So Frustrated

[Unregistered]

So I have had a mom that has originally been on the fence about going back to work after maternity. She just had her baby 2 weeks ago. She had been contemplating keeping her 1st born home to save money. I told her because I only had 4 kids that I was not able to hold her spot.

She paid me before her C Section for 4 weeks "in case she would forget to send the checks" and said that she would send him for that 4 weeks while she is healing and getting on her feet and let me know what she wanted to do closer to the end of that time...if she was going to go back to work. So I have two checks left.

I had originally told her that I could not hold a spot for her and go without income.... to be honest I am trying to find another job which she is not obviously aware of so I have been trying to work through with just what I have. I told her I would not hold two spots let alone 1 and as she was fully aware it has been too hard for me to find replacements for other spots.

I'm changing jobs for several reasons but ones is that I'm tired of having to spend weeks upon months to fill spots and deal with no call no shows after spending several hours of my time cleaning and prepping for interviews.

I told her I have to have her pay still to keep her spot. She apparently took that as I'm going to have a hard time filling the spot so she will chance it and told me today she is keeping her son home to save money and not paying for the following 6 weeks and will be back such and such date. I'm so.freaking.beyond.frustrated right now.

How would you handle this?

[Unregistered]

This treatment alone is the biggest reason that I am getting out of this. I am so sick and tired of being treated this way. It is baffling to me that she is still getting paid for her maternity leave and she knows this means I will be bringing in 300 a week...and still wants me to keep my doors open.

I'm so over this job and these people.

[Cradle2crayons]

So I have had a mom that has originally been on the fence about going back to work after maternity. She just had her baby 2 weeks ago. She had been contemplating keeping her 1st born home to save money. I told her because I only had 4 kids that I was not able to hold her spot.

She paid me before her C Section for 4 weeks "in case she would forget to send the checks" and said that she would send him for that 4 weeks while she is healing and getting on her feet and let me know what she wanted to do closer to the end of that time...if she was going to go back to work. So I have two checks left.

I had originally told her that I could not hold a spot for her and go without income.... to be honest I am trying to find another job which she is not obviously aware of so I have been trying to work through with just what I have. I told her I would not hold two spots let alone 1 and as she was fully aware it has been too hard for me to find replacements for other spots.

I'm changing jobs for several reasons but ones is that I'm tired of having to spend weeks upon months to fill spots and deal with no call no shows after spending several hours of my time cleaning and prepping for interviews.

I told her I have to have her pay still to keep her spot. She apparently took that as I'm going to have a hard time filling the spot so she will chance it and told me today she is keeping her son home to save money and not paying for the following 6 weeks and will be back such and such date. I'm so.freaking.beyond.frustrated right now.

How would you handle this?

Do you have a two weeks notice?? If so, get her notice in writing, and if you require it in your contract, make her pay for the last two weeks... And let her pull. There isn't anything you can do. However you could let it sneak out that you don't hold hard feelings because you have several interviews this week. Never let families know you have trouble filling spots... They try to use that to take advantage of you..

Either way there isn't anything you can do. But I'd DEFINATELY leak some information... Act like her spots are filled. And follow your policies on written notices if you have one....

[Unregistered]

I would attempt to replace them as best I could but not inform her in any way that I was filling the spots. When she contacts to arrange returning, I would say the spots were no longer available (to them.) They left thinking only of how this will benefit them in the short term money wise. They had no concern of how it would impact you financially, or how it might impact their future care arrangements for their children. I could not provide care for them moving forward.

[preschoolteacher]

That's just not something I'd ever do to anyone, I can't believe people! I would not enroll her kids later, even if I did have spots.

[Blackcat31]

That's just not something I'd ever do to anyone, I can't believe people! I would not enroll her kids later, even if I did have spots.

Some bridges are meant to be burned.