Terming Aggressive 20 Month Old - Is This Fair?

[MCC]

I had the talk with mom and dad tonight. They seemed really concerned actually, and are taking this very seriously. They made an appointment with the pediatrician to talk to them about ways they can help DCB, they have that tomorrow.

DCM, I think, was a bit peeved at me, but DCD (who I rarely see) was very willing to do whatever it takes to solve the issue. He did admit that they have been doing some rough play at home, and promised to stop it all together, at least for now.

DCD kept stressing about how long they waited for a spot to open up here (7 months) and that the last thing they want to have to move DCB somewhere else.

It ended up being a really great talk, and I feel like we kind of got to know each other a bit more.

Thank you all for your guidance through this! :hug:

[Sugar Magnolia]

I'm glad to hear the talk went well!:hug:
Just remember to follow through on what you discussed and document ANY further incidents carefully.
Good luck!

[spinnymarie]

What a wonderful response! I'm so glad things are going that direction. I'd try to give them (parents) some positive reinforcement too as soon as you can (DCB did really well this morning, it looks like things are improving!).

[nannyde]

I had the talk with mom and dad tonight. They seemed really concerned actually, and are taking this very seriously. They made an appointment with the pediatrician to talk to them about ways they can help DCB, they have that tomorrow.

DCM, I think, was a bit peeved at me, but DCD (who I rarely see) was very willing to do whatever it takes to solve the issue. He did admit that they have been doing some rough play at home, and promised to stop it all together, at least for now.

DCD kept stressing about how long they waited for a spot to open up here (7 months) and that the last thing they want to have to move DCB somewhere else.

It ended up being a really great talk, and I feel like we kind of got to know each other a bit more.

Thank you all for your guidance through this! :hug:

Just be prepared for them to pull him out. They have to say what they have to say to keep him there until they find another gig. This is a VERY common immediate response because they want day care. Remember it's words they are doing now. They only brought up his slot when you brought up terming. Remember when the slot wasn't on the line it was "boys will be boys". That's a wildly different response.

[cheerfuldom]

Just be prepared for them to pull him out. They have to say what they have to say to keep him there until they find another gig. This is a VERY common immediate response because they want day care. Remember it's words they are doing now. They only brought up his slot when you brought up terming. Remember when the slot wasn't on the line it was "boys will be boys". That's a wildly different response.

good advice. Plus pediatricians are not the right people to go to for most parenting issues, especially if this is not due to a special needs type situation. They are not trained in a lot of behavioral/parenting issues. He/she is a medical doctor and most of them will soothe parents by saying things like "its a phase, wait it out". I can bet almost certainly that he/she will not have any real life tips and instructions in this situation.

[NightOwl]

Agreed. Pediatricians usually perpetuate the whole "boys will be boys" myth. I bet they come back with "it's a phase, he'll grow our of it" or something where the pediatrician implies it's a problem with your program. Be prepared for them to withdraw soon. I'm hoping he recommends a behavior assessment or an early intervention assessment, but I'm not holding my breath. If he doesn't, you can make these recommendations yourself. Now, whether or not they take your recommendation is a different story. You can only do so much. They have to meet you half way.