Trying Very Hard Not To Be Bitter

[Janiam]

What is it with the extra socks? I had a one month notice period that I suffered through....putting on my happy face every day until the end. I had a little going away party, bag of extra clothes packed, hugs all around, thank you and goodbye! DCD says "are sure we don'thave any little socks or anything left?". Oh I'm sure, buh by now. No way would I let your DCM come back on Saturday.... not to mention did she give you a time or are supposed to just wait around on her. I would deliberately be gone and maybe leave a copy of that letter for her.

[KidGrind]

I didn't respond to her text from Tuesday night. I thought about using KidGrind's letter because it was so good, but thought better of it because I was sure this whole mess would escalate. About her daughters: All she wrote was that the girls and I will be by on Saturday... So I haven't the foggiest why she would bring them. I said my goodbyes to them the other day and there is really nothing left to be said.

I would send an email or text:

I have returned all belongings to you on Tuesday during after termination of our childcare service contract. The items are not in my possession. I would like for you to refrain from contacting me in the future. Thank you!

[KiddieCahoots]

You know, the story I mentioned above about being a nanny had a similar situation.They were insistent that they come to my house to collect items. I was honestly afraid they were going to pretend to fall and try and sue or something.
Agree with everyone else. Do not let them back, put any items certified mail (if they even exist). This mom is a real piece...

Had something similar happen to me. Was afraid mom would try to claim an accident on my property and try to sue, so I left the belongings at the end of the walk way. Well guess who reported me with bogus claims!? Because she didn't truly have any real complaints, they came off pretty petty, but she tried to say I left her dcb's belongings in the sewer. Hind sight.....I should've sent certified mail. One less exaggerated lie for her to file.

[Tasha]

I would not allow her to return.

Arrange to have her things sent to her.

Tell her to stop contacting you. Your business agreement is over and any other connection you may have had ended when she chose to show her true colors.

You are absolutely right, BC. I texted her and told her not to come by, that i'll mail her Teddy bear, and that our business arrangement was done. I truly hope she listens to me and doesn't come by anyway. DH won't be back in town until Sunday so it's just me and DD, and I know I don't have anything to worry about, but I don't want her coming over and causing a scene.

[Tasha]

What is it with the extra socks? I had a one month notice period that I suffered through....putting on my happy face every day until the end. I had a little going away party, bag of extra clothes packed, hugs all around, thank you and goodbye! DCD says "are sure we don'thave any little socks or anything left?". Oh I'm sure, buh by now. No way would I let your DCM come back on Saturday.... not to mention did she give you a time or are supposed to just wait around on her. I would deliberately be gone and maybe leave a copy of that letter for her.

I have to admit I laughed at the sock request. She was very specific, too: pair of pink and white socks. Those girls were always velcroed up without socks!

[Tasha]

Update

Sorry to resurrect this thread, but so many of you stuck with me through this strange saga so I thought I'd let you know that I just got an email and I am cracking up at the nerve. Some of you called it, saying that DCM would want her girls to come back and I just thought there was no way in heck that would happen after the psycho way she acted. I was wrong!

[CraftyMom]

Sorry to resurrect this thread, but so many of you stuck with me through this strange saga so I thought I'd let you know that I just got an email and I am cracking up at the nerve. Some of you called it, saying that DCM would want her girls to come back and I just thought there was no way in heck that would happen after the psycho way she acted. I was wrong!

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Please tell us you said no way in heck?!

[MissAnn]

Sorry to resurrect this thread, but so many of you stuck with me through this strange saga so I thought I'd let you know that I just got an email and I am cracking up at the nerve. Some of you called it, saying that DCM would want her girls to come back and I just thought there was no way in heck that would happen after the psycho way she acted. I was wrong!

Oh wow! The nerve! What was your response or lack of?

[Maria2013]

I'm so sorry this happened. But you did have this family for a very long time, and they were terrific clients. I think I would have made the same sacrifice if I were in your shoes, given their reputation, so don't beat yourself up about that.

It ****s that their leaving, but I'm sure that even though dad is back at work it's going to take them a long time to get back on track. They are doing what is best for them and ultimately what is best for you. Because when it comes to financial struggles, those wonderful clients could have easily turned into a pain.

I would ask them to continue to refer people to you, it's the least they can do

very nice

OP, you are a very caring person :hug:

[sahm1225]

Sorry to resurrect this thread, but so many of you stuck with me through this strange saga so I thought I'd let you know that I just got an email and I am cracking up at the nerve. Some of you called it, saying that DCM would want her girls to come back and I just thought there was no way in heck that would happen after the psycho way she acted. I was wrong!

No way!!!!

What did she say?

[Second Home]

:confused:

[Tasha]

I have not replied yet, I thought I'd let it sit awhile until I figure out precisely what I want to say, but there is absolutely no way I would take that family back and have to deal with her again! I got a lot of satisfaction from her email, which said that she'd like to bring the girls back part-time ''to give Mom a little break during the week if that would be okay.'' She wants to "move forward'' and put the past behind us. Right.

[Laurel]

I have not replied yet, I thought I'd let it sit awhile until I figure out precisely what I want to say, but there is absolutely no way I would take that family back and have to deal with her again! I got a lot of satisfaction from her email, which said that she'd like to bring the girls back part-time ''to give Mom a little break during the week if that would be okay.'' She wants to "move forward'' and put the past behind us. Right.

Wow.

I'm glad you updated us.

You could just reply with two words. Not interested.

Laurel

[CraftyMom]

Or just not reply at all. Sometimes saying nothing speaks volumes, although maybe this dcm still wouldn't get it!

[NightOwl]

Ohhhhhhh please update when you respond!!