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This, of all the threads I've read on this site over a couple years, has been the one that got me ticked off the most. (At the situation, not you!) I would have been so incredibly hurt and mad at the same time.
Remember that government shutdown awhile back? I offered to discount for a military family during that. Fortunately, it all blew over really fast and I ended up not losing anything, but I was willing to work with them because I felt for them and for their situation. They work hard, they try hard to provide well, but they do struggle. Then the gov't threw this at them, and they were devastated. It was MY suggestion to help them out.
I had my reservations and told myself I was probably crazy for taking a hit for someone else's problem, but we do what we feel is right at the time. And it felt more right than it did crazy.
I'm glad for myself and for the family that it blew over and never affected us, but it very well could have gone the other way. It could have been a long, drawn out event in which I could've lost a LOT of money. Had that happened, and then at the end of the crisis the family just picked up and ran their kids to Grandma's without so much as a "thank you", "how can we ever repay you?", "you've been a godsend to us when we needed it most", etc., etc, I would have been utterly devastated.
I feel for you. I think I know exactly how it made you feel. Hurt mostly, but at the same time, MAD! I would be very tempted to send an email, just because I hate knowing that they got away with hurting me THAT badly, and never knew about it. Whether that's the right way to think about it, I don't know. Many would say that you should be the bigger person and let them go off into the sunset in their ignorance, and that you should move on with lesson learned.
I say SCREW THAT!!! Send an email !!!!! LOL
I'd send something like, "I need to tell you how hurt I was that the help I gave your family over these last several months was not only not acknowledged, but pretty much slapped in the face. If you look at it this way, I literally GAVE you X amount of dollars to help your family in a time of crisis. (stealing from KidGrind here...) Did Grandma give you money? Did any other family members give you money? I'm not even family and I GAVE you X amount of dollars! You didn't even have the decency to acknowledge that, nor to offer some sort of repayment plan. Nothing. You say that you were loyal to me? Loyalty would have been to stay after the charity ran out. I am deeply hurt and insulted by the way you treated me after my gesture of goodwill to your family. I wish the best for your kids."
Remember that government shutdown awhile back? I offered to discount for a military family during that. Fortunately, it all blew over really fast and I ended up not losing anything, but I was willing to work with them because I felt for them and for their situation. They work hard, they try hard to provide well, but they do struggle. Then the gov't threw this at them, and they were devastated. It was MY suggestion to help them out.
I had my reservations and told myself I was probably crazy for taking a hit for someone else's problem, but we do what we feel is right at the time. And it felt more right than it did crazy.
I'm glad for myself and for the family that it blew over and never affected us, but it very well could have gone the other way. It could have been a long, drawn out event in which I could've lost a LOT of money. Had that happened, and then at the end of the crisis the family just picked up and ran their kids to Grandma's without so much as a "thank you", "how can we ever repay you?", "you've been a godsend to us when we needed it most", etc., etc, I would have been utterly devastated.
I feel for you. I think I know exactly how it made you feel. Hurt mostly, but at the same time, MAD! I would be very tempted to send an email, just because I hate knowing that they got away with hurting me THAT badly, and never knew about it. Whether that's the right way to think about it, I don't know. Many would say that you should be the bigger person and let them go off into the sunset in their ignorance, and that you should move on with lesson learned.
I say SCREW THAT!!! Send an email !!!!! LOL
I'd send something like, "I need to tell you how hurt I was that the help I gave your family over these last several months was not only not acknowledged, but pretty much slapped in the face. If you look at it this way, I literally GAVE you X amount of dollars to help your family in a time of crisis. (stealing from KidGrind here...) Did Grandma give you money? Did any other family members give you money? I'm not even family and I GAVE you X amount of dollars! You didn't even have the decency to acknowledge that, nor to offer some sort of repayment plan. Nothing. You say that you were loyal to me? Loyalty would have been to stay after the charity ran out. I am deeply hurt and insulted by the way you treated me after my gesture of goodwill to your family. I wish the best for your kids."
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