Grandparents Visiting

[SSWonders]

The dogs are barking their heads off upstairs and aren't quieting down, my daycare is in the basement, so I go to investigate. My father (my parents live with us) is in the yard and says that my high maintenance baby's grandmother is here and wants to introduce herself. Do I want to talk to her? Ummmm, that would be no! It's 1:15pm and the kids are napping. So, I'm not disturbing them by having a stranger come in and take a chance on waking the kids, especially since one is her granddaughter who is sleeping in the pnp for only the second time in 5 weeks. And no I can't come out there and talk to her and leave the children unattended downstairs.

I can already see trouble coming when the report gets back to mom that I wouldn't let her come in.

Am I being unreasonable?

[Blackcat31]

How do you know it really is the grandmother?

I would tell mom that she is welcome to have grandma accompany her during a pick up so she can meet you then but when a stranger appears on your property, stating they are so and so, you have NO way of verifying that so you do what safety instincts tell you to and deny them access.

[playground1]

Absolutely not! You do not send someone to you kids daycare that the dcp has never met and expect them to chat. That's insane.

Of course, I would have said something along the lines of "why don't you come back at pick up time, with mom, and we can introduce ourselves then."

[Heidi]

How do you know it really is the grandmother?

I would tell mom that she is welcome to have grandma accompany her during a pick up so she can meet you then but when a stranger appears on your property, stating they are so and so, you have NO way of verifying that so you do what safety instincts tell you to and deny them access.

Grandma could even come and visit during the morning, if you're comfortable with that and she's comfortable being put to work (reading stories, etc). Of course, you'll have to do any necessary background check documentation your state requires (here, we only have to do it if they are left alone with the children or count in our numbers)

[sharlan]

Nope, no visitations at my house.

[Annalee]

The dogs are barking their heads off upstairs and aren't quieting down, my daycare is in the basement, so I go to investigate. My father (my parents live with us) is in the yard and says that my high maintenance baby's grandmother is here and wants to introduce herself. Do I want to talk to her? Ummmm, that would be no! It's 1:15pm and the kids are napping. So, I'm not disturbing them by having a stranger come in and take a chance on waking the kids, especially since one is her granddaughter who is sleeping in the pnp for only the second time in 5 weeks. And no I can't come out there and talk to her and leave the children unattended downstairs.

I can already see trouble coming when the report gets back to mom that I wouldn't let her come in.

Am I being unreasonable?

NO MA'AM! I have stepped outside my door many times and forbid persons to enter, especially at nap!

[TaylorTots]

If you are a grandparent, be ready with ID in hand the first time and you must be on the pick up list because if you are "visiting" here, you are really picking up DCK and spending the afternoon with them at your own residence...

[Texasjeepgirl]

Nope, no visitations at my house.

Same here.
I make that clear.
This is not a visitation location for anyone... Grandparents... or... the other parent..
If they are authorized to pick up the child...then they can pick the child up from my care and go visit somewhere else..
I do not have time for that... it is FAR too disruptive to my routine and to the other children in care...