Sex Offender Issue

[KidGrind]

But the drama is not caused by me, it's caused by the neighbor. Still don't get it. I am not a drama queen by any means, but it seems you think only a drama queen would tell parents?

I never wrote anywhere on this thread about a drama queen. I wrote my stance as a parent who has had her children in a daycare provider’s home.

I never wrote you were a drama queen. I don’t think a citizen with a dark past moving into a neighborhood is the cause of drama. The drama would be if he continues whatever behavior caused him to be a registered sex offender in the first place. The drama is if the neighbors go on a witch hunt to get him to move.

The fact that I see the situation differently than you is not an indictment on who you are as a person. I do not know you. We just think differently. Your method of operation doesn’t have to make sense to me. How I operate in this life has to make sense to me.

[KidGrind]

I understand what you are saying. I am old and have bn in daycare a long time so I have lots of stories..:: Anyway, years ago, my cousin was diagnosed with hepetitus C. This was long before persons were educated on this disease. Well, I felt the need to tell my parents that he would NOT be in my home daycare during hours (this was before my new room). Well, to my amazement, every parent which I met with separately stopped me before I could get started telling me they knew I took care of their kids and kept them safe or they would not leave them with me. They also told me their families had issue too, therefore letting me know there was NO judgement taking place. So, NOW, I handle things differently. I feel my family is open with the families enrolled but they trust me and DO NOT need any EXTRA INFO. Just sharing in this discussion!

BINGO! Thank for sharing!

[craftymissbeth]

I never wrote anywhere on this thread about a drama queen. I wrote my stance as a parent who has had her children in a daycare provider’s home.

I never wrote you were a drama queen. I don’t think a citizen with a dark past is caused by a neighbor. The drama would be if he continues whatever behavior caused him to be a registered sex offender in the first place.

The fact that I see the situation differently than you is not an indictment on who you are as a person. I do not know you. We just think differently. Your method of operation doesn’t have to make sense to me. How I operate in this life has to make sense to me.

I totally get what you're saying and I wouldn't tell my parents either, but he HAS reoffended multiple times.

[NightOwl]

I never wrote anywhere on this thread about a drama queen. I wrote my stance as a parent who has had her children in a daycare provider’s home.

I never wrote you were a drama queen. I don’t think a citizen with a dark past moving into a neighborhood is the cause of drama. The drama would be if he continues whatever behavior caused him to be a registered sex offender in the first place. The drama is if the neighbors go on a witch hunt to get him to move.

The fact that I see the situation differently than you is not an indictment on who you are as a person. I do not know you. We just think differently. Your method of operation doesn’t have to make sense to me. How I operate in this life has to make sense to me.

Oh crap! No, no, no! I didn't mean to put words in your mouth! I can see how it looked that way. I apologize. I was making a generalization. I should have said it "seemed" that you felt a person telling their parents was a drama queen. I was asking for more clarification and did a poor job
of it. I didn't intend to accuse you of calling ME a drama queen, I was just stating that I am not one. My bad!

[KidGrind]

Oh crap! No, no, no! I didn't mean to put words in your mouth! I can see how it looked that way. I apologize. I was making a generalization. I should have said it "seemed" that you felt a person telling their parents was a drama queen. I was asking for more clarification and did a poor job
of it. I didn't intend to accuse you of calling ME a drama queen, I was just stating that I am not one. My bad!

No worries, I write my opinion, advice or method of operation and let everything else roll off my back and giggle. It’s not that serious. Thanks for apologizing. Often I type something and it’s not exactly how or what I meant to convey.

[NightOwl]

No worries, I write my opinion, advice or method of operation and let everything else roll off my back and giggle. It’s not that serious. Thanks for apologizing. Often I type something and it’s not exactly how or what I meant to convey.

I do that often and usually end up in trouble. Lol. Again, I apologize. I read it again and was like, yes, I sound like a total bitch. :embarrassed: But that wasn't my intention. I love a good debate, but I try to not get nasty.

[playground1]

No worries, I write my opinion, advice or method of operation and let everything else roll off my back and giggle. It’s not that serious. Thanks for apologizing. Often I type something and it’s not exactly how or what I meant to convey.

[KidGrind]

I do that often and usually end up in trouble. Lol. Again, I apologize. I read it again and was like, yes, I sound like a total bitch. :embarrassed: But that wasn't my intention. I love a good debate, but I try to not get nasty.

We’re good on my end. I enjoy your voice on this site whether I agree or disagree with your opinion.

[KidGrind]

:::::: You make me laugh! STOP IT! I have a weak bladder.

[NightOwl]

:::::: You make me laugh! STOP IT! I have a weak bladder.

Loool

[NightOwl]

I LOVE your memes, queen!

[SunshineMama]

Wow, this is such a hard situation for you to be in, I am so sorry you are facing this!

On one hand, there is a moral obligation to point out to your parents that there is a sex offender living across from you. But, as a parent, if I found out that there was a sex offender across from my childs daycare, I would definitely leave. That would hurt your business, but as a parent, I would not bet my child's innocence on being 100% sure that you are able to keep them away from my kid. I would care more about what could potentially happen, than your making money. But that's just me.

As a daycare provider, you have to work to make a living. You will lose clients if you tell them, and you will have a hard time getting new clients. From here forward, are you going to begin every interview with, "The sex offender across the street?" Its hard enough to get clients as it is, I'd bet it is almost impossible to do it with a registered sex offender. If you dont plan to tell the new potential clients about it, theres no sense in notifying your current families.

Is getting licensed going to make him have to move, or you? If the answer is that simple, then Id get licensed.

If not, I'd honestly probably keep quiet and just be extra extra vigilant and keep those kiddos safe, and in your direct line of sight at all costs. At the end of the day, no one is going to look out for you and your livlihood. They arent going to feel bad for a second about you not being able to pay your bills. And its true that the unregistered ones are the ones that are even worse. Can you look up the kind of crime it was? It's all bad, but an 18yo dating a 16yo isnt as bad as a pedophile.

One of those terrible curve balls that life throws your way. Im sooooo sorry

[TickleMonster]

Wow, this is such a hard situation for you to be in, I am so sorry you are facing this!

On one hand, there is a moral obligation to point out to your parents that there is a sex offender living across from you. But, as a parent, if I found out that there was a sex offender across from my childs daycare, I would definitely leave. That would hurt your business, but as a parent, I would not bet my child's innocence on being 100% sure that you are able to keep them away from my kid. I would care more about what could potentially happen, than your making money. But that's just me.

As a daycare provider, you have to work to make a living. You will lose clients if you tell them, and you will have a hard time getting new clients. From here forward, are you going to begin every interview with, "The sex offender across the street?" Its hard enough to get clients as it is, I'd bet it is almost impossible to do it with a registered sex offender. If you dont plan to tell the new potential clients about it, theres no sense in notifying your current families.

Is getting licensed going to make him have to move, or you? If the answer is that simple, then Id get licensed.

If not, I'd honestly probably keep quiet and just be extra extra vigilant and keep those kiddos safe, and in your direct line of sight at all costs. At the end of the day, no one is going to look out for you and your livlihood. They arent going to feel bad for a second about you not being able to pay your bills. And its true that the unregistered ones are the ones that are even worse. Can you look up the kind of crime it was? It's all bad, but an 18yo dating a 16yo isnt as bad as a pedophile.

One of those terrible curve balls that life throws your way. Im sooooo sorry

Thankyou. While a million other things have been said on here, this basicly sums it up and I appreciate your well-rounded views.