At what point would you send home?

[aDCProvider]

I have a DCB who is VERY sensitive and will usually cry for a little while after drop off and at random times throughout the day. When this happens he walks over to his PnP to be put in with his pacifier and blanket, he will stay in for a few minutes and then stand up and ask to come back out to play. Not today! He got dropped off at 8:00 started crying at 8:15 and has not stopped since, it is now almost 9:30 and he will not come out of his PnP and is just laying there screaming and crying for his Mom.

He is only temporary and only comes 2 days per week. He is leaving in 3 weeks. He's been sent home twice before, both for fevers (his first day and his only day in attendance last week).

I have in my illness policy that excessive crying or not being able to participate in normal activities will warrant being sent home. This qualifies! I've only sent home once for crying before and that was a child who screamed for and hour and a half after being dropped off the day after their new sibling was born.

What would you do? I can't let him stay in his PnP all day and cry!

[aDCProvider]

Called for pickup at 10:15 after 2 solid hours of screaming/crying. Poor kid doesn't seem to feel well still! He refused breakfast and snack and all he wants to do is lay in his PNP and cry :-(.

[bklsmum]

You did the right thing.

[KiddieCahoots]

You did the right thing.

I second this

This is one of those tough calls for me too. I have the same about participation in my policies, but always seem to try and stick it out like you did, until it's been hours of crying. Just because I'm not usually greeted by the happiest parent if they have to pick up. Some parents will still try to insist on that 101 temp.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

You made the right choice. Poor kiddo.

[playground1]

To be honest, we don't ever send anyone home for crying unless we think they're ill. We see it as part of our job to deal with it. But there are 3 of us for 15 kids, I'm sure it would be different if I were alone with several.

[craftymissbeth]

To be honest, we don't ever send anyone home for crying unless we think they're ill. We see it as part of our job to deal with it. But there are 3 of us for 15 kids, I'm sure it would be different if I were alone with several.

It's never a home daycare provider's job to deal with inconsolable children who cannot participate. If we had 6-12 inconsolable children for 12 hours a day 5 days a week we'd never survive. My personal philosophy is if ALL of the daycare kids can't do it, then no one can do it.

[Unregistered]

had this exact issue last week. I called mom to come pick up 17month old due to screaming for 2 hours at nap time and no one was getting any rest because of it. Next thing I know Mom and Dad both show up to tell me not to call them unless he has a fever because their jobs are more important! They have no back up available because they are not from around here. Not my problem! they only get 5 days off a year AGAIN not my PROBLEM! Be a freaking parent or don't have kids!!

[playground1]

It's never a home daycare provider's job to deal with inconsolable children who cannot participate. If we had 6-12 inconsolable children for 12 hours a day 5 days a week we'd never survive. My personal philosophy is if ALL of the daycare kids can't do it, then no one can do it.

I'm not a home daycare provider. Ergo, my statement:

But there are 3 of us for 15 kids, I'm sure it would be different if I were alone with several.

[craftymissbeth]

To be honest, we don't ever send anyone home for crying unless we think they're ill. We see it as part of our job to deal with it. But there are 3 of us for 15 kids, I'm sure it would be different if I were alone with several.

I'm not a home daycare provider. Ergo, my statement:

I read that. It was the bolded that I was referring to. Actually, I don't feel that any group provider should deal with it. And neither should the other children.

[playground1]

Well, I disagree. Little kids cry, it's part of the job. Different training, I guess.

[sahm1225]

I read that. It was the bolded that I was referring to. Actually, I don't feel that any group provider should deal with it. And neither should the other children.

I agree with crafty. If a kid is crying and inconsolable, they need to be home because most of the time something's wrong/not feeling well.

I understand that kids cry & it's a part of their job, but as a parent I would be horrified if I found out my child cried the ENTiRe day. Here & there crying, that I do understand. But crying and refusing to participate to me means they need to be with mom & dad

[playground1]

I understand that kids cry & it's a part of their job, but as a parent I would be horrified if I found out my child cried the ENTiRe day.

I get what you're saying but we've never actually had anyone crying all day. We have a different kind of integration process, maybe that's why? When you have 3 adults you do have the "luxury" of one of you being able to focus on the child.