DCP Shopping For New Daycares

[craftymissbeth]

Has she ever had him evaluated?
the screaming all day sounds to me like an autistic trait
does he scream when things change?
like when someone comes in the house or leaves?
or is it just screaming because he wants his mom?

No, her child has nothing "wrong" with her

Yes she screams when during transitions and when anything is different.
Yes she screams when someone comes in or leaves a room regardless of whether they are a new person she doesn't know or not.
It's not an I want mom type of cry... she does perfectly fine dcm drops her off and she does fine at pick up. The cry is honestly the type of scream you would hear from a child being severely injured. If she ever were to have been hurt here there would likely have been no distinction between a Help Me cry and her normal cry. That thought scared me.

[TwinKristi]

Oye... How old is DCG? I have a DCB who's now almost 2.5 and that's how he was at first. He did really well for a long time and then now the last month or so he's been screaming again. I have him lay down on his mat when he does it because it truly is a hysterical cry. Thank GOD he's a good eater and napper and mom pays well because otherwise it wouldn't be worth it.

[Unregistered]

I know it stinks when you have a difficult dck/dcp and you want to term but for whatever reason (money, no backbone, know the dcp personally, waiting for the "right" moment, etc, etc) you don't... and then THEY have the nerve to decide that THEY need to find a new daycare, on their own, without your prompting. It kind of feels like a slap in the face. You were probably thinking that you were doing them a favor by trying to work with them and not terming them first.

However, I completely agree with BlackCat. I would absolutely let them leave. Maybe even mention the post and put it on her: "Hey, DCM, I saw your post on FB and I'm sorry things don't seem to be working out with Junior here. I know it is hard to find a DC where everything just feels like a good fit. If you want, I can refer you to some others in the area."

The truth is, DCP's who have never worked in or ran a daycare themselves probably have NO IDEA what it is like to be a provider, or the real reason why you have to have the policies you have, why she can't get special treatment, why you deserve to be treated like a professional and respected for committing your time and your space and your sanity to helping to raise her child.

To her, you are the reason why she has less money left out of her paycheck at the end of the week. You are the constant reminder that having and raising a child is expensive, and a LOT OF WORK. So don't take it personally if she is unhappy with you or your program. Instead, save your energy for the happy dance you will be doing the last time she pulls out of your driveway.

[craftymissbeth]

She's 14 months. The two older kids spend lunchtime covering their ears, take a bite, cover ears, etc. They're going to be so much happier tomorrow