Trying To Read DCM's Silence

[Josiegirl]

I've been talking with one of my dcms lately about needing to change some of my policies. So I finally got around to it and left the new pages in everybody's cubbies. She read it this a.m. and never said a word. So when I sent home their daily reports I wrote to please call with any questions concerning the new rules. I am going to be paid 52 weeks a year now plus I'm not offering as substantial sibling discount as before. So it'll cost her 10 bucks more a week when I have her son. He's in school anyways so it'd be mainly summertime.
I'm not sure how to interpret her silence. I'm not very good at reading people. I figured if she really didn't like it she'd say something but I don't want her going home and badmouthing me to her dh either.
Leave it to me to second-guess everything I do. ugh.

[playground1]

Well, a few things.

If she's paying more, you can't expect her to be happy about it. The best you can hope for is acceptance. The amount of money she's paying hasn't gone up that drastically, so I doubt she'll change daycare's over 40 bucks.

But most importantly, try to remember you made that decision for a reason, a good reason, and stay strong. Respect your own needs and feelings as much as you do theirs.

[Blackcat31]

Silence is NOT a bad thing.

I tell all my DCF's that I require open and honest communication.

If they didn't hear it directly from me, then it isn't necessarily true and if they don't come to me with any issues, concerns or questions I will simply assume there are none.

She may very well have expected the rate increase and policy changes since you were previously discussing these things with her.

Surprisingly some parents really ARE willing to pay more when they truly appreciate their provider and the services she provides.

I would take it as it is. She has not called with questions or concerns, therefore she does not have any.

[GKJNIGMN]

I don't think you should stress about anything she may say to her DH. I use mine as the one person I can say absolutely anything to and it won't go back to the person I am saying it about

Even if she isn't happy about it, if she is willing to pay it there doesn't need to be a discussion because you weren't asking her permission.

[NightOwl]

I am a HORRIBLE second guesser. My mentor in this business (yes, I was phenomenally lucky to have one) always told me that when I make a decision, to stick to it and move on. He said worrying and second guessing is hurting no one but myself. If I fired someone or made a major policy change, I would dwell on it for weeks sometimes, wondering if it was the right decision. He said, it's done. Now you (me) be done with it and move on.