Screaming One yr old

[NightOwl]

It doesnt sound like the parents are willing to change anything but if it makes you feel better, give it one more discussion and YOU tell them what plan will be put into place. If you dont see progress within two weeks, you will need to have them move onto a new daycare.

But I also think you are making it worse.....I would NEVER go thru my cabinets trying to find something a one year old would eat. I would offer one meal, if they dont eat it, I would take them from the table and not offer a thing till the next meal. Every time they throw a tantrum, I would separate them from the group and let them scream as long as they want....either in a PNP in a separate room or in a "cry corner" in the same room. I would IGNORE all screaming behavior until she gives up. I personally would not even try to involve parents, either I can deal with it at daycare or I would term. I dont think you are going to get much more out of these parents.

I would agree with this only after the child has had a check up to be certain there's no medical issue and this truly IS just stubbornness.
I totally agree with the meals, offering what everyone else has and nothing else. The op's dcg will consider this special treatment and will come to expect it. Also, the others will start wondering why they aren't getting this special treatment and may even start displaying the same behaviors in order to get it, kwim?

[playground1]

As far as Tylenol goes...NO WAY would I just dose a kid up without knowing what the issue was. WAY too much liability for my comfort.

Our regs are such that as long as the parent fills out a form, we can give meds "as needed". But I did mean, of course, once it's clear there's nothing else wrong.

I guess I've been very lucky. 4 kids and we've only had two ear infections. In fact, I can count one hand how many times they've been on antibiotics.

[Blackcat31]

Our regs are such that as long as the parent fills out a form, we can give meds "as needed". But I did mean, of course, once it's clear there's nothing else wrong.

I guess I've been very lucky. 4 kids and we've only had two ear infections. In fact, I can count one hand how many times they've been on antibiotics.

Alot of providers do dispense meds but alot of us don't.

Even if a parent signs a permission slip so we can, what happens if the mom forgot to tell us they dosed kid before drop off and then we (provider) decides to dose at care because we have permission and the kid is accidentally overdosed? Guess who's fault it is?

The difference between what a parent is allowed to do and what a provider can do can sometimes be the difference between a simple mistake (parent) and a felony charge (provider) ...kwim?

So that "as needed" part is way too dangerous for us to take on as a liability in general.

Plus, if a child truly needs medication to make it through the day, they really shouldn't be in care but instead at home in their mama's care...kwim?

[SignMeUp]

The difference between what a parent is allowed to do and what a provider can do can sometimes be the difference between a simple mistake (parent) and a felony charge (provider) ...kwim?

This is more and more true with each passing year. We used to be an extension of home/parenting. Now we are 'professionals' and carry the burdens that go with that.

I do dispense meds, but won't give acetaminophen without talking to the parent first. It's been considered a 'safe' med for many years, but more recently there has been information on how easy it is to overdose on it. It causes liver damage and worse, and it's very serious. Packaging instructions have changed because of this.

I take children from infancy to kindergarten. If I have reason to believe an infant is teething, and they are miserable, I feel no reason to exclude and will use medication with parental permission to relieve the discomfort. If I have any doubts, the infant goes home and/or to the doctor for verification.

[KiddieCahoots]

This is more and more true with each passing year. We used to be an extension of home/parenting. Now we are 'professionals' and carry the burdens that go with that.

I do dispense meds, but won't give acetaminophen without talking to the parent first. It's been considered a 'safe' med for many years, but more recently there has been information on how easy it is to overdose on it. It causes liver damage and worse, and it's very serious. Packaging instructions have changed because of this.

I take children from infancy to kindergarten. If I have reason to believe an infant is teething, and they are miserable, I feel no reason to exclude and will use medication with parental permission to relieve the discomfort. If I have any doubts, the infant goes home and/or to the doctor for verification.

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So many parents send their children to child care after being given medications in the morning without informing me. The children usually tell me. And on the days that the children are a little off, I even ask if they had any medicine in the morning, again.....they'll tell me, who gave it to them, describe the flavor and color, and whether their siblings had some too.
I have it my PHB, children should not be attending child care if they need Tylenol, Motrin/acetaminophen or ibuprofen in the morning, if needed to make it throughout the day.
This is to help back up if the symptoms they have are disruptive to the group function, I can call to have them go home. Otherwise I truly don't mind giving the med for mild temps, or symptoms.
Without the cooperation of some parents and the whole liability of giving medications.....makes me weary though.

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So many parents send their children to child care after being given medications in the morning without informing me. The children usually tell me. ...
I have it my PHB, children should not be attending child care if they need Tylenol, Motrin/acetaminophen or ibuprofen in the morning, if needed to make it throughout the day.

I had parents telling me at the END of the day what they'd given their child before they came. So I made a form for that and changed my policy to say that parents MUST fill out the form if a child has had ANY medication in the 24 hours before attending child care.
The only exceptions are if they have given me information about regular medication use at home (for reflux or other ongoing concern) and it's already on their emergency card.