Wednesday afternoon. He had a seizure and was unconscious. The provider did CPR (I'm not sure if he actually stopped breathing or if she just thought he did). They care flighted him to a hospital and treated him for some brain injuries.
I had messaged the parents when I found out that I was sorry to hear that this happened and that I was praying for their baby.
From what we read on Facebook updates we all believed that the brother had hit him in the head with a toy and that this causes the reaction. But baby appeared to be doing ok.
Thursday about an hour or two after I found out about this I had a detective visit my home and visit with me. He questioned me and my helper for a couple hours. We just figured it was routine and we cooperated.
Later that day licensing visited us an closed us down pending an investigation. I was devastated. They closed my daycare and the other daycare. The following two weeks I was questioned, given a polygraph, questioned again. It wS traumatizing because questioning turned into accusations and at first I thought there's no way they think this happened at my daycare. After the first week or so I knew they must've thought it happened there. They were horrible.
After the polygraph the continued I question me for hours and try to get me to break and confess to something I did not do. Apparently they believed the baby had shaken baby syndrome. Yes the baby cried a lot and yes it was frustrating but no I've never shaken a baby. I have no issues at all with letting a baby CIO in a pak n play in another room if I ever got too frustrated. But I'm a pretty patient person. It was annoying but not so much that I would ever hurt that baby.
During the time the baby was here i had at least two helpers on duty for half the dAy and then one the last half of the day. I thought that alone would prove that nothing like that happened at my house. I finally had to get up and just leave that last interview because I had already told them all I knew but they didn't seem to get that. The following Monday a CPS caseworker visited my children at school and questioned them. I only know this because my children told me. CPS to this day has not contacted me at all (this happened in January).
I hired my attorney that Thursday and by the following Monday I was open again and never heard from the detectives again. I still have questions that I guess won't ever be answered. It was the most traumatic thing I've ever been through. The other daycare remains shut down but I'm not sure if it's because state hasn't let her reopen or because she is too traumatized to do this work any longer. From what I hear they are trying to charge her with this. This event caused me well over $5000 due to attorney fees and lost wages. I lost 4 kids from this. Not because they thought we did anything but because after the first they had to find alternate care.
I guess I posted this for two reasons: one to tell others to protect themselves in any way you can. We installed security cameras and are just so cautious now with any incidents at all. I still really don't feel protected though.
The second reason was just to share my story with those who would relate the best. It's been months and I've talked it over with friends but I still haven't been able to put it behind me. I used to believe you were innocent unless proven guilty but those detectives made me feel like a criminal when I wasn't one. I really hope to move past this. I'm open and almost full again. Business was booming within about a month of the incident so luckily it didn't hurt my business much. But its been traumatic to me. I really hope to one day feel at ease and normal again. I worried everyday after CPS visited my children if they would try to take them from me. I still cringe when an officer passes by my home or I see a law enforcement agent in a restaurant. I used to respect authority and had no issues with our justice system. I guess I do still respect authority because I'm certainly not a law breaker but I don't like them anymore and that makes me so sad :-(
Sorry so long!
Let me start from the beginning of the week. Both kids were adorable. Little brother was almost 6 months old and older brother was 2. Baby cried and cried. He was strictly breastfed. She did say that dad and grandma gave him a bottle with no problem at all. The first two days I couldn't get him to take the bottle however he did eat baby food very well so I wasn't real worried. However he did cry a lot unless I was holding him. He didn't nap but just a few minutes and he was here from about 6:30am-4:30 pm. You guys know how miserable it is for everyone when someone cries all day. It didn't just affect me but it was frustrating for my helpers I'm sure along with the other children. By day 3 I was able to get him to eat with a medicine dropper and fed him his milk with that. Mid morning I went to walmart and bought a couple different nipples and tried it the next day and guess what? He took it on day 4. But I went ahead and let them go since they were only 3 weeks anyway and the week had been hard.
Things are fine the next few days and that next Thursday I hear from another daycare parent that the baby had an episode at the new daycare. Also a home daycare. I read info about his incident on Facebook and it happened on Wednesday afternoon. He had a seizure and was unconscious. The provider did CPR (I'm not sure if he actually stopped breathing or if she just thought he did). They care flighted him to a hospital and treated him for some brain injuries.
I had messaged the parents when I found out that I was sorry to hear that this happened and that I was praying for their baby.
From what we read on Facebook updates we all believed that the brother had hit him in the head with a toy and that this causes the reaction. But baby appeared to be doing ok.
Thursday about an hour or two after I found out about this I had a detective visit my home and visit with me. He questioned me and my helper for a couple hours. We just figured it was routine and we cooperated.
Later that day licensing visited us an closed us down pending an investigation. I was devastated. They closed my daycare and the other daycare. The following two weeks I was questioned, given a polygraph, questioned again. It wS traumatizing because questioning turned into accusations and at first I thought there's no way they think this happened at my daycare. After the first week or so I knew they must've thought it happened there. They were horrible.
After the polygraph the continued I question me for hours and try to get me to break and confess to something I did not do. Apparently they believed the baby had shaken baby syndrome. Yes the baby cried a lot and yes it was frustrating but no I've never shaken a baby. I have no issues at all with letting a baby CIO in a pak n play in another room if I ever got too frustrated. But I'm a pretty patient person. It was annoying but not so much that I would ever hurt that baby.
During the time the baby was here i had at least two helpers on duty for half the dAy and then one the last half of the day. I thought that alone would prove that nothing like that happened at my house. I finally had to get up and just leave that last interview because I had already told them all I knew but they didn't seem to get that. The following Monday a CPS caseworker visited my children at school and questioned them. I only know this because my children told me. CPS to this day has not contacted me at all (this happened in January).
I hired my attorney that Thursday and by the following Monday I was open again and never heard from the detectives again. I still have questions that I guess won't ever be answered. It was the most traumatic thing I've ever been through. The other daycare remains shut down but I'm not sure if it's because state hasn't let her reopen or because she is too traumatized to do this work any longer. From what I hear they are trying to charge her with this. This event caused me well over $5000 due to attorney fees and lost wages. I lost 4 kids from this. Not because they thought we did anything but because after the first they had to find alternate care.
I guess I posted this for two reasons: one to tell others to protect themselves in any way you can. We installed security cameras and are just so cautious now with any incidents at all. I still really don't feel protected though.
The second reason was just to share my story with those who would relate the best. It's been months and I've talked it over with friends but I still haven't been able to put it behind me. I used to believe you were innocent unless proven guilty but those detectives made me feel like a criminal when I wasn't one. I really hope to move past this. I'm open and almost full again. Business was booming within about a month of the incident so luckily it didn't hurt my business much. But its been traumatic to me. I really hope to one day feel at ease and normal again. I worried everyday after CPS visited my children if they would try to take them from me. I still cringe when an officer passes by my home or I see a law enforcement agent in a restaurant. I used to respect authority and had no issues with our justice system. I guess I do still respect authority because I'm certainly not a law breaker but I don't like them anymore and that makes me so sad :-(
Sorry so long!
That sounds horribly traumatic and I would be very shaken up over it all. :hug:
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