Fuming!

[mrsnj]

My divorcing mom.....always my divorcing mom!
Can I even remotely tell you how I am ready to explode right now!?????

Middle of naps and a car pulls up. I lock up the dogs so they don't bark and wake the kids but see it is the SA child coming up with someone. I open the door. The lady is a mom and is doing a favor and dropping off the SA child cause she is sick and needed to be picked up from school. I said if she is sick I cannot take her. The mom looks like she is ready to cry. Doesn't know what to do. Said she is just doing a favor and cannot take her. Has to go and get her own daughter. At this same time my phone is ringing. The divorcing mom is leaving a message. So I take the child and call the mom back.

Says the nurse called for pick up but she has a meeting and couldn't get there before the bus left. I remind her of my policy....To sick for school; To sick for here. Come get her. She isn't supposed to be here. This is the SECOND time in two weeks! The last time she was kept in school. Mom called to let me know she wasn't feeling well but was coming home on the bus. She was here till 5:30!!!! Mom never came to get her. Here we are again! Only this time she was picked up from school early! Told her to come pick up. She can't. She called dad. Dad said he was too busy she says. She has a meeting and will get here when she gets here. Hangs up. I am fuming.

Call dad. Dad is a sweetie. No problem. He is out of state but he can get the girl friend to pick up. He said they talked but they agreed she was probably ok and would stay in school. Didn't even know she was picked up. Girl friend is willing to leave work and get her and take her home to relax. Ok. Next thing I know I get a mom call back. She is pissed. She is leaving to get her. Its her day. No one is allowed to pick up. If she sees someone here she is calling the police. Blah blah blah. Her freakin drama is now on MY STEP? No blippin way! Who does she think she is!? I don't care if the president is on my pick up list and its her day. She is sick. I call off my list. This is YOUR issue. You deal with it but NOT on my step! Her day. His day. It doesn't make a diff. Sick? I call for pick up. CLEARLY mom didn't want to make the effort.

All of a sudden she can come and get her kid. She claimed before dad can't but when I call is willing to get someone to come and she gets mad? Seriously? I just did what mom clearly didn't even attempt to do!

Mom is pissy. Copping a tude with me. I am so pissed off right now I swear if she steps on my porch with that tude I will chew her bleached blonde head off. Every single issue I have is with HER. Not the kids. Not the dad. Not even the girl friend. HER and I am over it! Who does she think she is!?

I am NOT a dumping ground for whenever she decides to get her kids. She picks up late. Drops off early. Pays late. Bounces checks. I am over her. This week alone I had a bounced check. She is highly mistaken if she thinks I am going to have a soft spot for her drama right now!

I might end up coming up short next week but I will tell you......She can go find someone else if she dares do anything but smiles and kisses my tush when she shows cause I am done done done!

[craftymissbeth]

Let us know how it goes! I'd be fuming too!

[CraftyMom]

Hmmm wonder what happened to the meeting she couldn't leave?!

[MotherNature]

Did you hand her a term letter?

[spud912]

Let us know how it goes! I'd be fuming too!

:::: Me too! Keep us updated!

[TwinKristi]

Sheesh! This sounds like too much drama for one person to handle! I would have called her out on the nonsense and drama-mongering! The bounced & late checks, not picking up, etc. and now this is beyond the call of duty! She needs her walking papers!

[Blackcat31]

My divorcing mom.....always my divorcing mom!
Can I even remotely tell you how I am ready to explode right now!?????

Middle of naps and a car pulls up. I lock up the dogs so they don't bark and wake the kids but see it is the SA child coming up with someone. I open the door. The lady is a mom and is doing a favor and dropping off the SA child cause she is sick and needed to be picked up from school. I said if she is sick I cannot take her. The mom looks like she is ready to cry. Doesn't know what to do. Said she is just doing a favor and cannot take her. Has to go and get her own daughter. At this same time my phone is ringing. The divorcing mom is leaving a message. So I take the child and call the mom back.

Says the nurse called for pick up but she has a meeting and couldn't get there before the bus left. I remind her of my policy....To sick for school; To sick for here. Come get her. She isn't supposed to be here. This is the SECOND time in two weeks! The last time she was kept in school. Mom called to let me know she wasn't feeling well but was coming home on the bus. She was here till 5:30!!!! Mom never came to get her. Here we are again! Only this time she was picked up from school early! Told her to come pick up. She can't. She called dad. Dad said he was too busy she says. She has a meeting and will get here when she gets here. Hangs up. I am fuming.

Call dad. Dad is a sweetie. No problem. He is out of state but he can get the girl friend to pick up. He said they talked but they agreed she was probably ok and would stay in school. Didn't even know she was picked up. Girl friend is willing to leave work and get her and take her home to relax. Ok. Next thing I know I get a mom call back. She is pissed. She is leaving to get her. Its her day. No one is allowed to pick up. If she sees someone here she is calling the police. Blah blah blah. Her freakin drama is now on MY STEP? No blippin way! Who does she think she is!? I don't care if the president is on my pick up list and its her day. She is sick. I call off my list. This is YOUR issue. You deal with it but NOT on my step! Her day. His day. It doesn't make a diff. Sick? I call for pick up. CLEARLY mom didn't want to make the effort.

All of a sudden she can come and get her kid. She claimed before dad can't but when I call is willing to get someone to come and she gets mad? Seriously? I just did what mom clearly didn't even attempt to do!

Mom is pissy. Copping a tude with me. I am so pissed off right now I swear if she steps on my porch with that tude I will chew her bleached blonde head off. Every single issue I have is with HER. Not the kids. Not the dad. Not even the girl friend. HER and I am over it! Who does she think she is!?

I am NOT a dumping ground for whenever she decides to get her kids. She picks up late. Drops off early. Pays late. Bounces checks. I am over her. This week alone I had a bounced check. She is highly mistaken if she thinks I am going to have a soft spot for her drama right now!

I might end up coming up short next week but I will tell you......She can go find someone else if she dares do anything but smiles and kisses my tush when she shows cause I am done done done!

I'm sorry you are having a rough day but this scenario should have stopped at the bolded part above.

Why are YOU taking a sick child because the divorcing mom's friend looked like she was going to cry????

I don't see how any of that is YOUR responsibility.

Please know I am saying this to help you not hurt you but this mom (the divorcing one) is doing this to you because you are letting her.

Stop letting her run the show.

[Great Beginnings]

Ugh, some people! I thought I had bad parents but I guess my year hasn't been that terible after all.

Good luck with her :hug:

[mrsnj]

I agree Black. I cannot argue. My husband said the same thing. Should have closed the door and let the (friend) mom know it was her issue and then deal. But it wasn't her fault. Just like it wasn't the girl friends fault but I still notified the dad cause it wasn't fair this woman was taking time off her job to come pick up the child and then have to deal with the police on my front lawn. Both people just trying to help. I could have and should have sat back and let em all go at it. But this is clearly between the mom and me. I told her no. She said oh well. I found alternate pick up who obviously gave her what for and she was pissed. Oh well. Won't be doing that again will ya! No is no.

She was clearly M.A.D. Came up and didn't say two words to me. I asked if she wanted the younger child too of which she scowled at me and shook her head yes and then took both girls and left. Didn't say a word. Its cool. I am totally ok with that. Cause I think if she dared open her mouth I would have eaten her for lunch! If it were possible for a woman to have the biggest -alls, she would win! Thinks the world is there for her. Got news. The ONLY reason her children come here is because of the kids and the dad. The ONLY reason. After today...this week....she can walk and I won't cry. I know she is already pissy cause when she bounced her check I also notified the dad. She doesn't like when I do that. But he has custody too. He might pay through the court but if she isn't using her money to pay me then it becomes his problem too. So when she does stuff like this or owes money or bounces or whatever, he gets notice too. Last week I had to turn them away cause the SA child had strep! And mom thought she could bring her cause she 'forgot' the dr note to return! No. No. And NO! Guess who got to deal with that cause it was daddy day? Yep! Nice huh. I mean it ALWAYS SOMETHING!

So over this woman!!

Can you all tell I could care less about now?!

[Blackcat31]

I agree Black. I cannot argue. My husband said the same thing. Should have closed the door and let the (friend) mom know it was her issue and then deal. But it wasn't her fault. Just like it wasn't the girl friends fault but I still notified the dad cause it wasn't fair this woman was taking time off her job to come pick up the child and then have to deal with the police on my front lawn. Both people just trying to help. I could have and should have sat back and let em all go at it. But this is clearly between the mom and me. I told her no. She said oh well. I found alternate pick up who obviously gave her what for and she was pissed. Oh well. Won't be doing that again will ya! No is no.

She was clearly M.A.D. Came up and didn't say two words to me. I asked if she wanted the younger child too of which she scowled at me and shook her head yes and then took both girls and left. Didn't say a word. Its cool. I am totally ok with that. Cause I think if she dared open her mouth I would have eaten her for lunch! If it were possible for a woman to have the biggest -alls, she would win! Thinks the world is there for her. Got news. The ONLY reason her children come here is because of the kids and the dad. The ONLY reason. After today...this week....she can walk and I won't cry. I know she is already pissy cause when she bounced her check I also notified the dad. She doesn't like when I do that. But he has custody too. He might pay through the court but if she isn't using her money to pay me then it becomes his problem too. So when she does stuff like this or owes money or bounces or whatever, he gets notice too. Last week I had to turn them away cause the SA child had strep! And mom thought she could bring her cause she 'forgot' the dr note to return! No. No. And NO! Guess who got to deal with that cause it was daddy day? Yep! Nice huh. I mean it ALWAYS SOMETHING!

So over this woman!!

Can you all tell I could care less about now?!

Seriously, she was mad at YOU??

Oye!

Again, (((hugs))) just for having to deal with such a PITA parent.

[Onetiredmom]

My policy is that parents have 1 hour to pick up after receiving notice that their child is sick and needs to go home. After that 1 hour mark, it's $1/minute late fee. It is their responsibility to care for their sick child, not mine. With this happening twice in two weeks, I'd put them on strict notice. One more time and you're done.

[Naptime yet?]

I can feel the anger radiating from your post! For what it's worth,

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

My policy is that parents have 1 hour to pick up after receiving notice that their child is sick and needs to go home. After that 1 hour mark, it's $1/minute late fee. It is their responsibility to care for their sick child, not mine. With this happening twice in two weeks, I'd put them on strict notice. One more time and you're done.

I implemented this, well 45 min, and it works well.

[mrsnj]

I think I might too. Although that wouldn't apply here. She shouldn't have arrived at all. Hubby did say I should charge her for drop in though. After all she wasn't due at my house AFTER school for another hour and half!

Blackcat- Yes. Yes she was. Very. She didn't like that I stepped over her. That I called her husband. That clearly he was pissed at her. That he offered to pick up when she wanted the child to stay. That if he picked up she would then have to get the child at his house and go out of her way. She was fuming herself. I could care less. I have my own thoughts I could share with her but I doubt she wants to hear them. I am sure tomorrow morning (which is a mommy day) I will either get the cold shoulder again or notice will be given cause she was THAT mad. Good luck....she can't afford to go anywhere else! Course...between the bounced check fees, the drop off fee and...its a Thur which means late pick up usually...late fee she could probably go someplace more $$. Clearly she can pay it!

[lovemykidstoo]

I think I might too. Although that wouldn't apply here. She shouldn't have arrived at all. Hubby did say I should charge her for drop in though. After all she wasn't due at my house AFTER school for another hour and half!

Blackcat- Yes. Yes she was. Very. She didn't like that I stepped over her. That I called her husband. That clearly he was pissed at her. That he offered to pick up when she wanted the child to stay. That if he picked up she would then have to get the child at his house and go out of her way. She was fuming herself. I could care less. I have my own thoughts I could share with her but I doubt she wants to hear them. I am sure tomorrow morning (which is a mommy day) I will either get the cold shoulder again or notice will be given cause she was THAT mad. Good luck....she can't afford to go anywhere else! Course...between the bounced check fees, the drop off fee and...its a Thur which means late pick up usually...late fee she could probably go someplace more $$. Clearly she can pay it!

I would give HER notice because I would be THAT mad. She is ridiculous. No way I would put up with her crap. So sorry you had to deal with her. Hugs to you!